Was this inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

At 7 years old, it is only weird if you make it weird.

My husband likes to tell the tale of when he had a playdate at the age of 6 with a girl. They were jumping on the bed and screaming and she suggested that they show each other their privates. She showed hers, he showed his. Then they went back to jumping on the bed and screaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

Op here.

Thanks for sharing your opinion. DD has recently asked for full privacy even from me now. It reminded me of this incident at my friend's house and I started wondering whether the situation was actually appropriate or not. That's why I made this post.
I hope this is able to make myself clear to you.

Well it makes sense. You exposed her to naked non-family members and lost her trust. How sad that a 7 year old can't even trust her parent to keep her safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 7 years old, it is only weird if you make it weird.

My husband likes to tell the tale of when he had a playdate at the age of 6 with a girl. They were jumping on the bed and screaming and she suggested that they show each other their privates. She showed hers, he showed his. Then they went back to jumping on the bed and screaming.

This post just unlocked a lot of my vague and weird childhood memories of kids showing their private parts at elementary school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

Op here.

Thanks for sharing your opinion. DD has recently asked for full privacy even from me now. It reminded me of this incident at my friend's house and I started wondering whether the situation was actually appropriate or not. That's why I made this post.
I hope this is able to make myself clear to you.

Well it makes sense. You exposed her to naked non-family members and lost her trust. How sad that a 7 year old can't even trust her parent to keep her safe.

No she didn't. Reread it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

Op here.

Thanks for sharing your opinion. DD has recently asked for full privacy even from me now. It reminded me of this incident at my friend's house and I started wondering whether the situation was actually appropriate or not. That's why I made this post.
I hope this is able to make myself clear to you.

Well it makes sense. You exposed her to naked non-family members and lost her trust. How sad that a 7 year old can't even trust her parent to keep her safe.

No she didn't. Reread it.

What are you misunderstanding? OP allowed her child (clothed) to be hosed off next to a naked non-family member.

OP states before this incident her child was conscious of wanting privacy and has now progressed to wanting even privacy from her mother after this incident. That's serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:7 years old? It’s fine. They’re still so young and they don’t really know WHY we are so private about certain parts. Why the genitalia and not an elbow?

Don’t sweat it!

+1
Totally normal in many cultures- like all the Scandinavian ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why couldn't both kids be in their swim suits? Their push for both her child and yours to be naked together is so weird. I'd have been very uncomfortable with that, so yes I find it inappropriate.

I would have thought it weird too. Just leave them in suits. Plus I don’t want to see her son naked.

[Anonymous]

It’s really sick that woman exposed your daughter to a baby penis

[Anonymous]

You don’t need to worry about this. Truly, you don’t. That said, it would have been totally ok to say “let’s have the kids take turns. My kid will hang out in the front yard while your kid rinses off naked. She will then rinse off with her suit on.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 7 years old, it is only weird if you make it weird.

My husband likes to tell the tale of when he had a playdate at the age of 6 with a girl. They were jumping on the bed and screaming and she suggested that they show each other their privates. She showed hers, he showed his. Then they went back to jumping on the bed and screaming.

This post just unlocked a lot of my vague and weird childhood memories of kids showing their private parts at elementary school.

Haha, yes! I can recall doing this too around 6

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why couldn't both kids be in their swim suits? Their push for both her child and yours to be naked together is so weird. I'd have been very uncomfortable with that, so yes I find it inappropriate.

I would have thought it weird too. Just leave them in suits. Plus I don’t want to see her son naked.

Yeah, same. But whatever. I don’t think she meant to make you or your DD uncomfortable and probably there are people that wouldn’t care. Now you know for next time what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all, but then, I'm from France and couldn't care less.

Please remember that the other parent asked for your permission, so any breach of propriety is YOUR responsibility, since you approved it.

But, what if the boy was uncircumcised?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

Op here.

Thanks for sharing your opinion. DD has recently asked for full privacy even from me now. It reminded me of this incident at my friend's house and I started wondering whether the situation was actually appropriate or not. That's why I made this post.
I hope this is able to make myself clear to you.

Well it makes sense. You exposed her to naked non-family members and lost her trust. How sad that a 7 year old can't even trust her parent to keep her safe.

No she didn't. Reread it.

What are you misunderstanding? OP allowed her child (clothed) to be hosed off next to a naked non-family member.

OP states before this incident her child was conscious of wanting privacy and has now progressed to wanting even privacy from her mother after this incident. That's serious.

Op here.
I'm sure DD would have asked for privacy from me anyways whether this incident happened or not. She already didn't allow anyone to see her naked other than me, and it was only a matter of time that she would stop allowing me as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this any different than her seeing her baby brother? Would you have thought of it differently if he was having his diaper changed? I understand he is 7 but that isn’t much different anatomically.

Op again.
Yes anatomically it's the same as DD seeing her brother naked. But that is DD's brother, and the boy is not. So it's not exactly the "same".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

Op here.

Thanks for sharing your opinion. DD has recently asked for full privacy even from me now. It reminded me of this incident at my friend's house and I started wondering whether the situation was actually appropriate or not. That's why I made this post.
I hope this is able to make myself clear to you.

Well it makes sense. You exposed her to naked non-family members and lost her trust. How sad that a 7 year old can't even trust her parent to keep her safe.

- this only occurs to hyper-prudish and puritanical Americans.