Has your freshman made friends?
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Anonymous
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One thing about making friends fast as a freshman - it doesn't always work out. As other posters noted, kids are all about glomming onto someone, anyone those first few weeks. I remember becoming overnight besties with a girl in my dorm - doing everything together that first month or so. She turned out to be not a very nice person, and once I realized that, I made more of an effort to meet other people.
Those first friends are often just for convenience. OP, can't your daughter and her roommate do things together? |
Anonymous
OP here and this wasn't me replying. It's a private university. |
Anonymous
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My son is busy and plays video games with floor mates, goes to meals. Trying out for club sports. Going to gym.
These are not BFFs but he is happy and not lonely. Does not need to come home. He’s 4 hours away. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think she’s made actual friends, no. She’s met some people, including a couple she seems to like. Friends, though? That’s different. I agree that a lot of those early friendships don’t last. It’s a weird time for everyone. |
Anonymous
| She was presumably doing some combination of clubs, service projects, sports, etc. in high school; has she gotten involved with clubs (etc.) at her school? There's usually an "activities fair" at the beginning of the semester, likely past already, but perhaps there's a clubs directory that she could use to find a few activities? That way there isn't the dynamic of getting turned down from meals, as everyone's off to go collect bugs or eat cheese or talk about movies or whatever. |
Anonymous
Vanderbilt? |
Anonymous
Oh no. Give it time. Is it the people? |
Anonymous
| I agree with suggesting she join a club. My DD joined a community service club and a women's workout group and both were a great way to feel connected and start meeting people. And I'm sorry - it's tough to hear this from your child and does take some time. |
Anonymous
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Sorry your daughter is struggling OP.
Mine is living her best life it seems. She met some people through mutual friends in June, loves her hall mates and did an orientation trip prior to the start of classes. I think the effort to connect with people prior to the start of school really helped. |
Anonymous
Why is it a secret which school she attends? Geez |
Anonymous
| DS is doing great at a SEC school but helps that he is pledging and has a club sport. |
Anonymous
Not OP, but why does it matter what school? Knowing the school tells you nothing. There are happy and unhappy kids at every school. You don’t need to know the school to make suggestions of things OP's kid can try to make friends faster. |
Anonymous
May I ask which resco? I know not all of them are super proactive. my daughter was having a hard time, even after camp Yale where it seems like a lot of friends were made. She started making an effort to go to the froco duty nights even if the theme didn’t naturally appeal to her. She met a few kids who were in the same boat and they hang out a lot now. I don’t know if they’ll be best friends but she has people to eat with, etc. |
Anonymous
| It's early, OP! Encourage her to sign up for clubs, intramurals, etc. Friendships will happen, it just will take more than a couple of weeks. |
Anonymous
Already? Give it a chance! |