What is the line between innocent/fun flirtation and inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

You shouldn’t flirt if you’re married. The problem comes with just regular conversation. Some people interpret pretty much anything as flirting. I’m pretty talkative and I’m also a big NFL and NBA fan as a woman, so I have lots of guy-friendly topics to talk about. But I never know if the guy OR his wife will interpret me being chatty as trying to hit on him, so I tend to keep it more reserved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but dealing with a situation that has caused tension in my household.
What about a woman standing close to a man, being friendly with her hand on his chest?

Yeah, that's over my line unless it's his MIL or kid.

Thanks I agree. Witnessed it twice now, and beginning to think third time might be the last I will want to see. They claim it has never happened when Im not there

[Anonymous]

If someone is going to be hurt by the behavior (whether they happen to see/know it or not)

Unmarried is the time to reflect on each other's sensitivity. Before you marry, not after. Perfect reason to break up - you're not a match.. No need to discern if person is too sensitive or not, or define what is or is not flirting. If it bothers one of you - one person is hurt - you aren't a match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but dealing with a situation that has caused tension in my household.
What about a woman standing close to a man, being friendly with her hand on his chest?

Yeah, that's over my line unless it's his MIL or kid.

Thanks I agree. Witnessed it twice now, and beginning to think third time might be the last I will want to see. They claim it has never happened when Im not there

Np. Hand on chest is pretty personal and (way) over the line. I’m sorry they are responding like this - no way would I believe it.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine got married and she warned me that her inlaws, that family and therefore her DH greeted people very warmly. A customary hello or goodbye was a kiss. Lean in for a slight embrace and a kiss on the cheek. It got uncomfortable for me because we hung out after work at her house, or use to. She had little kids at home. It was a condo complex and the parking wasn't at their door. At night she would ask her husband to walk me to my car.

[Anonymous]

9:52 again. I would be thinking way too much, as we walked to the car .. here comes the kiss. It just couldn't continue like this or something might happen. We (DH and I) stopped the embracing with them. We have been able to remain friends with them, now for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine got married and she warned me that her inlaws, that family and therefore her DH greeted people very warmly. A customary hello or goodbye was a kiss. Lean in for a slight embrace and a kiss on the cheek. It got uncomfortable for me because we hung out after work at her house, or use to. She had little kids at home. It was a condo complex and the parking wasn't at their door. At night she would ask her husband to walk me to my car.

Are these people European? I would be deeply, deeply weirded out by Americans doing this.

[Anonymous]

I think when you both are attracted to each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend’s husband and I have near identical jobs in a niche industry. We are both so excited to talk about how crazy it is and we do talk for nearly the entire time (we’re both just waiting around at the event we have to be at). We’re both very happily married (at least I am. He seems happy). My friend seemed distant so I’ve been making a point of ignoring the guy. Loved hearing about his work though! My own husband wouldn’t care at all- he’s not a jealous type and I’d never cheat.

The whole thing has made me realize you just can’t have opposite sex friends. Kind of sad, but I think that’s the line.

I agree with this. As someone who found out the person I’m with really crossed the line with a female “friend” I feel like it’s better not to have opposite sex friends.

This seems unrealistic especially for those with kids (especially if younger and still often attending birthday parties , play dates etc. where parents mingle ).

I do think it often comes down to physically touching someone the way you wouldn’t touch a friend of the same sex. Pat on the back or shoulder - probably Ok. Arm around someone, long hug or rubbing their back or leg - probably not Ok. Tongue kissing or touching private parts - definitely not Ok. I’d also find holding hands to be pretty violating.

Would also say inviting opposite sex friends out for one on one meet ups that might resemble dates don’t seem advisable. Even if meant to be harmless, risk of being seen by others , and of crossing lines above if drinks are involved.

I think non-parenting friends is different from parenting friends. With parenting friends, you only schedule time to hang out with the kids at kid friendly events or without kids but at school type functions. With personal friends, you make one on one plans.

[Anonymous]

A married person going to a single persons house that the other spouse doesn't know

[Anonymous]

Flirting - Asking a married woman to sit on your face.

Inappropriate - Asking a married woman to play Army. I’ll lay down and you can bl0w the hell out of me.

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask you've probably already crossed the line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine got married and she warned me that her inlaws, that family and therefore her DH greeted people very warmly. A customary hello or goodbye was a kiss. Lean in for a slight embrace and a kiss on the cheek. It got uncomfortable for me because we hung out after work at her house, or use to. She had little kids at home. It was a condo complex and the parking wasn't at their door. At night she would ask her husband to walk me to my car.

Are these people European? I would be deeply, deeply weirded out by Americans doing this.

I know quite a few people who live here that do the air/cheek kiss, my DH's family included. Usually just hello though.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as innocent flirting. Flirting is flirting and is part of hitting on someone. You might just be leading them on if you aren't intending to do anything about it but it is still flirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flirting - Asking a married woman to sit on your face.

Inappropriate - Asking a married woman to play Army. I’ll lay down and you can bl0w the hell out of me.

This is very specific 🤔