I respect Bruce Willis' wife for having him receive 24/7 care in separate home

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a novel idea? My aunt did this with my uncle. I know lots of other who have done the same.

It's not novel, but she is getting a ton of judgment and backlash. My own mother was so afraid of being judged for putting my dad in Memory care that she kept him at home with 24-7 caregivers until she completely lost her mind and was lashing out at him. It was better for everyone when he was properly placed. He didn't know anyone and didn't seem to feel abandoned, just calmer and relieved and he enjoyed visits with these well-rested strangers. She could take more care of herself too, but she was so obsessed with keeping up appearances that the shame overwhelmed her. She even commented how much happier he was (until he declined more), but that just made her feel guilty. Caregivers are not superhuman. I did this post to say no judgment, just accolades for Bruce Willis's wife. It's healthier for everyone involved and that includes Bruce. The chaos of his adorable kids may have been too much for him in his state. Controlled visits to see dad in a peaceful and quiet setting and then a trip to a place where the kids and burn energy and be boisterous kids is the perfect combo.

Haven't seen any judgement or backlash but then I am not paying that much attention.

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I support whatever she did, she's the wife and it's up to her. But I don't really think she needed to tell us.

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I have a family member with this same terrible disease. Bruce Willis is physically healthy now but he will not be. He will become mute, unable to walk or care for himself, wear diapers and eventually forget how to swallow.

If this family member had young kids he would not want them seeing his diaper changed, or fed with a baby sippy cup. He can maintain some of his dignity and the aides can make sure he is cleaned up, not tired and cranky, and maybe time the morphine right so he is relaxed but not asleep before the kids come over to spend a little time.

It is brutal to see a youngish man go through this hell. Willis’ wife has the worst ahead of her. She will go through hell whether he is right in front of her or not. The whole family will.

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Anonymous wrote:I support whatever she did, she's the wife and it's up to her. But I don't really think she needed to tell us.

I agree. She claimed that she wanted to make people aware of FTD, but I think the time and money could have been better spent showcasing real people in real situations. Seeing how rich people deal with problems isn't very helpful or inspiring.

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My father recently died of Parkinson’s after a long slow decline. I visited frequently for a week at a time, but would stay in a hotel when there. I could not handle being in the house more than six or eight hours a day. It was just too depressing. I needed to go somewhere and decompress. I cannot imagine a teenager having to live through that 24 seven.

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Anonymous wrote:I support whatever she did, she's the wife and it's up to her. But I don't really think she needed to tell us.

I agree. She claimed that she wanted to make people aware of FTD, but I think the time and money could have been better spent showcasing real people in real situations. Seeing how rich people deal with problems isn't very helpful or inspiring.

She is currently in the middle of dealing with this long depressing illness for her husband while trying to keep life as normal as possible for their younger kids. She gets to choose how to "make people aware of FTD", not you. No amount of money makes it that much easier. Her daily life has changed drastically and will never be the same.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she married him for the money and took a quick out as soon as she could. This is not caregiving. She moved him to another house and hid him away paying for 24-7 care and visited a few minutes a day. I cannot imagine doing that to my spouse.

You’re a judgmental d*ck who has zero comprehension of the ravages of frontotemporal dementia, the most evil of the dementias.

Bruce no longer has an empathy chip, not even a little bit. He is also prone to violent outbursts and sexual assaults of people around him and would have no ability to realize than he’s sexually assaulting his own daughter.

FTD is hideous and it would be parental negligence to keep preteen and teen girls around a father with full blown FTD full time if alternatives are available. They will be able to remember him with love and not potentially have awful memories of him at the end.

You clearly didn’t watch the interview Emma gave to Diane Sawyer if you honestly think Emma is a gold digger. Or you’re just a contemptible human being.

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Anonymous wrote:I support whatever she did, she's the wife and it's up to her. But I don't really think she needed to tell us.

I agree. She claimed that she wanted to make people aware of FTD, but I think the time and money could have been better spent showcasing real people in real situations. Seeing how rich people deal with problems isn't very helpful or inspiring.

In the interview with Diane Sawyer she DID showcase the testimonies of real people, working and middle class people, who are managing and caregiving for a demented relative. Get your head out to your anus.