Was this inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 years old? It’s fine. They’re still so young and they don’t really know WHY we are so private about certain parts. Why the genitalia and not an elbow?

Don’t sweat it!

No, it’s not. SA among children is so so common. And today with the internet, kids have unrestricted access to it younger and younger, so no seven is not so young.

I understand your concerns. But both me and my friend are aware of this too, and we do everything we can to ensure our kids safety, including keeping track of what they see on the internet and monitoring screen time. Both the kids are happy, healthy and socially normal. But every kid develop their sense of privacy at different ages. So I'm not concerned about anything as serious as SA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:7 years old? It’s fine. They’re still so young and they don’t really know WHY we are so private about certain parts. Why the genitalia and not an elbow?

Don’t sweat it!

No, it’s not. SA among children is so so common. And today with the internet, kids have unrestricted access to it younger and younger, so no seven is not so young.

I understand your concerns. But both me and my friend are aware of this too, and we do everything we can to ensure our kids safety, including keeping track of what they see on the internet and monitoring screen time. Both the kids are happy, healthy and socially normal. But every kid develop their sense of privacy at different ages. So I'm not concerned about anything as serious as SA.

Then I guess your fine but I wouldn’t want that my little girl or boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why couldn't both kids be in their swim suits? Their push for both her child and yours to be naked together is so weird. I'd have been very uncomfortable with that, so yes I find it inappropriate.

OP again, I want to clarify that she didn't really "push" anything. She wanted to clear off the sands from the kids before letting them inside the house. She always rinses her son with the hose before she lets him in every time coming from a beach. Being naked just clears off the sands better. But the moment I said DD wouldn't like it, she said she could do it in her swimsuit if that was ok. She also asked me if it was ok if her son was naked. So I want to clarify that she didn't "push" for this.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s weird bc neither of my kids would’ve ever wanted to be naked in front of a friend at age 7 (or any age over about 4) but it’s not inappropriate.

We live in a prudish society. My nephew, who lives in Europe, came to visit when he was little and we went to the beach and he wanted to be naked at the beach in front of all sorts of people. His parents thought that was fine (he was 2 at the time) but we thought it was inappropriate. Idk everyone is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why couldn't both kids be in their swim suits? Their push for both her child and yours to be naked together is so weird. I'd have been very uncomfortable with that, so yes I find it inappropriate.

When I used to hose down my little ones, they got much cleaner if they were naked. You really can't get all the sand out of a butt crack with clothes on and little kids, esp boys, don't always cooperate. Obv when they are older they can clean themselves properly in the shower by themslves.

[Anonymous]

Swimsuits carry sand and not everyone wants to vacuum up sand and get it in the shower. If you go to the beach again with them perhaps there are beach showers to get a start at desanding DD ahd her swimsuit. Or the host can wash her kid, he goes inside and you hose off yours? Get that hose inside the suit.

[Anonymous]

Use baby powder to get sand off after going to the beach. Did either child have anything to say about it? If they don’t seem to care it’s not worth stressing over.

[Anonymous]

Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inappropriate. But I don't think you need to keep thinking about it - that's almost just as weird

Op here.

Thanks for sharing your opinion. DD has recently asked for full privacy even from me now. It reminded me of this incident at my friend's house and I started wondering whether the situation was actually appropriate or not. That's why I made this post.
I hope this is able to make myself clear to you.

[Anonymous]

Totally inappropriate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why couldn't both kids be in their swim suits? Their push for both her child and yours to be naked together is so weird. I'd have been very uncomfortable with that, so yes I find it inappropriate.

OP again, I want to clarify that she didn't really "push" anything. She wanted to clear off the sands from the kids before letting them inside the house. She always rinses her son with the hose before she lets him in every time coming from a beach. Being naked just clears off the sands better. But the moment I said DD wouldn't like it, she said she could do it in her swimsuit if that was ok. She also asked me if it was ok if her son was naked. So I want to clarify that she didn't "push" for this.

She can obviously do what she wants with her own child, but it would have been better had she told you before the beach trip that she wants children to be naked outside to clean off. If avoiding sand in the house is that important to her, I would have declined the trip. By waiting until after the trip to tell you, she puts you in an awkward position.

[Anonymous]

It's not inappropriate. Different families have different levels of comfort with naked children. In Europe, this wouldn't even be blinked at. My 7 year old boy would not care at all or even really notice. Since your DD never mentioned it again -- and, for the folks fixated on SA, she was there the whole time -- I would not worry in the slightest. Your friend handled it correctly by asking, going with your preference, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why couldn't both kids be in their swim suits? Their push for both her child and yours to be naked together is so weird. I'd have been very uncomfortable with that, so yes I find it inappropriate.

OP again, I want to clarify that she didn't really "push" anything. She wanted to clear off the sands from the kids before letting them inside the house. She always rinses her son with the hose before she lets him in every time coming from a beach. Being naked just clears off the sands better. But the moment I said DD wouldn't like it, she said she could do it in her swimsuit if that was ok. She also asked me if it was ok if her son was naked. So I want to clarify that she didn't "push" for this.

She can obviously do what she wants with her own child, but it would have been better had she told you before the beach trip that she wants children to be naked outside to clean off. If avoiding sand in the house is that important to her, I would have declined the trip. By waiting until after the trip to tell you, she puts you in an awkward position.

Op.
Well we didn't really plan in advance to drop by her house. We just suddenly decided it before leaving the beach. So it's understandable that she forgot to mention it at the time.

[Anonymous]

How is this any different than her seeing her baby brother? Would you have thought of it differently if he was having his diaper changed? I understand he is 7 but that isn’t much different anatomically.

[Anonymous]

It's in the past so let it go. Next time say they're too old to be naked. Your daughter can get hosed first and go inside. Then her son can do whatever to get clean and wrap in a towel to go in.