If you married a momma's boy, how is it going?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call my husband a reformed mamas boy. We met young and dated a while before getting married, and I would not have married him if he was still what I considered a mamas boy.

The biggest red flags I noticed early on were deferring to his mom against me. I recently read a thread on reddit about a man trying to control his wifes birth plan because his mom made some comments about it. So instead of trusting his wife and their doctors, he tried to manipulate her into doing what his mother said. For her own birth! Good lord I feel bad for some of the women out there. Stay strong!

I remember that movie! ^ Had Jessica Lange in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you outlive his mom, then he will probably transfer that doting on to you. Will you like that, or then complain about feeling smothered?

NP here. This is a huge lie. Clearly you have not seen what happens when a deeply enmeshed mama's boy loses his mother.

If OP outlives his mother, then he will be extremely resentful towards OP for having lived when he'd rather OP be the one who died while his mother remained alive. The fact that OP had nothing to do with his mother's death won't change his anger towards OP for being the wrong female authority figure who survived. He will also deify his mother and use that as an excuse to further hate OP for not comparing to that false image. Last, the grief of his mother's death will break the dam holding back all the suppressed anger he had towards his mother for dominating him. But because he has been trained never to be angry with his mother, he will project this anger onto OP and hate OP even more.

Ask me how I know. Men who are too weak and self-infantilizing to draw healthy boundaries with their mothers are and will always be worthless. They are damaged beyond repair, having been trained literally from birth to be broken.

[Anonymous]

Well, its not like men aren't capable of simultaneously keeping good relationships with both their mothers and wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does a boy become a momma’s boy? Asking for a friend..

Not having a masculine dad around. Boy being raised by a Karen or single mother usually causes it.

Or father is around but not emotionally available to mother or son. Mother turns to son for emotional support and companionship.