Changing my daughter at the pool

[Anonymous]

A family bathroom could still have pee or feces on the floor. OP seems to be seeking a family locker room. Don’t think those are common.

[Anonymous]

I’m the sympathetic mom with a profoundly disabled child who posted about my hsuband needing to deal with this. You have now completely lost me with your “I cannot change her in a stall because of feces” argument. She absolutely needs to be in a stall or shower, etc where she isn’t seen by people. I change my daughter in a stall in women’s restrooms all the time when she leaks through her diaper.

[Anonymous]

We always have our kids change into swimwear before going to swim pool, then after done swimming have them put on swim parka ( add an extra jacket if not warm enough) without changing and go home directly. It’s much easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They need a family changing room.

And a better janitor, it would seem.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you’re going through this OP. I acknowledge it’s hard but like others have said, it’s important to protect your daughter’s privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always have our kids change into swimwear before going to swim pool, then after done swimming have them put on swim parka ( add an extra jacket if not warm enough) without changing and go home directly. It’s much easier.

+1 I’m a woman with 2 girls and we always just have them throw on jackets and shower/change at home.

It seems like you’re just insisting on changing your daughter in the men’s locker room to prove a point rather than out of necessity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We always have our kids change into swimwear before going to swim pool, then after done swimming have them put on swim parka ( add an extra jacket if not warm enough) without changing and go home directly. It’s much easier.

+1 I’m a woman with 2 girls and we always just have them throw on jackets and shower/change at home.

It seems like you’re just insisting on changing your daughter in the men’s locker room to prove a point rather than out of necessity.

+1

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what the right answer here is but I am sorry those people were rude to you and your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP is a woman and her child is a son and she changed the genders for this post.

Agreed, because the below sounds like female behavior.

A man ran over from the showers section and starting loudly admonishing me for bringing my daughter into the men's changing area. I informed him she has severe autism and needs my help changing and he could wait in the other section he was in a few moments if we wanted to avoid seeing her nude by accident (all of us were in swim wear). He replied that this was unacceptable, invaded his "privacy", etc. His friend also came over and joined in the admonishing and we left to avoid further confrontation (we ended up changing in a dirty bath room instead).

[Anonymous]

It is not safe for your daughter to be in the men's locker room with strange men. The men are also at risk of being accused of indecent exposure or other inappropriate behavior that could have real consequences for them.

Changing her at home is the easiest solution. If that doesn't work, talk to the facility manager. But what you are doing isn't a workable solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not safe for your daughter to be in the men's locker room with strange men. The men are also at risk of being accused of indecent exposure or other inappropriate behavior that could have real consequences for them.

Changing her at home is the easiest solution. If that doesn't work, talk to the facility manager. But what you are doing isn't a workable solution.

+1 there is no need to change her in a men’s locker room, period, even if it’s your right. It’s not appropriate. She should not be naked in front of random men, even for just a few minutes. You need to take her into a shower stall for privacy or just get sweats to put on over her bathing suit and wait until you get home to change. Give her the privacy she deserves.

[Anonymous]

OP, The swim teams have long coats that are meant to be thrown over a wet swimsuit. The child changes at home. Swimmers do this all the time if they don’t want to change at the pool. The men have a point. No one can risk being accused of peeping at a teen girl. I would fight for her right to toilet in the men’s room, though. That is a big deal, imo.

[Anonymous]

I think quickly using the toilet is one thing but if you’re insisting on changing her in full view of men then that’s another thing. You can’t do that. If this pool doesn’t have a family bathroom that you can use then you should find another one that does, or throw a robe over her and shower her at home like many parents do.

[Anonymous]

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1241115.page

Go away troll. Your writing style is recognizable from a mile away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think quickly using the toilet is one thing but if you’re insisting on changing her in full view of men then that’s another thing. You can’t do that. If this pool doesn’t have a family bathroom that you can use then you should find another one that does, or throw a robe over her and shower her at home like many parents do.

Except they apparently do have a family/private bathroom- OP just doesn’t want to change his daughter there.