2015 girl injury - perspective

[Anonymous]

Omg just stop she’s nine .

Her being healthy is all that matters.

Your kid is not that good they would not have been dropped that is why they didn’t make the team again not the injury. Five other kids were picked over her. They were better.

I’m not being harsh you are making this into something and it’s a nothing

You want your kid to be division one college scholarship. It’s all about you not your kid she’s nine.

Let her be a kid

Let her find other adventures.

This is not her sport for any level but rec kids grow at different rates. A uncoordinated 9 year old can be an excellent athlete at age 13 .

[Anonymous]

OP here - yikes , I am not sure where the idea that this is a top tier team or that I want my daughter to play D1 soccer haha.. I am just sad for her cause it has been a really hard year with her injury and I felt like it would have been the right thing for the program to keep her for a season as she continues to recover. They took 5 new kids as they just moved from 7v7 to 9v9 and had to expand the roster. Anyway, trying to keep a positive perspective for her but was just having a tough time as I know she really loves this team and to play with these close friends she has made and developed with over the past few years. Thanks to all that understood!

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Geez, did they at least try to keep her for the second team and assure you she could work her way back to the first team as she recovers?[/quote]

I had the same question. I have no issue with pushing her down from the first team, if that's what happened. Our daughter had a serious injury at around the same age and was placed on our club's third team (she couldn't play for the whole spring and couldn't do tryouts). We were fine with that and it was unquestionably for the best . . . it gave her the chance to recover and get back up to speed in an environment where it was easier to rebuild confidence and shine (because the competition, both internal and external, was less). She then played her way back up.

I have a much bigger issue with dropping her entirely from any team. That's cruel at this age (especially because most teams have some filler on their lowest U9/U10/U11 teams) and reflects poorly on the club/coaches.[/quote]

Correct, she couldnt participate really at try outs yet and they dropped her from the club. This club had 3 teams and she was the middle level of play. I was shocked they didn't at least offer her to drop. Anyway, thank you all for the sympathy and we will work to build her up!

[Anonymous]

Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

[Anonymous]

It sucks your daughter has to go through this but better to have it happen for the first time now instead of when she is older. She will get through it and be stronger for it. Disappointment like this will happen to everyone eventually, whether it’s soccer teams or school clubs or college applications. Use it as a teachable learning experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

If this was a regular occurrence and the coaches knew and replied as you say, you should/need to report the coaches and club to Safesport. Bullying is not ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

If this was a regular occurrence and the coaches knew and replied as you say, you should/need to report the coaches and club to Safesport. Bullying is not ok.

Youre in denial if you dont think this is happening on most teams.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

Now you share th e full story and admit that you missed many signs over 2 years. Both can be true, that the club is toxic and that you put up with it for 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

Hey, you're not alone. My kid has ADD and can't focus on the coaches when they are talking. I have to let them know it is a real challenge for my DD to listen to them and I also have to counsel her to try harder when they are speaking...its like a light switch though. The coaches do not favor her at all, even though she is top 1/3 player on the team. They are not used to dealing with ADD/ ADHD kids. They want laser focused 11 year olds damn it! And like you, my DD takes a bit of shit from the other kids as she acts differently. Just hang in there, life isn't fair, the soccer community is nuts. Im sure he will be just fine and good luck finding something with a better fit! Also, he can always play rec at a high level. Then maybe, he can put more effort into it at the HS level/ find more success and a better fit! (That's all I am gunning for with my DD.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

This reeks of Arlington.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

If this was a regular occurrence and the coaches knew and replied as you say, you should/need to report the coaches and club to Safesport. Bullying is not ok.

Youre in denial if you dont think this is happening on most teams.

I didn't say it doesn't. I said report it and the coaches. Because it happens, it doesn't make it right. If the kid has ADHD, he is legally considered disabled under the Americans With Disabilities Act. The kids are bullying a disabled kid and the "grown ups" don't give af.

Quit trying to act "the hard man." You need to have a look at yourself. You can be an athlete and be mentally tough but stuff like this isn't ok. If you think it is, you are part of the problem.

Dad, report the coaches and club to Safesport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just chiming in to say my u11 son was also dropped from his club after 2 years, not due to injury, just told it wasn't the right fit, despite him getting a lot of play time all year and no indication to us of the fit not being right until now. Since this decision I've been paying more attention to practices and coaches and have realized it wasn't the kumbya close knit group i thought. The coaches are kind of jerks. Half the kids are kind of jerks. I was naive to it before because my son was having fun and i just didnt put a lot of thought in to it beyond that. But I think ALL travel teams are a bit toxic. I'm not too sad to be moving on. Your daughter might really enjoy rec or might find another great activity! Good luck.

Have you ever considered that your son was a leading jerk and that’s why he got cut? Seems to be a real lack of reflection. No kid getting plenty of time gets cut for “fit” unless the kid is the problem.

Well he has ADHD and the coaches clearly find him annoying because he talks and moves a lot, but no he's not a jerk. Kind of the opposite, he gets pushed around because he wants to fit in. He's always encouraging and positive to others on the team. Several parents have told me that he did or said something meaningful to their player. A couple of weeks back some kids ganged up on him and were tossing around his stuff and roasting him. He mentioned it to the coaches and they said "not my problem". In retrospect a lot of little things like that happened over the past 2 years that I ignored or brushed off. It's only now that we are leaving that Im able to admit the toxicity.

And he is a good enough player to start and get more play time than most. Obviously he's not the star. But the coaches use him to help the team win. He's being cut because he's not part of their in crowd.

Your comment is more evidence that this "community" is nuts. Good ridance!

The bullying is not OK. But as the kids get older team tactics matter just as much as individual skill and ability. If the kid is disruptive to the instructions that does become an increasing problem over time. My adhd kid cannot play team sports at all. Obviously this team is not a good environment for your kid and you are better off going elsewhere. Unfortunately I think it is going to be hard to find a minimally paid travel soccer coach that has the skillset to deal with challenging kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a small club with only one team per age?

VRSC - 2 of her friends families declined to accept the offer after we were cut because of the injury. Oneclubonehomeonefamily my a55