DH insensitive remark

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

You are overeating husband if right. Try to eat more proteins for the baby and cut down on junk food and curbs

[Anonymous]

I ate so much when I was breastfeeding.

[Anonymous]

People need to recognize that overeating results in obesity and is unhealthy. I was breastfeeding a very hungry baby boy and was in the best shape of my life 5 months after birth. I pushed stroller astound for an exercise and spent a lot of time outdoors

OP - you might need to check hormones or might be depressed and stress eating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

You are overeating husband if right. Try to eat more proteins for the baby and cut down on junk food and curbs

I don’t eat junk food. I eat real food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People need to recognize that overeating results in obesity and is unhealthy. I was breastfeeding a very hungry baby boy and was in the best shape of my life 5 months after birth. I pushed stroller astound for an exercise and spent a lot of time outdoors

OP - you might need to check hormones or might be depressed and stress eating

I’ve already had my 6 week appointment. All my blood tests were normal.

I walk each day - 1-3 miles a day. I’m still carrying 22lbs. Gained 30lbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People need to recognize that overeating results in obesity and is unhealthy. I was breastfeeding a very hungry baby boy and was in the best shape of my life 5 months after birth. I pushed stroller astound for an exercise and spent a lot of time outdoors

OP - you might need to check hormones or might be depressed and stress eating

I’m not depressed either. I eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People need to recognize that overeating results in obesity and is unhealthy. I was breastfeeding a very hungry baby boy and was in the best shape of my life 5 months after birth. I pushed stroller astound for an exercise and spent a lot of time outdoors

OP - you might need to check hormones or might be depressed and stress eating

I’ve already had my 6 week appointment. All my blood tests were normal.

I walk each day - 1-3 miles a day. I’m still carrying 22lbs. Gained 30lbs.

Sorry. I already had my 2 week appointment, not 6 weeks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

Don’t listen. This is very normal eating 2 weeks postpartum and breastfeeding. You’re healing and need the nutrients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Sexually you are like a woman with a new body to him that he didn’t choose. It’s within control for pregnant and nursing women NOT to gain 22 lbs. That's what he’s trying to tell you . His comment is insensitive because he’s growing resentful

Next would be him not sleeping with you abc then cheating a few years after unless you address the weight issue.

Men are very quick to start treating you like a “mommy” and never feel sexual about you again

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just as an FYI you're not "eating for two." You only need about an extra 450 calories when nursing. If you eat a handful of nuts, and drink a glass of water each time you nurse, you'll get the calories.

I don’t think this is accurate. If so, why am I starving all of the time? I’m eating like 3500-4000 calories a day. Double portions and frequent snacking.

Go to the doctor and tell them this. Something is off.

I don’t know how it turned into my eating habits but my doctor said that it’s completely fine and normal. I don’t know how much I’m eating but it feels like 3500+ calories.

What are you eating.

Your DH’s comment was insensitive and rude.

Here is a breakdown of my day of eating. Times vary.

6:30am - First thing wake up I drink 16oz water and eat a protein bar.

8am: I eat 2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, and about 1 cup of fruit. I drink another 16oz of water in between this.

10:30am - 1 cup plain Greek yogurt with 1 cup berries and 1/3 cup granola.

1pm: I switch between a chicken cesear wrap or pb&j. More fruit on the side.

3:30pm: Hummus and veggies and cheese.

6:30pm: A hefty serving of portion with veggies and carbs.

9pm: homemade trail mix

4am: Protein shake or another protein bar.

I drink water throughout the day and aim for a gallon.

I have a big supply and make 40-50oz a day.

Yeah, I'd cut out the protein bars/shakes. Look at the times - you're eating at 4am and 6:30am. Then eating a meal two hours later. Then the yogurt meal two hours after that. I can't see how you can be losing weight on this meal plan, OP.

I don’t ask if I ate too much. I posted a comment about my DH’s insensitive remark. My doctor said this is normal eating. I’m recovering and feeding my baby. I eat at 4am and 6:30am because I’m hungry.

I don’t expect to lose all the weight 2 weeks after giving birth. I’m not on a diet and don’t need to cut eating if I’m
hungry.

Stop indulging posters who are trying to give you unsolicited advice. You don’t owe anyone an accounting of your daily food intake.

I’m sorry your dh hurt your feelings. Two weeks post partum you’re very hormonal, still healing, and sleep deprived. You may be feeling overwhelmed or not quite like yourself. Your dh is going through a major adjustment too, and may also be sleep deprived. You know whether this comment is an isolated incident and out of character for him or whether there’s a history of his undermining your self esteem.