Finally separated from cheating man child husband
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Anonymous
Yea, him cheating on her, drinking all night, carousing, wouldn't impact her mental well being at all, nope, no sireee.. 
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Anonymous
How do you expect people to deal with an abusive spouse over multiple years? Yes, he probably should have just left her years ago, but that's hard on everyone in different ways. |
Anonymous
The cheating ex has entered the room. |
Anonymous
Read her own posts. She basically admitted it. It's particularly telling that she is mad that he left her. |
Anonymous
DP. Op's story is not adding up for me either. His friends and family helped him cheat on her yet everyone who knows her knows she is not abusive. Why would they do that? |
Anonymous
I think it adds up perfectly. It just doesn't look good for the OP. |
Anonymous
Because they’re all pieces of $hit? Birds of a feather and all that…. |
Anonymous
| OP, you’ve been posting about him for years. We begged and pleaded with you to leave the piece of utter s**t, and you couldn’t bring yourself to do it, because you were so scared of being alone. He did you an enormous favor!! You need to unpack it with a therapist now - why you stayed and why you are confused. You seem to be believing his narrative and doubting yourself, despite living through his toxicity day after day. You have to let go of what his friends and family think; it’s meaningless. |
Anonymous
Don't focus on this, just move on. Maybe you were abusive, maybe you weren't. He was wrong to cheat, obviously. But now you're out and you should do some work on yourself and figure out what you want before getting into another relationship. Your marriage was toxic, which I'm not saying you are wholly responsible for, but you need to get to a healthy space before moving on to someone else. Cut the cords and don't look back. Wondering why he said that and what he meant is useless unless you're willing to really own your role in what happened. Again, I'm not saying you are to blame here, but being defensive over the words of a man who cheated on and left you is a waste of time. Do some soul searching and learn to let go of the past. I wish you the best of luck in your new life. |
Anonymous
Yeah, work on untangling this. You stayed for so long with someone like that. Why? |
Anonymous
| I’m sure you guys had a fight about something as couples do (especially when one of the members of the couple is a man baby!), and he ran off to one of his friends or one of the women he cheated with crying about how awful you were and they were like, “oh you don’t deserve it, you’re so amazing, you’re being abused,” and he just ran with it. The good thing is without kids or property, the divorce should be quick, and you can quickly wash your hands of this guy and his crappy family and friends. You definitely need a good therapist though. |
Anonymous
It sounds like she wanted to continue her abuse, probably out of anger to the world. |
Anonymous
Op here. It is really irresponsible of you to accuse me of abuse when I’m in the throes of dealing with my husband who left me after serially cheating and emotional abusing me. I’m already losing my mind and your comments don’t help. |
Anonymous
How old are you? It doesn’t seem like you understand that if your name is on the lease you’re legally responsible for rent. It does not matter if it’s only his stuff that’s there. |
Anonymous
When everyone around you seems to think you were abusive, you should take that to heart. There's obviously some truth to it. |