Help dress me for work event at a partner’s home

[Anonymous]

jenny kayne skirt with sweater and normal to the knee boots or booties is fine. we had a holiday party for our group and i had several boomer partners want to send out a reminder to people not to wear jeans as they didn't think they were appropriate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the satin slip skirts, but that’s more just that I hate them than that they’re inappropriate.

Satin slip skirts are, in fact, not very wearable. Satin slips used to be worn under skirts, so they wouldn't stick to hose. Satin is also associated with lingerie. I know the new generation pairs everything with everything else and puts underthings over things, but in a more conservative setting where people may be more knowledgeable about the history of clothes... I wouldn't.

I’m sorry, you think I will be judged on the HISTORY of clothes??? So…. It’s what? A wool suit? Do tell.

Don't pretend to be stupid, it doesn't suit you. Satin slips don't go here. Period. I know you're trying to be edgy with your combat boots and jeans to a partner dinner, but either you have to own your very idiosyncratic style, or you have to listen to DCUM advice and go with something more normal. What you can't do is become all argumentative and combative (ha) with posters who are only trying to help, after all.

I actually was not trying to be edgy at all. I wear the boots all the time and simply wasn’t sure what people thought re jeans on a Saturday at home. I think blazer with trouser is too work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your skirt and sweater idea is fine.

Jeans are too casual, and the dress is both too dressy and seems possibly unflattering.

Which dress, help.

The black dress that you were going to wear with the combat boots.

Now I've read some comments, and I think DCUM is giving you bad advice on the satin skirt. I'm seeing them EVERYWHERE this winter, and I think they look really nice.

+1 I think the satin skirt/sweater is perfect. No combat boots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your skirt and sweater idea is fine.

Jeans are too casual, and the dress is both too dressy and seems possibly unflattering.

Which dress, help.

The black dress that you were going to wear with the combat boots.

Now I've read some comments, and I think DCUM is giving you bad advice on the satin skirt. I'm seeing them EVERYWHERE this winter, and I think they look really nice.

Only to people who have no clue about DC and big law firms, or any conservative circle. Also... just because you see something everywhere, doesn't mean YOU should wear it, or that it will reflect well on YOU. Cold-shoulder, anyone? By definition, seeing something everywhere means it appeals to the lowest common denominator. Yuk. Here OP is trying to fit in with a not-the-lowest-common-denominator. Rich, educated, conservative people (even if they profess to liberalism). No satin slips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the satin slip skirts, but that’s more just that I hate them than that they’re inappropriate.

Satin slip skirts are, in fact, not very wearable. Satin slips used to be worn under skirts, so they wouldn't stick to hose. Satin is also associated with lingerie. I know the new generation pairs everything with everything else and puts underthings over things, but in a more conservative setting where people may be more knowledgeable about the history of clothes... I wouldn't.

I’m sorry, you think I will be judged on the HISTORY of clothes??? So…. It’s what? A wool suit? Do tell.

Don't pretend to be stupid, it doesn't suit you. Satin slips don't go here. Period. I know you're trying to be edgy with your combat boots and jeans to a partner dinner, but either you have to own your very idiosyncratic style, or you have to listen to DCUM advice and go with something more normal. What you can't do is become all argumentative and combative (ha) with posters who are only trying to help, after all.

I actually was not trying to be edgy at all. I wear the boots all the time and simply wasn’t sure what people thought re jeans on a Saturday at home. I think blazer with trouser is too work.

Blazer doesn't fit with spouse of partner vibes, OP. It's too careerist. You want to soften your lines. You said you had a velvet skirt? What's wrong with it? The sweater looks nice, but paired with the satin skirt, it's too bland and a slightly under-dressed for the occasion.

[Anonymous]

I would love to borrow your Chanel boots but I would not wear them to this event.

I have a silk skirt and have been wearing it a lot, to work and dinners. It’s not cream though. The cream might make it stand out a lot this time of year, and is a little more lingerie like as pp mentioned. If it were a darker color I think it would be understated and fashionable.

[Anonymous]

Trousers, sweater, booties. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate the satin slip skirts, but that’s more just that I hate them than that they’re inappropriate.

Satin slip skirts are, in fact, not very wearable. Satin slips used to be worn under skirts, so they wouldn't stick to hose. Satin is also associated with lingerie. I know the new generation pairs everything with everything else and puts underthings over things, but in a more conservative setting where people may be more knowledgeable about the history of clothes... I wouldn't.

I’m sorry, you think I will be judged on the HISTORY of clothes??? So…. It’s what? A wool suit? Do tell.

Don't pretend to be stupid, it doesn't suit you. Satin slips don't go here. Period. I know you're trying to be edgy with your combat boots and jeans to a partner dinner, but either you have to own your very idiosyncratic style, or you have to listen to DCUM advice and go with something more normal. What you can't do is become all argumentative and combative (ha) with posters who are only trying to help, after all.

I actually was not trying to be edgy at all. I wear the boots all the time and simply wasn’t sure what people thought re jeans on a Saturday at home. I think blazer with trouser is too work.

You wear the boots all the time. Ergo, not to a dinner with your boss.

[Anonymous]

Law firm partner here: For a spouse, the number one rule is not to stick out. Black pants, nice blouse, cashmere sweater over shoulders. Whatever shoes are not flashy. If you feel compelled to wear a skirt, something mid-length and not satin with a sweater.

[Anonymous]

They’re these, not too crazy
https://images.app.goo.gl/JGosiyQnNRyRiza6A

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Law firm partner here: For a spouse, the number one rule is not to stick out. Black pants, nice blouse, cashmere sweater over shoulders. Whatever shoes are not flashy. If you feel compelled to wear a skirt, something mid-length and not satin with a sweater.

I don’t think anyone actually really has a sweater over their shoulders IRL but I get what you’re saying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Law firm partner here: For a spouse, the number one rule is not to stick out. Black pants, nice blouse, cashmere sweater over shoulders. Whatever shoes are not flashy. If you feel compelled to wear a skirt, something mid-length and not satin with a sweater.

I don’t think anyone actually really has a sweater over their shoulders IRL but I get what you’re saying.

I do. I've done that all my life. What you think of as "Grandma" is the way a lot of conservative UMC people dress, even young ones. I am not the sort of own any combat boots, Chanel or otherwise. I am the sort to wear Hermes scarves and cashmere twin set, with a nice tweed skirt. A la British aristocracy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re these, not too crazy
https://images.app.goo.gl/JGosiyQnNRyRiza6A

Um, NO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Law firm partner here: For a spouse, the number one rule is not to stick out. Black pants, nice blouse, cashmere sweater over shoulders. Whatever shoes are not flashy. If you feel compelled to wear a skirt, something mid-length and not satin with a sweater.

I don’t think anyone actually really has a sweater over their shoulders IRL but I get what you’re saying.

I do. I've done that all my life. What you think of as "Grandma" is the way a lot of conservative UMC people dress, even young ones. I am not the sort of own any combat boots, Chanel or otherwise. I am the sort to wear Hermes scarves and cashmere twin set, with a nice tweed skirt. A la British aristocracy

Enjoy. Im not 80 or cos playing. That just sounds affected and like it would really call attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re these, not too crazy
https://images.app.goo.gl/JGosiyQnNRyRiza6A

Um, NO.

Ha, fine. I can do booties.