Boyfriend is very private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's autistic and this is one of his OCD things. My son has the same tendencies, but not quite as severe.

Not a day goes by on dcum that someone doesn't -- bizarrely and wrongly -- diagnose someone with autism based on almost nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's autistic and this is one of his OCD things. My son has the same tendencies, but not quite as severe.

Not a day goes by on dcum that someone doesn't -- bizarrely and wrongly -- diagnose someone with autism based on almost nothing.

Yeah apparently I'm autistic and have OCD because I like to shower after my morning workout and then like to rinse off the germs of the hospital I work at. Oh and I close the door because I like privacy when I'm in the bathroom. I also have no interest in watching DH use the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I are spending more time together at his place and I noticed he’s super weird about having privacy for all personal hygiene and using the bathroom. He’s also obsessed with showering 2-3 times a day. While I respect it, it hasn’t been my normal. I’m not sure if it’s an insecurity issue or just his personality. Do I address it or say nothing?

Be glad he's clean conscious and doesn't only shower once a day like a cave man.

Also, WHY on earth would you want to be in the bathroom when someone is pooping or gagging on a toothbrush and what not?

[Anonymous]

If you spend enough time with him you will know all his odd behavior. Then, it's your decision. Live with it or not.

[Anonymous]

I shower in the morning and before bed. So does DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together? Have you seen each other naked? Is he conservative, religious? Does he work out a lot so he needs to shower?
My DH was in the military and played sports in HS and college he never closed a door from day one...for anything. Once he set that tone, I went with it. Are you equally private with closed doors?

About 6 months. I’ve seen him fully naked a million times during sex. We have a lot of sex. He isn’t religious and is an independent. He works out once a day but showers in the morning after a workout, after work, and sometimes before bed. I’m private when I go to the bathroom but that’s it. He doesn’t shower in front of me, shave, pee, etc.

Showering in front of you or with should be fine. It’s weird that he won’t do it.
However, peeing or pooping in front of you would be gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together? Have you seen each other naked? Is he conservative, religious? Does he work out a lot so he needs to shower?
My DH was in the military and played sports in HS and college he never closed a door from day one...for anything. Once he set that tone, I went with it. Are you equally private with closed doors?

About 6 months. I’ve seen him fully naked a million times during sex. We have a lot of sex. He isn’t religious and is an independent. He works out once a day but showers in the morning after a workout, after work, and sometimes before bed. I’m private when I go to the bathroom but that’s it. He doesn’t shower in front of me, shave, pee, etc.

You are weird. What kind of sex kinks and fetishes are you into.
You want to watch him pee and shit? WTF.
Maybe you also want him to pee and shit on you?
You are the weird one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together? Have you seen each other naked? Is he conservative, religious? Does he work out a lot so he needs to shower?
My DH was in the military and played sports in HS and college he never closed a door from day one...for anything. Once he set that tone, I went with it. Are you equally private with closed doors?

About 6 months. I’ve seen him fully naked a million times during sex. We have a lot of sex. He isn’t religious and is an independent. He works out once a day but showers in the morning after a workout, after work, and sometimes before bed. I’m private when I go to the bathroom but that’s it. He doesn’t shower in front of me, shave, pee, etc.

Showering in front of you or with should be fine. It’s weird that he won’t do it.
However, peeing or pooping in front of you would be gross.

It;s not weird. Just because you;re open with someone in one aspect (sex) doesn't mean you need to be open in all regards. For many people shower time is unwind and recharge time, hard to do with someone there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is the weird part in this to you? That he doesn’t allow you into the bathroom while he’s using for any purpose? Too many showers? What?

None of it seems objectionable to me except I have very sensitive skin so three showers a day would cause me physical pain.

I just never been with a guy who showers this much or closes the door to shave and pee and stuff. It’s refreshing but I was just curious if it’s normal to be this private. I’ve seen him full body naked a million times so I know that’s not an issue for him.

Maybe you've just dated trashy men in the past.

[Anonymous]

My ex showered several times a day, including every time after #2. It was one of his quirks, we all have our own, especially about hygiene. Doesn’t seem like the worst habit to have to deal with though. My current bf sometimes clips his nails around me, I do not like it at all.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal to close the door when in the bathroom, whether it is to use the toilet, shower, or groom. We do that here. But if someone needs to run in and grab something while someone else is using the bathroom, it’s totally ok. But we try to leave the other person alone otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex showered several times a day, including every time after #2. It was one of his quirks, we all have our own, especially about hygiene. Doesn’t seem like the worst habit to have to deal with though. My current bf sometimes clips his nails around me, I do not like it at all.

nasty

[Anonymous]

why do you feel entitled to watching him pee and shower, Op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why do you feel entitled to watching him pee and shower, Op?

I agree, watching him pee is strange - I've been married 20 years and she's never seen that. But showering is different - and showering together is hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why do you feel entitled to watching him pee and shower, Op?

Another dense moron. I never said I was interested in watching him pee or entitled to it.