In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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01/12/2026 13:57

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

I have a wonderful lover. He's affectionate and respectful and we talk openly about what we want in bed. And the we do it. He brings me to O most times or at least always tries. But sometimes I feel he's so caught up in my body and what he's doing to it and his excitement he forgets to that my soul and brain is in body with him too. Anyone else feel this way or should I just feel lucky he's as good as he is?

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01/12/2026 14:27

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Do you do anything else?

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01/12/2026 14:33

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Yes, we've been friends for 30 years. We go out to dinner, to concerts, meet with mutual friends. He's great outside of bed too. But he's very, very eager and excited in bed. I guess I should be happy about that bc we're in our 50s.

PS We're both divorced. I don't want to marry again. I like living alone. He's raising two teenage girls.

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01/12/2026 15:10

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Enjoy the D or move on.

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01/12/2026 15:37

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

ZOMG OP release the poor guy so he can find someone who appreciates him!!

“Help I’m with a wonderful guy who is too in love with my body.”

This is the kind of nonsense I thought about when I was dating my husband at 23. Twenty years later I would die for that feeling!!!

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01/12/2026 15:48

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Anonymous

Sounds like he's hyper sexual, which is a coping mechanism/ escape. That's why you're not connecting because he's compulsively focking. While it sounds good, in theory, in practice it leaves you feeling used.

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01/12/2026 15:53

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Trollin

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01/12/2026 15:54

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Is your steak too juicy? Your lobster too buttery?

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01/12/2026 15:56

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Can you identify exactly what you want to be different? The issue you're talking about sounds like a bedroom issue and I'm wondering in what ways you want him to be more connected to your mind and soul while having sex.

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01/12/2026 16:02

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Anonymous

He is, as you say, your lover. He maybe doesn't love you. Is that what you feel missing in bed?

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01/12/2026 16:04

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful lover. He's affectionate and respectful and we talk openly about what we want in bed. And the we do it. He brings me to O most times or at least always tries. But sometimes I feel he's so caught up in my body and what he's doing to it and his excitement he forgets to that my soul and brain is in body with him too. Anyone else feel this way or should I just feel lucky he's as good as he is?

Your soul and brain are what make you attractive to him during the non-sexy times, OP. Sex is animalistic. Most people would complain of feeling like a piece of meat if they were treated as if they were good only for sex. But if he's otherwise engaging with you outside of the bedroom, I'm not sure I see the problem so much. Or are you one of these people who think sex has to always be some deep, spiritual thing?

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01/12/2026 16:06

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's hyper sexual, which is a coping mechanism/ escape. That's why you're not connecting because he's compulsively focking. While it sounds good, in theory, in practice it leaves you feeling used.

Did you miss the part about the dates, concerts, life outside the bedroom being great ? OP seems really confused, wants more but doesn’t want to be married again. I think she just wants to complain, lots of women like this. She should take a break for a couple of months and evaluate in a vacuum.

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01/12/2026 16:43

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Anonymous

Sounds ideal.

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01/12/2026 16:44

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

OP needs some REAL problems.

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01/12/2026 16:58

Subject: In an affectionate, respectful relationship but still feel like a piece of meat sometimes

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Anonymous

Op, this is ridiculous. Seems like you got it too easy and that's why don't appreciate what you have.

If you really think that above him then please let him go because what you are doing is manipulation. Who pays for the dates - you or him?