DH insensitive remark

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Sexually you are like a woman with a new body to him that he didn’t choose. It’s within control for pregnant and nursing women NOT to gain 22 lbs. That's what he’s trying to tell you . His comment is insensitive because he’s growing resentful

Next would be him not sleeping with you abc then cheating a few years after unless you address the weight issue.

Men are very quick to start treating you like a “mommy” and never feel sexual about you again

Are you serious? Gaining 22lbs during pregnancy is very normal. A healthy weight gain is 25-35lbs. Op gained 33.

“ address the weight issue”. She had a baby TWO weeks ago. 99% of women do not lose pregnancy weight in two weeks.

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Sexually you are like a woman with a new body to him that he didn’t choose. It’s within control for pregnant and nursing women NOT to gain 22 lbs. That's what he’s trying to tell you . His comment is insensitive because he’s growing resentful

Next would be him not sleeping with you abc then cheating a few years after unless you address the weight issue.

Men are very quick to start treating you like a “mommy” and never feel sexual about you again

You have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about. You sound like a fool.

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Two weeks past partum! Girl, you married trash! I'm a hot blonde MILFy type and I can't believe this, don't put up with it. Take care of you and your babies but know you deserve better frin hus attitude.

ONLY because you posted a diet thing, if you're not working out intensely (who would?!) Protein bar and trail mix would be my immediate cut.

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Anonymous wrote:DH has always been very respectful but he said something I took very insensitive. I was eating and he said
“ wow..you’re eating again..all of that”. I do eat a lot and still have a good amount of weight to lose while breastfeeding our almost 2 week old. I don’t know how he intended it but it really felt insensitive and hurt my feelings. He insists he didn’t mean anything by it.

What an as**le! I'm slim but my wife is not. We both love to eat. I will never comment on my wife's eating habits.

No, he is not an as**le. OP is hormonal and sensitive, which is understandable, but don’t fan the flames here. It IS amazing how much breastfeeding women need to eat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

Doctor, doctor, some idiot on DCUM is telling me it’s weird that I’m starving all the time even though I’m breastfeeding my newborn child and recovering from birth. I don’t understand why an extra handful of nuts doesn’t do it!

PP do us all a favor and go see a therapist about your eating disordered thinking. “A handful of nuts should do it” I remember breastfeeding and you are an IDIOT.

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Sexually you are like a woman with a new body to him that he didn’t choose. It’s within control for pregnant and nursing women NOT to gain 22 lbs. That's what he’s trying to tell you . His comment is insensitive because he’s growing resentful

Next would be him not sleeping with you abc then cheating a few years after unless you address the weight issue.

Men are very quick to start treating you like a “mommy” and never feel sexual about you again

You have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about. You sound like a fool.

It’s good when people like the first PP post so clearly. It helps identify foolish posters who should be mocked and ignored.

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Sexually you are like a woman with a new body to him that he didn’t choose. It’s within control for pregnant and nursing women NOT to gain 22 lbs. That's what he’s trying to tell you . His comment is insensitive because he’s growing resentful

Next would be him not sleeping with you abc then cheating a few years after unless you address the weight issue.

Men are very quick to start treating you like a “mommy” and never feel sexual about you again

She’s 2 weeks post partum, give her a break. You are being an ass. OP, don’t listen to this person.

[Anonymous]

Yes, Your husbands comment was rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has always been very respectful but he said something I took very insensitive. I was eating and he said
“ wow..you’re eating again..all of that”. I do eat a lot and still have a good amount of weight to lose while breastfeeding our almost 2 week old. I don’t know how he intended it but it really felt insensitive and hurt my feelings. He insists he didn’t mean anything by it.

That was really mean and insensitive. Those words aren't OK when you are healthy and "normal" and they certainly are not ok when you are breastfeeding. Recovering. And sleep deprived.

Rather than insist he didn't mean anything by it he needs to look at himself and his actions/words and find a sincere apology in there for you. Even if he didn't mean anything he needs to want to not hurt you, and go out of his way to be kind (and that goes the other direction, too. You also need to not want to hurt him and go out of your way to be kind).

[Anonymous]

Ugh, are you the same one whose husband has said stuff like this when you were pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has always been very respectful but he said something I took very insensitive. I was eating and he said
“ wow..you’re eating again..all of that”. I do eat a lot and still have a good amount of weight to lose while breastfeeding our almost 2 week old. I don’t know how he intended it but it really felt insensitive and hurt my feelings. He insists he didn’t mean anything by it.

He meant it but is gaslighting you in essence. This is classic “it’s just a joke!” behavior.

Focus on what you’re doing and ignore him. He’s jealous and that’s something you can deal with later. He’s a man child with no idea but now you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH has always been very respectful but he said something I took very insensitive. I was eating and he said
“ wow..you’re eating again..all of that”. I do eat a lot and still have a good amount of weight to lose while breastfeeding our almost 2 week old. I don’t know how he intended it but it really felt insensitive and hurt my feelings. He insists he didn’t mean anything by it.

He meant it but is gaslighting you in essence. This is classic “it’s just a joke!” behavior.

Focus on what you’re doing and ignore him. He’s jealous and that’s something you can deal with later. He’s a man child with no idea but now you know.

Yep... and told her to her/OP's face.
Zero need IMO to go over diet and food intake. That's simply not a comment you make to anyone.
He's probably also turned off by her eating and maybe even the effort she's putting into the baby.

ICK!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH has always been very respectful but he said something I took very insensitive. I was eating and he said
“ wow..you’re eating again..all of that”. I do eat a lot and still have a good amount of weight to lose while breastfeeding our almost 2 week old. I don’t know how he intended it but it really felt insensitive and hurt my feelings. He insists he didn’t mean anything by it.

He meant it but is gaslighting you in essence. This is classic “it’s just a joke!” behavior.

Focus on what you’re doing and ignore him. He’s jealous and that’s something you can deal with later. He’s a man child with no idea but now you know.

Yep... and told her to her/OP's face.
Zero need IMO to go over diet and food intake. That's simply not a comment you make to anyone.
He's probably also turned off by her eating and maybe even the effort she's putting into the baby.

ICK!

He isn’t grossed out by me. He has never said anything hurtful or insensitive to me before. It came out of left field and I think I took it too sensitively. Today he commented “ I’m surprised by how much you can eat”. I asked him to explain because it’s hurtful. He said he is just surprised by how much I eat these days because I used to eat so regimented and small portions. He was amazed and didn’t mean anything bad by it. This is the man who indulged every single craving of mine after having severe morning sickness ( even in the evening) and not being able to eat anything so that I would eat something and gained weight that I lost back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, are you the same one whose husband has said stuff like this when you were pregnant?

Nope.

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Sexually you are like a woman with a new body to him that he didn’t choose. It’s within control for pregnant and nursing women NOT to gain 22 lbs. That's what he’s trying to tell you . His comment is insensitive because he’s growing resentful

Next would be him not sleeping with you abc then cheating a few years after unless you address the weight issue.

Men are very quick to start treating you like a “mommy” and never feel sexual about you again

She’s 2 weeks post partum, give her a break. You are being an ass. OP, don’t listen to this person.

This poster and the others likely have eating issues. My doctor said what I eat is very normal and so are the amounts I eat. She said it’s normal for me to be hungry all of the time because I’m feeding another human being.