Starting to wonder about my friend who constantly brings up my husband

[Anonymous]

What is she asking?

[Anonymous]

She’s obsessed with him and hopes you share details about your marriage. She’s waiting for the right time to strike.

Cut her off or ask her about it?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she has a crush. If something was actually happening, I’d imagine she wouldn’t bring him up so much.

Bigger issue is that it sounds like you don’t trust/suspect your husband. Has he given reason to believe he’s cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3sum

This. Is she hot?

[Anonymous]

She’s not asking questions about him, more like bringing him up in conversation like “Ben said this and that when I was taking to him last week” or “Ben and I were joking around xyz at the game.” Normally this wouldn’t even register but it’s constant each time I see her. DH isn’t acting any different and doesn’t mention her at all so it’s nothing on his end that’s raising these alarms for me.

[Anonymous]

Is she single?

[Anonymous]

She has a crush and has idealized him. It's kind of sad. Be wary, too. She'll take him if she gets the opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she single?

No, married as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has a crush and has idealized him. It's kind of sad. Be wary, too. She'll take him if she gets the opportunity.

But really? Break up two families with kids over a crush? I am worried they’re flirting or have even hooked up. They both travel for work so it’s not impossible. See this is where my mind is going, and I hate it.

[Anonymous]

The bigger concern is that you can’t seem to trust your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a crush and has idealized him. It's kind of sad. Be wary, too. She'll take him if she gets the opportunity.

But really? Break up two families with kids over a crush? I am worried they’re flirting or have even hooked up. They both travel for work so it’s not impossible. See this is where my mind is going, and I hate it.

Do they work in the same company? Ie travel together?
If they were seeing each other I doubt she would mention him at all.

But seems if she gets a chance she would try to hook up with him.

[Anonymous]

Stop these lunches.

Start looking at your husband's phone ...

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t immediately jump to assume she wants your husband. I’m close with a friend of my husband. We’ve been friends for years it’s completely platonic but when we see each other it’s like brother and sister. We are in similar lines of work so we understand our day to day lives. We joke around but there’s nothing else there. I don’t think I mention him regularly but because of the connections we have I reference certainly things he’s said but again, it’s completely platonic. And it could be her overall communication style. I also often reference past conversations but it’s more coming from me trying to connect. I can see it feeling awkward but it’s just how some people are. She might just be someone who gets excited about people and he is someone she finds interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a crush and has idealized him. It's kind of sad. Be wary, too. She'll take him if she gets the opportunity.

But really? Break up two families with kids over a crush? I am worried they’re flirting or have even hooked up. They both travel for work so it’s not impossible. See this is where my mind is going, and I hate it.

Yeah they’re banging, have banged or she wants to bang him.

Yes folks have nasty foul ass affairs and completely trash marriages and families on a regular ..
Where have you been? Do you have eyes? Live under a rock?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she has nothing else to talk about with you so she brings up conversation points she has with your husband. Why is she hanging out with your husband so much that she can bring up 14 different things he and her have talked about? I have neighbor mom friends that bring up what they talked about with my husband when they see him around. I don’t assume they are fishing for information about him or banging. It’s just friendly conversation. But he tells me everything, all the time so you should know your husband best.