In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes
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Anonymous
| There are a lot of women in their fifties who have trouble finding me who appreciate their bodies. Be thankful. It doesn't sound like he doesn't appreciate you for other qualities. It just sounds like he really appreciates your body a lot. That's great. |
Anonymous
| Try more eye contact? Move more slowly? Use his body sometimes? I dunno. Sounds like he’s not a great lover tbh. The heat and connection makes it worthwhile. |
Anonymous
| A man would never come here with this type of complaint. Some women just like to find drama even when there is none. |
Anonymous
| "the thoughts that i assume are going through his head while he is f' me do not perfectly align with my fantasy. this is a real problem that i need to think through" |
Anonymous
| Some people take sex very seriously and others don’t. When there’s a mismatch you get this kind of feeling. OP, I’d say enjoy him and perhaps you’ll connect more deeply on occasion. But only you know if you’re well matched or not. |
Anonymous
| I know what OP means. If you’ve been with a man who was really connected with you and intimacy was a given with sex, then future partners seem kind of meh if they can’t do it. Sex without intimacy can be good, but never great. |
Anonymous
what do you mean by that? he was in love with you or what? |
Anonymous
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Hmmm I was ready to flame OP but I wonder if she can provide more detail?
Maybe the guy is more of a jackrabbit and doesn’t have that hot/deliberate passion? |
Anonymous
| Please consider yourself lucky. My last three boyfriends were all selfish in bed. They had little else in common and were all great in other ways. I think you are maybe way over-thinking this. |
Anonymous
| I really do not understand people like OP. Her post could have been written in Greek and it would make the same amount of sense to me. No idea what on Earth she is describing. |
Anonymous
| I have this "problem" and consider myself incredibly lucky to be with a man who both loves me as a person and is obsessed with my body. I'm in my early 50s and never expected to find something like this. OP, enjoy it! |
Anonymous
This plum is too ripe! |
Anonymous
Aww. Share your OLD profile and we'll help you spruce it up. |
Anonymous
+1 Sometimes sex is just sex. Enjoy feeling wanted, and the consequent 'throw down.' Many middle aged women would kill for this! |
Anonymous
| OP has TikTok brainrot |