would a kid who is quiet and academic like UVa

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a similar girl (except spent teen years in Boston) who is a freshman and isn't happy. She has met a handful of good friends but doesn't fit with the prevailing Southern, monied culture. She's not from NOVA and so didn't come in with that group either.
We keep encouraging her "it's a big school, you'll find your people" but it seems like it's less an issue of finding her people (as she has a few good friends) and more that the university culture at large is not her vibe. She's currently writing transfer apps and we'll see what happens.

Thanks! Good luck to her.
That's exactly what I am thinking- she could find her people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
It's strange to attack other people's kids, but ok.
To clarify, it's not that she doesn't like to drink or go to parties, she just isn't interested in a place where that would be the majority of what is going on and she couldnt find her own crowd. She's been drinking at pubs for about a year now.

Your child should go to school in the UK. But at the very least, if she is disdainful of Virginians, she should not go to school in Virginia.

And it’s strange that you didn’t anticipate a negative reaction to being disdainful of Virginians on a website full of Virginians, but ok.

[Anonymous]

William and Mary would be more here type of school. The kids there are not “Virginian.” More like Arlington / MoCo / Tacoma Park type kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:William and Mary would be more here type of school. The kids there are not “Virginian.” More like Arlington / MoCo / Tacoma Park type kids.

OP already said she didn't like it

[Anonymous]

Is Georgetown possible?

Look for international students she can hang with. I'm in a corporate job and the people I tend to hang out with are the expats from all over the world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

Another who thinks W&M would be a better fit.

Not a fit we do not want her here - W&M mom

We pass to the Univ of Richmond

There’s no “we,” weirdo. You don’t go there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17000+ kids there
30% Greek

But if she decides 30% is the majority, so be it. [/[b]quote]


It’s only 25% Greek and entirely off campus. My UVA kid is like OP’s kid but not judgmental. He found his people, had a fabulous time, never once stepped in a Green house, did well, got great LORs and is now in a T3 law school. All for less than $40m a year. We could not be happier

[Anonymous]

It's very bro-centric and has a lot of drinking. It probably isn't her vibe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My child, specifically. She is the opposite of a sorority girl. Very sophistocated in my personal opinion and has a lot of experiences kids her age haven't (and vice versa, as she grew up outside of the US). She seems to think it would be a big party with very kids who are very "Virginian," which she finds distainful. Doesn't everyone find their tribe?

Kids who are very Virginian…your daughter is quite judgmental.

She should visit and see what she thinks but yes of course it’s Virginian. My D who grew up in VA, said UVa was “too preppy” and a school for smart kids who like to party. Not for her. And we have nothing against UVA. Spouse is an alum!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child, specifically. She is the opposite of a sorority girl. Very sophistocated in my personal opinion and has a lot of experiences kids her age haven't (and vice versa, as she grew up outside of the US). She seems to think it would be a big party with very kids who are very "Virginian," which she finds distainful. Doesn't everyone find their tribe?

She probably would.

I don't know what it means to be "very Virginian" however. Is she not from Virginia? Because, what a peculiar thought process to prejudge others with such contempt. Does she think her shit doesn't stink or something?

UVA isn't that big. It was a party scene -- all colleges and universities do. Greek life plays a big role, but it's hardly central and people who aren't involved in it do find their own people and interests.

I'd strongly recommend to her that she knock that chip off her shoulder, though. If she goes to UVA or any other college for that matter with such a chip on her shoulder, she's going to be in for a rude awakening. No one likes arrogance like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a similar girl (except spent teen years in Boston) who is a freshman and isn't happy. She has met a handful of good friends but doesn't fit with the prevailing Southern, monied culture. She's not from NOVA and so didn't come in with that group either.
We keep encouraging her "it's a big school, you'll find your people" but it seems like it's less an issue of finding her people (as she has a few good friends) and more that the university culture at large is not her vibe. She's currently writing transfer apps and we'll see what happens.

Thanks! Good luck to her.
That's exactly what I am thinking- she could find her people

What schools are they applying to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

Another who thinks W&M would be a better fit.

Not a fit we do not want her here - W&M mom

We pass to the Univ of Richmond

There’s no “we,” weirdo. You don’t go there.

Yawn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child, specifically. She is the opposite of a sorority girl. Very sophistocated in my personal opinion and has a lot of experiences kids her age haven't (and vice versa, as she grew up outside of the US). She seems to think it would be a big party with very kids who are very "Virginian," which she finds distainful. Doesn't everyone find their tribe?

Kids who are very Virginian…your daughter is quite judgmental.

+1
What on earth does that even mean? Should other kids find her very whatever and judge her for it? Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

She didn't like William and Mary at all when she visited, but couldn't clearly articulate why

Same with my kids, but they felt the same way about UVA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like William & Mary could be a good fit for your quiet academic?

+1

Another who thinks W&M would be a better fit.

Not a fit we do not want her here - W&M mom

We pass to the Univ of Richmond

There’s no “we,” weirdo. You don’t go there.

Doesn't mean I want someone clearly judgmental to go to my daughters school