He hasn't had sex in 6 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex addiction. Hes a sex addict.

Only an extremely stupid person would think she could diagnose this just by what is posted. I’m worried this person is so stupid they may forget to breathe and die.

self-resolving problem?

[Anonymous]

How’d that happen unless he was married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He might be low drive. He might be lying. He might have spent that time working on himself, in more ways than one.

He also might have been scared of getting hurt. After my divorce, I dated several women who had really long dry spells. 8 years, 3 years and 2 years. They were all very horny once our relationships started. I think the one who said she'd been celibate for 8; years just masturbated a lot. The other two said their sex drives had shut down almost completely and they went years without sex or masturbation. (One of them told me she started masturbating a lot after she met me.) These women also had gone through some very difficult situations with their exes. The guys had been mentally or even physically abusive. The women admitted they were scared of being with new men.

A man can have similar emotions, though I think that happens less often than it does with women.

WOW that’s sad. But it’s true that relationships can be fatally risky for women. More so for women with limited options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was with a woman recently who had about the same dry spell. She had a long-term boyfriend and they broke up during Covid (had difficult meeting up due to restrictions), then she never found another guy to date until now. I dont' think she was a sex addict, just was focused on her career and didnt' have a lot of time for dating.

wow! that's a lot and I wonder why she gave up on it. Sex is not that difficult for women and for her to not getting it would be more behind that reason.

I know a lot of people who hit extended dry spells during Covid when it was impossible to meet new men. single girls I know were down bad.

[Anonymous]

Being honest, a guy who has gone six years without it would no longer know what he's doing (if he ever did). Also, why is he so undesirable that he couldn't find any women willing to sleep with him?
Are you willing to endure multiple awkward and o-free sessions while he's on training wheels?
I wouldn't. But if that's your thing...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How’d that happen unless he was married?

Married or
Tool that no longer works

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being honest, a guy who has gone six years without it would no longer know what he's doing (if he ever did). Also, why is he so undesirable that he couldn't find any women willing to sleep with him?
Are you willing to endure multiple awkward and o-free sessions while he's on training wheels?
I wouldn't. But if that's your thing...

Oh, good lord. Women aren't that complicated. Needing a "trained man" to get you off is a skill issue on the part of the woman. Grown women can use their words and ask for what they want/need in bed just fine, we don't need to wait for the right man to show us how our bodies work.

What regressive mess is this?

[Anonymous]

The misandry on this thread is pretty telling. I could easily go 6+ years without dealing with most of the mentalities expressed in the replies here.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being honest, a guy who has gone six years without it would no longer know what he's doing (if he ever did). Also, why is he so undesirable that he couldn't find any women willing to sleep with him?
Are you willing to endure multiple awkward and o-free sessions while he's on training wheels?
I wouldn't. But if that's your thing...

Oh, good lord. Women aren't that complicated. Needing a "trained man" to get you off is a skill issue on the part of the woman. Grown women can use their words and ask for what they want/need in bed just fine, we don't need to wait for the right man to show us how our bodies work.

What regressive mess is this?

I'm glad there's women like you out there willing to do the educating and give the guy the skill and experience he needs. Me? I'm not that patient. A guy who doesn't know what he's doing is an instant turn-off. To each her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being honest, a guy who has gone six years without it would no longer know what he's doing (if he ever did). Also, why is he so undesirable that he couldn't find any women willing to sleep with him?
Are you willing to endure multiple awkward and o-free sessions while he's on training wheels?
I wouldn't. But if that's your thing...

Oh, good lord. Women aren't that complicated. Needing a "trained man" to get you off is a skill issue on the part of the woman. Grown women can use their words and ask for what they want/need in bed just fine, we don't need to wait for the right man to show us how our bodies work.

What regressive mess is this?

I'm glad there's women like you out there willing to do the educating and give the guy the skill and experience he needs. Me? I'm not that patient. A guy who doesn't know what he's doing is an instant turn-off. To each her own.

The expectation in your comment is that all women are the same, so a man either knows "what he's doing" or not. The pp who started this mess alleged that this knowledge isn't like riding an (actual) bike; "a guy who has gone six years without it would no longer know what he's doing". I disagree with both of these positions.

Yes, I'm completely willing to communicate my likes and dislikes with my partner, which is probably why I've never had bad sex. It doesn't require "patience", just a simple conversation, which is a playful part of foreplay, not a chore. Laying back like a pillow princess and expecting a new partner to just know what you like is an option, but it seems like a quick road to dissatisfaction to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He might be low drive. He might be lying. He might have spent that time working on himself, in more ways than one.

He also might have been scared of getting hurt. After my divorce, I dated several women who had really long dry spells. 8 years, 3 years and 2 years. They were all very horny once our relationships started. I think the one who said she'd been celibate for 8; years just masturbated a lot. The other two said their sex drives had shut down almost completely and they went years without sex or masturbation. (One of them told me she started masturbating a lot after she met me.) These women also had gone through some very difficult situations with their exes. The guys had been mentally or even physically abusive. The women admitted they were scared of being with new men.

A man can have similar emotions, though I think that happens less often than it does with women.

WOW that’s sad. But it’s true that relationships can be fatally risky for women. More so for women with limited options

it could be risky for men too. why only women? A friend of mine got cheated on by his wife with a 20 year older colleague of hers and he hasn't dated for las 10 years. Ouch!