| Somehow my kid’s T1 middle school has a whole range of clubs and activities available to anyone who wants to join. There are also more rigorous cut-based teams and activities but there is plenty for any kid to do. |
Growing up I moved around a lot. My experience was that my teachers’ wholly objective and fact based assessment of my achievements seemed to vary surprisingly by how public my dad’s job was (he was in a senior role that was in the news). I also experienced all white G&T classes where Jewish parents threatened legal action to have their high achieving kids included, and teachers responded by having kids diagram sentences like “Jesus is Lord.” I trust most school administrators about as far as I can throw them. |
It’s an industry built on people who have an Ed D and demand to be called “doctor.” It’s not like we don’t know what we’re getting. |
I will say in DCPS it is very difficult to get a feel for how my kids compare to the rest of the kids. The school rarely shares the information they have that compares my kid to others and instead just compares my kid to mushy "meeting expectations" benchmarks on the 1-4 scale. CAPE testing was one of the few times I got information that explicitly compared my kid to others. Another was a rare time that the school shared the distribution of iready diagnostic scores, and that was only because parents were complaining about a change in curriculum and the school wanted to push back and show that scores increased. I realized after awhile I'd get better info from my kids because they know what reading and math groups they are in. Even if the teachers won't tell us whether our kids are in the highest group and just call the groups different cutesy animal names, the kids know where they stand. |
Teachers have no interest in telling parents "hey, you have an above average kid, with 15 kids above and 10 below in this classroom." that's not a pleasant or appropriate conversation to have with a parent. However, teachers do know how the kids rank, and they use that information all the time. |
Right. But I was responding to the gripe that parents do not have a good grasp on where their kid stands and make unreasonable requests. If the school only compares the kid to benchmarks, it's really hard to tell, especially if the kid is performing well against the benchmarks at a school with other good students. They could be average, they could be close to the top of the class, and either way still get a 3. |
OP here. THANK YOU, PP! My kid is actually high achieving and the one thing teachers always comment on are his inclusive friendship style and leadership qualities. He’s fairly popular, if on the geeky side, and up to this year, was having a great time in school. And we are not poor, but yes, I do wonder what the kids whose parents cannot get involved are missing. I talked to some other parents on the playground last night and it turns out this has been noticed by others too. We agreed to talk again and say something to admin. |
Despite some of the pretty mean spirited comments by people cosplaying as teachers there are some useful comments but… this comment pretty much confirms that the leadership club is a “center for kids who we would like not to crime good and do other things good too.” |
They should be advertised. Kids should know that if they don’t do well, they don’t get access to opportunities. They shouldn’t find out about the opportunities third hand because teachers don’t want to deal with kids and parents. The bigotry of low expectations! |
Again, many KIDS will know about these opportunities. My kid's school announces the results of things others have mentioned -- Math Bowl, Google Math Comp, Battle of the Books -- on the loudspeaker during morning announcements. Parents not knowing and kids not knowing are two different things. For all the people bashing teachers, keep in mind teachers would be the ones ultimately picking no matter what selection metric was used. Yes, schools should have clubs/opportunities for all kids. My school has plenty: 3 different choirs even for kids who like to sing. But that's very different than whether it's OK for schools to have exclusive clubs that they don't tell all parents about or have formal auditions for and, to me, the answer there is a resounding yes. Even if OP is sad her kid didn't get picked. |
Kids caring and parents caring also seem like different things -- kids seem to just accept this stuff, but ive seen fellow parents really freak out when they find out their kids isn't included in something like an enrichment. and actually, many times these opportunities happen, are amazing, and then are taken away, and I wonder if some of that is because the other parents are complaining. |
Thr standardized tests in DCPS give you percent rankings of kids against all kids who take the test at that age. But you won’t get grade level data comparisons against other kids in the school. Quite frankly that’s inappropriate and can become identifiable. No teacher will tell you that, and it’s not your business. But my kid’s iReady tells me where they rank against all kids, and that’s great data. |
These problems would be solved with transparency. If you simply told parents "this is what is available, here is how selection happens" then you wouldn't have the problem of parents finding out later on that there is some opportunity their kid never had access to and then feeling it was unfair because they have no idea how kids were chosen and whether it was just a question of signing up by a certain date or a teacher selection or expressing an interest or what. But schools don't like being transparent about things like this because that would mean they'd have to be accountable for it. If they told parents "they is based on academic performance" then parents might ask how that is assessed and what the cutoffs were for inclusion, which, if the school is actually cherry picking students based on teacher favorites and not using consistent metrics. Schools will try to tell you "oh no it's better if this process is totally opaque and happens without parents knowing because parents just complain and are a problem." But if you have a fair process using clearly articulated metrics that are consistently applied, parents will accept it. It's just often there are no clear metrics and the process is intentionally vague in order to ensure teachers can include kids they like and exclude kids they don't. |
Yes, instead you'd have parents lobbying their teachers and complaining their kids wasn't selected. Sometimes it's not about a specific cut-off, it's about teachers exercising their discretion. That's also what happens with cut sports, the roles in the school musical and basically everything else in life... and that's OK. The notion that everything can be broken down into a rubric with black and white performance selection metrics is crazy and the fact that some parents will expect it is what makes schools stop volunteering information and, worse yet, opportunities. |
You actually DO get CAPE data that specifically compares you to the other students in your kid's grade at your kid's school. I was kind of startled when I got my first score report, but that's exactly what's available. I have to assume everyone here saying you never get this information has very young kids who have never taken CAPE. |