In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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01/14/2026 10:49

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

OP, I say this kindly and with good intent ... it sounds like you have some hang-ups about sex. You feeling like a piece of meat is YOUR feeling, based on some complex feelings that you have about the act. You are projecting your feelings onto what you assume he is thinking. Even your use of term "piece of meat" shows that you have some negative association with being desired. I think you need to explore why his desire makes you feel cheap. It might not be him, it might be something in you.

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01/14/2026 10:56

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:OP, I say this kindly and with good intent ... it sounds like you have some hang-ups about sex. You feeling like a piece of meat is YOUR feeling, based on some complex feelings that you have about the act. You are projecting your feelings onto what you assume he is thinking. Even your use of term "piece of meat" shows that you have some negative association with being desired. I think you need to explore why his desire makes you feel cheap. It might not be him, it might be something in you.

Agree with this.

I've been married for 15 years and have a really nice husband, and he also goes into a different state of mind during sex. I would never frame it as being a "piece of meat." It's a good thing.

For men, the physical act of sex is very tied up with love.

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01/14/2026 11:15

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Anonymous

Sounds like you have watched too many romantic movies or read too much chick lit.

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01/14/2026 11:30

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:OP, I say this kindly and with good intent ... it sounds like you have some hang-ups about sex. You feeling like a piece of meat is YOUR feeling, based on some complex feelings that you have about the act. You are projecting your feelings onto what you assume he is thinking. Even your use of term "piece of meat" shows that you have some negative association with being desired. I think you need to explore why his desire makes you feel cheap. It might not be him, it might be something in you.

That was never in dispute from the jump. That's exactly what OP's concerned about

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01/14/2026 11:35

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:Do you do anything else?

Op is probably thinking “what else is there?!?!”

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01/14/2026 11:40

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Maybe op wants the encounter to feel more personalized, not just like a generic act that would be the same no matter who was there.

Maybe more eye contact and sensuality, not just sexuality.

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01/14/2026 11:58

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Anonymous

I'm a bit confused at what you are looking for?

Do you need more or less dialogue?
A specific type of dialogue like more I love you versus you're so hot?

Do you not feel like you're in it together and it's more about him proving how much of a man he is?

What is it you are desiring?

Have you tried talking to him about it ? How did he respond?

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01/14/2026 12:05

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Anonymous

Romance novels and the like have fundamentally broken women

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01/14/2026 12:22

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Anonymous

This thread proves women will always find something to complain about.

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01/14/2026 12:30

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Anonymous

That sounds like an absolute dream come true tbh!

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01/14/2026 12:31

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

OP, have you tried using your words?

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01/14/2026 16:31

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Do you think this is a message fromyour body that you don’t actually like him as much as you want to like him?

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01/14/2026 18:03

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:I know what OP means. If you’ve been with a man who was really connected with you and intimacy was a given with sex, then future partners seem kind of meh if they can’t do it. Sex without intimacy can be good, but never great.

Yeah,
He is like a dancer concerned about his technique.

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01/14/2026 19:39

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

So this yet another post of how a woman simply cannot be happy and content with what appears to be a pretty amazing partner.

FML