One person in relationship doesn’t like school dances

[Anonymous]

Did he give her his pin yet or are they not officially going steady?

[Anonymous]

This girl could dump your son over this. Would he care if this happens?

[Anonymous]

Meh, if he doesn’t want to go that’s fine. But it’s also likely his gf will find someone who wants to support her and do activities she enjoys instead of staying home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teen is in a relationship. They’ve been dating awhile. One of the two wants to go to a school dance and the other does not. The other who does not is okay with the other one going with friends if they want.

Is there an expectation to be fulfilled if you’re in a relationship to go to these types of things even if you don’t want to?

What are we in the 1950"s??

NO OP how stupid of you.
What is wrong with you?

It is called "freedom of choice" we currently have that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is exactly where you don’t get involved.

❤️ 💜

[Anonymous]

Best part is that OP is concerned about something that, according to her own version of the story, neither of the two people actually involved are upset about.

[Anonymous]

Yeah he is gonna get dumped or at least cheated on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he asking for your advice?

If so, I might say, "You should not do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. But sometimes in relationships, it's nice to do things the other partners likes even if you would prefer not to. Going to a dance is something many girls like to go to with a date, so it's a nice thing to do for your girlfriend."

I think this is fine as long as it goes both ways. If she is willing to do things that he likes that she doesn't enjoy as well then he should reciprocate. If it isn't reciprocated, then she should go with friends.

[Anonymous]

This is up to the dance lover to decide if this is a deal breaker. If it is, then the dance hater is out. If not, then they stay together.

It's good for teens to learn how to make their own decisions and what's important to them.

[Anonymous]

I would butt out and let them work this out themselves without any input from adults. That's what dating as a teenager is all about - learning what you like and don't like in a romantic partner, and learning how to BE a good partner.

[Anonymous]

Your son is embarrassing. Raise him better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teen is in a relationship. They’ve been dating awhile. One of the two wants to go to a school dance and the other does not. The other who does not is okay with the other one going with friends if they want.

Is there an expectation to be fulfilled if you’re in a relationship to go to these types of things even if you don’t want to?

Yes. There is an expectation to be fulfilled. DC can choose not to fulfill it - but that will certainly lead to a break up. We all know this to be true.

[Anonymous]

I think it shows maturity on both sides.
Your kid is advocating for herself saying this is not something I want to do. But is ok with other party going.
Other party is ok going alone and meeting friends.
Great job to both of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it shows maturity on both sides.
Your kid is advocating for herself saying this is not something I want to do. But is ok with other party going.
Other party is ok going alone and meeting friends.
Great job to both of them.

I believe it is the son advocating for himself. I suspect this will end up with him having to fight some guy at school that makes a move on her at the dance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it shows maturity on both sides.
Your kid is advocating for herself saying this is not something I want to do. But is ok with other party going.
Other party is ok going alone and meeting friends.
Great job to both of them.

But having a boyfriend that snubs you going to a dance is lame and selfish. The compromise could be pics, dance for an hour and then his choice of after event location.