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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve always been high drive and find him incredibly attractive and sexy. We have had sex most days since our relationship started. He asked me today we can skip sex here and there because he is often too tired and physically doesn’t want it. I don’t think he’s cheating but I’m a little surprised by his decision. [/quote]

That's ridiculous.  You have needs, and he's not fulfilling them.  Tell him that you're going to have a one-sided open marriage.  If he doesn't respond positively, rethink the marriage.  Simple.[/quote]

Tell that to my 55 years old wife. I need sex everyday she says she can only do it at most once a week. I am 49. Do you have a solution for me?[/quote]
I do. But you might not want to hear it.

First, ensure she's been seen by a doctor post menopause. If she has any physiological symptoms, she needs to take care of that.

Second, ensure you're being a good partner and pulling your weight at home... not just chores, but emotional labor with the kids, holiday and travel planning, etc.

Third, and probably most importantly, you are going to have to express desire for her (whether you really feel it or not). That means, you greet her like she's gorgeous and just seeing her reminds you how attracted you are to her. You must take an interest in what is going on in her life and who she is as a person. Don't assume you know what her deepest desires are because I am almost certain you don't. Take her on dates... regularly, but not predictably. Do new things together. Tell her how beautiful and sexy she is. Do all this without expecting sex immediately after. Just rebuild the mood between you when you first got together. It's a lot of work. I'm not sure it's fair that men have spontaneous desire and women have responsive desire, but it's almost always the case.

One thing I do know, however, is that when a man puts in a lot of work, a woman will give back even more. (Assuming her resentment hasn't gotten the better of her.)[/quote]

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