Starting to wonder about my friend who constantly brings up my husband

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that I see every few weeks or so, not a super close friend but someone that I like spending time with. In the past couple of months she has been brining up my husband in conversation all the time to the point I’m starting to wonder if she has a crush or something is going on. When we’re all out with other friends she never once mentions any of their husbands despite us all knowing and socializing. When she talks about him she almost softens her voice a little in a demur way. It’s just weird and I’m getting a weird vibe but trying not to be paranoid. Last time we went out together I actually counted. She brought him up 14 times. Other men, none.

What do you think about this? Am I being paranoid or could there be something else going on here?

[Anonymous]

She’s not with him. She’s with you. So whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s not with him. She’s with you. So whatever.

But that’s the thing. Maybe he IS with her? Why does she want to talk about him all the time? Like she’s looking for a reason to bring him up because it gives her some sort of high.

[Anonymous]

3sum

[Anonymous]

Does she say “your husbands interest in model trains is really repellent” or does she ask about his dick size?

[Anonymous]

Weird.
Maybe she admires him low key
Either say something or dismiss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that I see every few weeks or so, not a super close friend but someone that I like spending time with. In the past couple of months she has been brining up my husband in conversation all the time to the point I’m starting to wonder if she has a crush or something is going on. When we’re all out with other friends she never once mentions any of their husbands despite us all knowing and socializing. When she talks about him she almost softens her voice a little in a demur way. It’s just weird and I’m getting a weird vibe but trying not to be paranoid. Last time we went out together I actually counted. She brought him up 14 times. Other men, none.

What do you think about this? Am I being paranoid or could there be something else going on here?

Tut this sounds like a new thing she's doing, right? If you've known her for a long time and have been married far longer than this trend, then yeah, I'd be worried there is something going on between them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that I see every few weeks or so, not a super close friend but someone that I like spending time with. In the past couple of months she has been brining up my husband in conversation all the time to the point I’m starting to wonder if she has a crush or something is going on. When we’re all out with other friends she never once mentions any of their husbands despite us all knowing and socializing. When she talks about him she almost softens her voice a little in a demur way. It’s just weird and I’m getting a weird vibe but trying not to be paranoid. Last time we went out together I actually counted. She brought him up 14 times. Other men, none.

What do you think about this? Am I being paranoid or could there be something else going on here?

Tut this sounds like a new thing she's doing, right? If you've known her for a long time and have been married far longer than this trend, then yeah, I'd be worried there is something going on between them.

Yes, I’ve known her for a few years and this is something new I’ve noticed. How can I know whether this is just a crush she has vs. something they both are doing?

[Anonymous]

Is your dh acting suspiciously at all? Honestly, it sounds more like a crush because if something were happening I doubt she’d name-drop him that often. Mentioning him 14 times in one outing is just plain weird.

[Anonymous]

Do they have any interaction outside of you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your dh acting suspiciously at all? Honestly, it sounds more like a crush because if something were happening I doubt she’d name-drop him that often. Mentioning him 14 times in one outing is just plain weird.

This. If they’re actually seeing each other on the side then she would never mention him at all, ever.

[Anonymous]

A girl my age was like that about my single uncle who was 25 years older than her. They did eventually end up dating for a few years.

Her weird interest stuck out to me too.

Keep your eyes open. And don't send your husband to hang out with her alone (house repairs, kids sports).

[Anonymous]

They’re banging.

[Anonymous]

She really isn't having lunch with you, she's out for info.
Cut off the lunches.

[Anonymous]

I think we are given intuition for a reason and this warrants keeping an eye on. What type of questions is she asking though?

Like if she is struggling with unemployment and in the same field as him, maybe she is trying to find an in. Or maybe she is interested in some niche interest of his and is digging for info.

Or is she asking personal questions about him and your marriage. That is a red flag.