My Mom just passed suddenly this AM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom hits hard. Since it wasn’t expected, it may take a while to really sink in. When I lost my dad suddenly, I kept wondering when it would feel real. When something as seismic as the loss of a parent happens to you, it’s hard to see the rest of the world go on about their business, like it’s an ordinary day.

I’m not excusing your dh, because I think he should have prioritized supporting you, but I wonder if he is having some unexpected emotions and felt like he needed to go ride his bike as a way to process. The death of a spouse’s parent really drives home the mortality of your own parent.

No, he just texted me "I'm not dead" meaning he hadn't wrecked and that he was having beers with the crew. Talk about insensitive!

I'm a bit shell-shocked due to the suddenness but I'm happy she didn't suffer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you feeling?

I'm worried that you're putting on a brave face but are not OK with this cavalier attitude of your loved ones and friends.

My condolences, OP.

I'm not ok - I think it's rude. I do have my sister, cousins and other family so I have plenty of support, so brave face not needed.

PP you replied to. Then I would upbraid the menfolk, honestly. Especially that moron of a husband of yours.

He probably thinks since he offered to help in any way possible, I'm good. The fact he walked away with me talking mid-sentence to get ready for his ride, not good.

The lady was old and in assisted living, it’s kind of expected what happened.. sorry for being cold

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom hits hard. Since it wasn’t expected, it may take a while to really sink in. When I lost my dad suddenly, I kept wondering when it would feel real. When something as seismic as the loss of a parent happens to you, it’s hard to see the rest of the world go on about their business, like it’s an ordinary day.

I’m not excusing your dh, because I think he should have prioritized supporting you, but I wonder if he is having some unexpected emotions and felt like he needed to go ride his bike as a way to process. The death of a spouse’s parent really drives home the mortality of your own parent.

No, he just texted me "I'm not dead" meaning he hadn't wrecked and that he was having beers with the crew. Talk about insensitive!

I'm a bit shell-shocked due to the suddenness but I'm happy she didn't suffer

I love his sense of humor and the fact that he is down to earth.
I hope it gets better for you in a few days or weeks

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you feeling?

I'm worried that you're putting on a brave face but are not OK with this cavalier attitude of your loved ones and friends.

My condolences, OP.

I'm not ok - I think it's rude. I do have my sister, cousins and other family so I have plenty of support, so brave face not needed.

PP you replied to. Then I would upbraid the menfolk, honestly. Especially that moron of a husband of yours.

He probably thinks since he offered to help in any way possible, I'm good. The fact he walked away with me talking mid-sentence to get ready for his ride, not good.

The lady was old and in assisted living, it’s kind of expected what happened.. sorry for being cold

You're here to start trouble. In fact, you get off on it. So sorry about your emotional damage

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you feeling?

I'm worried that you're putting on a brave face but are not OK with this cavalier attitude of your loved ones and friends.

My condolences, OP.

I'm not ok - I think it's rude. I do have my sister, cousins and other family so I have plenty of support, so brave face not needed.

Go see your sister. She needs you as much as you need her right now. I'm so sorry that your mother has passed

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you feeling?

I'm worried that you're putting on a brave face but are not OK with this cavalier attitude of your loved ones and friends.

My condolences, OP.

I'm not ok - I think it's rude. I do have my sister, cousins and other family so I have plenty of support, so brave face not needed.

PP you replied to. Then I would upbraid the menfolk, honestly. Especially that moron of a husband of yours.

He probably thinks since he offered to help in any way possible, I'm good. The fact he walked away with me talking mid-sentence to get ready for his ride, not good.

The lady was old and in assisted living, it’s kind of expected what happened.. sorry for being cold

Well she practically deserved to die! *sarcasm* You're an azz

[Anonymous]

Your sister has and is doing all the work. Stop making it about you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom hits hard. Since it wasn’t expected, it may take a while to really sink in. When I lost my dad suddenly, I kept wondering when it would feel real. When something as seismic as the loss of a parent happens to you, it’s hard to see the rest of the world go on about their business, like it’s an ordinary day.

I’m not excusing your dh, because I think he should have prioritized supporting you, but I wonder if he is having some unexpected emotions and felt like he needed to go ride his bike as a way to process. The death of a spouse’s parent really drives home the mortality of your own parent.

No, he just texted me "I'm not dead" meaning he hadn't wrecked and that he was having beers with the crew. Talk about insensitive!

I'm a bit shell-shocked due to the suddenness but I'm happy she didn't suffer

I love his sense of humor and the fact that he is down to earth.
I hope it gets better for you in a few days or weeks

Free to a good home...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your sister has and is doing all the work. Stop making it about you.

LOL. Enjoy your trolling.

[Anonymous]

Hugs.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your loss.
I am not sure what is going on with your husband and colleague but those are weird reactions. I don't; want to blame the vicitim but are you potentially giving off vibes taht you don't want to talk about it or make a bifg deal?
It is a big deal esp if it is to you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you feeling?

I'm worried that you're putting on a brave face but are not OK with this cavalier attitude of your loved ones and friends.

My condolences, OP.

I'm not ok - I think it's rude. I do have my sister, cousins and other family so I have plenty of support, so brave face not needed.

PP you replied to. Then I would upbraid the menfolk, honestly. Especially that moron of a husband of yours.

He probably thinks since he offered to help in any way possible, I'm good. The fact he walked away with me talking mid-sentence to get ready for his ride, not good.

The opposite of good.

Hugs to you and your sister, and good job making plans and getting through this like mature, responsible adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you feeling?

I'm worried that you're putting on a brave face but are not OK with this cavalier attitude of your loved ones and friends.

My condolences, OP.

I'm not ok - I think it's rude. I do have my sister, cousins and other family so I have plenty of support, so brave face not needed.

PP you replied to. Then I would upbraid the menfolk, honestly. Especially that moron of a husband of yours.

He probably thinks since he offered to help in any way possible, I'm good. The fact he walked away with me talking mid-sentence to get ready for his ride, not good.

The opposite of good.

Hugs to you and your sister, and good job making plans and getting through this like mature, responsible adults.

Thank you. We loved her and she deserves the best

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry for your loss.
I am not sure what is going on with your husband and colleague but those are weird reactions. I don't; want to blame the vicitim but are you potentially giving off vibes taht you don't want to talk about it or make a bifg deal?
It is a big deal esp if it is to you

Could be it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry, OP. My mom passed in a similar fashion a few months ago, and I was still shocked even though she was declining and I technically "expected" it. I also took comfort in the idea that she didn't linger in a nursing home, confined to a bed for weeks on end.

We did a delayed celebration of life too, and I really appreciated the gap to help me process everything (and figure out what to say!)

I know it's a difficult time. So hard to lose your mother. Hugs to you

OP here. So sorry for your loss as well