DH asked for less sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re an adult with a fully developed frontal lobe claiming to need daily sex I think you’re gross. This is beyond weird. Get a vibrator and be normal.

This. Enjoying sex is one thing, but "need"? Nah.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do most people want to have sex daily? Other than at the beginning of a relationship? I have a high pressure job, and kids with complex needs, and I certainly don't. Maybe 2-3 times a week.

I wouldn't think anything is up with him. But you all just need to figure out how to balance your different drives.

I do. I love sex and love it as a stress relief and a nice end to my day. Some people like a glass of wine. I like an orgasm to end the day.

You can still have an orgasm. Hard to imagine an adult wrote this post.

Yes but I like it with him. I’m not really into masturbating.

Time to find a vibrator.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't encourage stress management to be entitled to and dependent upon someone else's body. Try other forms of stress relief if this is truly the reason. My suspicion is that you are needy and codependent.

[Anonymous]

People on here are so weird.

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You sound so annoying, OP. He likely finds you tedious. Try to be less boring.

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It’s your job as the woman to keep him happy so obviously you do whatever he asks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve always been high drive and find him incredibly attractive and sexy. We have had sex most days since our relationship started. He asked me today we can skip sex here and there because he is often too tired and physically doesn’t want it. I don’t think he’s cheating but I’m a little surprised by his decision.

for some women it is very hard to get them off. almost like a job. are you able to orgasm by yourself?

nothing sexier than having your wife tell u to just come, dont worry about me, just let it go.

do that a few times to balance out the other session in which you are the primary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do not find this post to be real but I will play along…. I am a woman with a high sex drive and did (still can) have sex every day with my husband. We both could! However, I realized that our daily sex lacked so much intimacy and connection. I had sex daily, like you, to relieve stress. It was a way to get myself off and release. It had nothing to do with building a physical relationship with my husband. Our daily sex became so chore like. We brush our teeth every night, shower and have sex. Now, we do it every couple of days. It helped to build our intimacy when we were not doing it. It made me crave him more. It made the sex better. It was more spontaneous and less chore like. You said you were shocked by this but had no question. The shock does not matter. He asked for something in which you, as a wife, is capable of giving him. So do a day or two less. Again, I think this post is fake but we can role play….

It’s not fake. I’ve always been one to use sex as a stress relief. That and working out.

Then work out more… have sex less. What exactly is your question?

[Anonymous]

He’s not that into you anymore. Make yourself less irritating. You sound self congratulatory and boring. Be more spontaneous. Be hard to get.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve always been high drive and find him incredibly attractive and sexy. We have had sex most days since our relationship started. He asked me today we can skip sex here and there because he is often too tired and physically doesn’t want it. I don’t think he’s cheating but I’m a little surprised by his decision.

That's ridiculous. You have needs, and he's not fulfilling them. Tell him that you're going to have a one-sided open marriage. If he doesn't respond positively, rethink the marriage. Simple.

Tell that to my 55 years old wife. I need sex everyday she says she can only do it at most once a week. I am 49. Do you have a solution for me?

I do. But you might not want to hear it.

First, ensure she's been seen by a doctor post menopause. If she has any physiological symptoms, she needs to take care of that.

Second, ensure you're being a good partner and pulling your weight at home... not just chores, but emotional labor with the kids, holiday and travel planning, etc.

Third, and probably most importantly, you are going to have to express desire for her (whether you really feel it or not). That means, you greet her like she's gorgeous and just seeing her reminds you how attracted you are to her. You must take an interest in what is going on in her life and who she is as a person. Don't assume you know what her deepest desires are because I am almost certain you don't. Take her on dates... regularly, but not predictably. Do new things together. Tell her how beautiful and sexy she is. Do all this without expecting sex immediately after. Just rebuild the mood between you when you first got together. It's a lot of work. I'm not sure it's fair that men have spontaneous desire and women have responsive desire, but it's almost always the case.

One thing I do know, however, is that when a man puts in a lot of work, a woman will give back even more. (Assuming her resentment hasn't gotten the better of her.)

[Anonymous]

Focus on quality over quantity! A quickie every night gets tiresome and is not much better than taking care of yourself. We have sex about twice a week and we take our time. I really enjoy taking my husband to a point where I’m in complete control and he will do the same for me. Now I have so many erogenous zones that I have multiple Os and I’d could never do that every night.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve always been high drive and find him incredibly attractive and sexy. We have had sex most days since our relationship started. He asked me today we can skip sex here and there because he is often too tired and physically doesn’t want it. I don’t think he’s cheating but I’m a little surprised by his decision.

for some women it is very hard to get them off. almost like a job. are you able to orgasm by yourself?

nothing sexier than having your wife tell u to just come, dont worry about me, just let it go.

do that a few times to balance out the other session in which you are the primary.

I can orgasm by myself. I just prefer sex. Like why would I masturbate when I have a husband who has the real thing? He’s much better than a toy. We do use toys during sex. It’s just not as fun without him.

I orgasm very easily with oral and PIV. Multiple times and frequent. We still have quickies where he is the only one to orgasm but that rare. I don’t see a point in sex if I’m not going to get my orgasm.

I know I’m not entitled to his body. It just sucks that he wants less sex because I still desire it daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s not that into you anymore. Make yourself less irritating. You sound self congratulatory and boring. Be more spontaneous. Be hard to get.

Why would I be hard to get? He is very happy with me. Our sex life is great. He has said many times it’s the best sex he’s ever had.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He’s not that into you anymore. Make yourself less irritating. You sound self congratulatory and boring. Be more spontaneous. Be hard to get.

Why would I be hard to get? He is very happy with me. Our sex life is great. He has said many times it’s the best sex he’s ever had.

Well then why don’t you try actually spraining your arm while patting yourself on the back for the being the bestest ever and then maybe he can get a rest while you recuperate?

[Anonymous]

Get a good suction vibrator and use it on days you need an orgasm and not a human connection.