Disruptive kids in class

[Anonymous]

This is why we send our daughters to all girls school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why we send our daughters to all girls school.

Good point. But which ones start before 3rd grade?

[Anonymous]

OP, if the parents have been called in twice, your daughter likely won’t have to deal with this next year. The boys will either get the support they need or be counseled out. Remember, if the private school is really, really expensive, fewer people can afford full-pay, so they have a smaller pool of applicants to pull from. Maybe these were the best behaved applicants they could find. Nobody is throwing chairs, so you’re still better off than public school. Furthermore, public school can’t ask kids like this to leave. It sounds like your school might. I’d stay at least one more year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are we being punked?

Possibly. The OP smacks of AI

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why we send our daughters to all girls school.

Good point. But which ones start before 3rd grade?

Stone Ridge

[Anonymous]

We have a child who was diagnosed with ADHD this fall after disruptive behavior in school. We put them on medication right away and things have substantially improved. We aren’t sure the school is the right place for them so are looking at other options. We have amazing health insurance and were able to begin working with specialists a few days after the school alerted us to the issue.

You have no idea what’s going on with these kids. It has been so hard for us to manage this and we are very on top of it and aren’t deal with issues with insurance and waiting lists. Some medication takes 4-6 weeks to make a difference. I know it’s very very hard for your daughter but it is also very very hard for the children and families who are trying to figure out how best to move forward. I am so grateful for the empathy and support shown by a few parents who continue to show up for our family and child. I would hope your daughter and your family would be able to recognize your privilege of being neurotypical and learn some empathy.

[Anonymous]

They're brats, not ADHD.
Id figure out a way to tell the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They're brats, not ADHD.
Id figure out a way to tell the school.

Definitely take advice from this person. They seem thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

OP if you do anything start with the teacher. Do not go higher based on your daughter’s words alone. There is a girl at our school who was going home and complaining to no end about multiple kids, including mine, apparently. When we talked to the teacher, there was a kernel of truth but the majority of the complaints were exaggerated or entirely made up. The mom believed her entirely and while we avoid them best we can it sounds like she has repeated this several times and has no friends. So just take it with a grain of salt.

Also you might want to keep in mind your child may one day be the kid who needs a little grace or some extra help in one subject or something and the other parents will be complaining about how they pay all this money and your slow kid is holding everyone back…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a child who was diagnosed with ADHD this fall after disruptive behavior in school. We put them on medication right away and things have substantially improved. We aren’t sure the school is the right place for them so are looking at other options. We have amazing health insurance and were able to begin working with specialists a few days after the school alerted us to the issue.

You have no idea what’s going on with these kids. It has been so hard for us to manage this and we are very on top of it and aren’t deal with issues with insurance and waiting lists. Some medication takes 4-6 weeks to make a difference. I know it’s very very hard for your daughter but it is also very very hard for the children and families who are trying to figure out how best to move forward. I am so grateful for the empathy and support shown by a few parents who continue to show up for our family and child. I would hope your daughter and your family would be able to recognize your privilege of being neurotypical and learn some empathy.

I could have written this exactly. As a parent of an adhd kid who is blessed with good insurance, it is still a daily struggle to coordinate care, titrate the medication, communicate with the school, and deal with medical rebounds in the evening… on top of having a full-time job and another kid to take care of. Our child has made big improvements in his private school, but still has rough moments. We are doing our absolute best to support our child and ensure he is not disrupting his peers in class, but it is a non-linear and complex process that may not be evident to outsiders.

[Anonymous]

Not all disruptive behaviors are ADHD. My kids’ school handbook states that teachers have a right to teach, students have a right to learn, and no student may infringe on the rights of a teacher or another student. By the time children are old enough to be in a classroom, they are old enough to not interrupt a teacher’s lesson by shouting “6, 7.” If they can’t behave appropriately, they shouldn’t be in the classroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all disruptive behaviors are ADHD. My kids’ school handbook states that teachers have a right to teach, students have a right to learn, and no student may infringe on the rights of a teacher or another student. By the time children are old enough to be in a classroom, they are old enough to not interrupt a teacher’s lesson by shouting “6, 7.” If they can’t behave appropriately, they shouldn’t be in the classroom.

And where would you have them be? My child has made tremendous progress this year. One bad day means they shouldn’t be in school? What if your kid had disrupted the classroom- would you be ok with them being counseled out immediately? You seem like someone who had never been around children- you think 5 year olds (old enough to be in a classroom) are going to sit still and never call out? It sounds like you got lucky with a robot child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a child who was diagnosed with ADHD this fall after disruptive behavior in school. We put them on medication right away and things have substantially improved. We aren’t sure the school is the right place for them so are looking at other options. We have amazing health insurance and were able to begin working with specialists a few days after the school alerted us to the issue.

You have no idea what’s going on with these kids. It has been so hard for us to manage this and we are very on top of it and aren’t deal with issues with insurance and waiting lists. Some medication takes 4-6 weeks to make a difference. I know it’s very very hard for your daughter but it is also very very hard for the children and families who are trying to figure out how best to move forward. I am so grateful for the empathy and support shown by a few parents who continue to show up for our family and child. I would hope your daughter and your family would be able to recognize your privilege of being neurotypical and learn some empathy.

I could have written this exactly. As a parent of an adhd kid who is blessed with good insurance, it is still a daily struggle to coordinate care, titrate the medication, communicate with the school, and deal with medical rebounds in the evening… on top of having a full-time job and another kid to take care of. Our child has made big improvements in his private school, but still has rough moments. We are doing our absolute best to support our child and ensure he is not disrupting his peers in class, but it is a non-linear and complex process that may not be evident to outsiders.

I’m PP who wrote that above. You sound like a great parent. It’s so hard. You are doing an amazing job for your kid.

[Anonymous]

Complain to the school OP. Usually kids with behavior issues are counseled out, unless their parents are large donors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why we send our daughters to all girls school.

Good point. But which ones start before 3rd grade?

Only SR, I think. But Holton starts in 3rd and a lot of girls come from other privates for this exact reason. We started Holton in 3rd because of it.