2015 girl injury - perspective

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Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

The bullying is not OK. But as the kids get older team tactics matter just as much as individual skill and ability. If the kid is disruptive to the instructions that does become an increasing problem over time. My adhd kid cannot play team sports at all. Obviously this team is not a good environment for your kid and you are better off going elsewhere. Unfortunately I think it is going to be hard to find a minimally paid travel soccer coach that has the skillset to deal with challenging kids.

Thank you for this - I have a high functioning autistic daughter who just isn't a fit for team sports. I also have an extremely dialed in competitive daughter who thrives with the best competition. D2 would be frustrated playing with her older sister regardless of how strong of a player they were. D2 is a great teammate and would never do what happened to your DS, but at some point coaches are going to try to field a team of like minded/ability kids.

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Anonymous wrote:It sucks your daughter has to go through this but better to have it happen for the first time now instead of when she is older. She will get through it and be stronger for it. Disappointment like this will happen to everyone eventually, whether it’s soccer teams or school clubs or college applications. Use it as a teachable learning experience.

Totally agree ^^ she will be fine! Better to happen now than when she is 16

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[quote=Anonymous]OP here .. well they cut her , I am really having a tough time wrapping my brain around it but .. they took 5 new players and cut her off the roster. I realize she is behind due to her major injury this past 5 months but I still thought they would offer her a season to be on the roster that she has been on for a 3rd year and get back into things. I am trying to keep her spirits up but I do think it was pretty terrible. [/quote]

Not sure which team cut her, but Villarreal might be a good fit for her and her two friends who decided not to re-sign.

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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - yes I guess that is true , if they do cut her , even though she will be back to 100% by mid summer... you guys are right , that isn't as close knit as I imagined. That said the coach called prior to tryouts to encourage her to come .. but then also followed up that there are tons of kids trying out .. I guess it is a wait and see and let her feel sad if she does have to pivot for the fall.. TIA for the comradery ![/quote]

Having gone through this. If it is a serious lower body injury(leg, ankle, etc) it can take up to 6 more months after she is cleared to return to get in form. The last part of it is recovery burst and speed. It will look like she is running in sand. She will also be weaker- go to ground quicker on challenges. Maybe look for different club. There are a lot of good small clubs.

I remember my DD’s leg was a different size after the cast was taken off. It takes a while to rebuild the muscles. Good luck.