Most important factor for strong sex life

[Anonymous]

The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read smutty romance books and they do honestly get me in the mood. Paired with excellent foreplay, and that’s the key for me.

+1 I read a favorite excerpt if I'm short on time and know he's wanting it.

[Anonymous]

If it’s a priority, putting family resources behind it.

Being someone your partner wants to have sex with.

[Anonymous]

Not being married.

[Anonymous]

Quitting my job which finally gave me some time for myself (outside of the house, kids, and husband). I could never find the balance between work and life. Afterwards, I had more energy, less stress, and more time to focus on the house, kids, and husband. Of course, we are comfortable on one income, but this was the key factor for me.

[Anonymous]

If you both work, you need to find somewhere to dump the kids regularly.

By the time our oldest gets to bed each night, we are spent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

This is me. I think the key is being comfortable with your body and knowing what it likes to feel, and a sex partner who does, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

I think there might be something to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Physical fitness and personal hygiene.

I don’t know that it’s this. Nearly everyone on here (and everyone I know IRL) who complains about a sexless marriage describes themselves and their spouse as being physically fit and attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

I don’t disagree but I’m troubled that you describe such a woman as a “freak.” This is a large part of the problem. Women are socialized NOT to learn how to please themselves, or have a dirty mind, and when they do, you call them a freak (and probably a “slut” they you would bang but not marry if you met her in college). Yet, that’s who you wish you married 20 years later when your “nice girl” wife is over sex.

Maybe we need to think about raising boys and men not to be so judgmental about women who are comfortable so the their bodies and sex, so there are more of them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a big p nis. [/quote

+8]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

Honestly? This is closer to the average woman than you seem to think. My freak flag flies higher than most of the men I've met; y'all have trouble keeping up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

I don’t disagree but I’m troubled that you describe such a woman as a “freak.” This is a large part of the problem. Women are socialized NOT to learn how to please themselves, or have a dirty mind, and when they do, you call them a freak (and probably a “slut” they you would bang but not marry if you met her in college). Yet, that’s who you wish you married 20 years later when your “nice girl” wife is over sex.

Maybe we need to think about raising boys and men not to be so judgmental about women who are comfortable so the their bodies and sex, so there are more of them!

Amen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hot wife

Ok then also hot husband. Sex is a two person sport.

[Anonymous]

Healthy sex drives.