Starting to wonder about my friend who constantly brings up my husband

[Anonymous]

Women I am telling you lol....They always say no honey we are not competing but their actions say otherwise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop these lunches.

Start looking at your husband's phone ...

This.Keep quiet and start looking.You haven’t mentioned your husband at all and if he mentions her.Don’t bring up topic until you look into it yourself.If nothing, I’d start distracting yourself from her. Its weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that I see every few weeks or so, not a super close friend but someone that I like spending time with. In the past couple of months she has been brining up my husband in conversation all the time to the point I’m starting to wonder if she has a crush or something is going on. When we’re all out with other friends she never once mentions any of their husbands despite us all knowing and socializing. When she talks about him she almost softens her voice a little in a demur way. It’s just weird and I’m getting a weird vibe but trying not to be paranoid. Last time we went out together I actually counted. She brought him up 14 times. Other men, none.

What do you think about this? Am I being paranoid or could there be something else going on here?

Go with it and don't take it personally perhaps. Let him in on the joke and allow him to flirt with her some to tease her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a crush and has idealized him. It's kind of sad. Be wary, too. She'll take him if she gets the opportunity.

But really? Break up two families with kids over a crush? I am worried they’re flirting or have even hooked up. They both travel for work so it’s not impossible. See this is where my mind is going, and I hate it.

PP. That's what I meant. Not necessarily that they'd break up their families (though it's possible) but maybe a hookup. It doesn't mean it has happened but she sounds like she might if she could. I would not completely trust this person. I'd also see what your husband thinks. She also may just be idealizing him but would never act on it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is having difficulty bringing up something with her husband she would like to talk to you about as a friend. I'd say, you've been mentioning my DH a lot recently, how are things going with your husband? Everyone good?

[Anonymous]

So it sounds like she is married too?

I'd have to say to her next time, "Larla, if I brought up (her DH's name) all the time, would you think I was banging him?" and her reaction will tell you everything.

I'd have to say to DH "Man, Larla doesn't want anyone to know but she got a raging STI and is trying to track down where she got it" and gauge his reaction.

You aren't mentioning your DH at all here- as far as motive/opportunity/history so I don't know what you aren't telling us as far as 'he doesn't talk about her'.

[Anonymous]

It is very possible that this particular friend may have a crush on your husband.

Do you think they could possibly be having an affair too?
Do you think your husband would do that to you?

If so - then your issue is to focus on your marriage ➕ figure out why you do not trust your husband anymore. 😕

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Distance yourself from her

[Anonymous]

Divorce is your only recourse at this point.

[Anonymous]

The comments about distancing yourself are interesting. If you have a bad gut feeling, I’d want to keep her closer. If she’s up to no good, it will be out of your sight anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a crush and has idealized him. It's kind of sad. Be wary, too. She'll take him if she gets the opportunity.

But really? Break up two families with kids over a crush? I am worried they’re flirting or have even hooked up. They both travel for work so it’s not impossible. See this is where my mind is going, and I hate it.

Do they work in the same company? Ie travel together?
If they were seeing each other I doubt she would mention him at all.

But seems if she gets a chance she would try to hook up with him.

This happened to a friend of mine. I, an outsider, noticed a weird interaction between my friend’s husband and this woman at a social function but brushed it off as her having had too much wine. Turns out they were banging, which came out years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she has nothing else to talk about with you so she brings up conversation points she has with your husband. Why is she hanging out with your husband so much that she can bring up 14 different things he and her have talked about? I have neighbor mom friends that bring up what they talked about with my husband when they see him around. I don’t assume they are fishing for information about him or banging. It’s just friendly conversation. But he tells me everything, all the time so you should know your husband best.

I've done this with a fellow sports mom who recently moved to my block. It's usually the dad who's on the sidelines and we end up talking a fair bit. I like the mom but don't see her as much, so when I do it's like "Jim told me about your trip," or "do you have plans for next month when Jim will be in Japan for business?" She invites me over occasionally for coffee but appears very introverted and doesn't ask many questions so I'm fishing through my memory bank to think of something to talk about and it's usually via Jim.

[Anonymous]

Have a 3-some and get it out of your systems.

[Anonymous]

Just ask her why she constantly brings up your husband during your conversations ?

Directly ask her if she is having an affair with your husband. This will put a stop to her blatantly obvious interest in your husband, but won't stop the affair if there is one.