DD texting random guys she "met" on tiktok

[Anonymous]

This is literally how sex trafficking starts these days.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand people who say OP needs to set "boundaries" with her father for simply paying for his granddaughter's phone. You people may put anyone outside your nuclear family at arm's length but others value grandparents and aunts and uncles.

OP, you should immediately take the phone from her and give her a bark phone until she can show you she is capable of making good decisions.

[Anonymous]

This is absolutely terrifying. If I were you I'd have gotten a dumb phone for my kid IMMEDIATELY. I would take away the smart phone for at least a year and reevaluate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be Nigerian scammers

This. My best friends sister was a legit model and fell for this scam. Career over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is literally how sex trafficking starts these days.

The fact that this even needs to be stated and that there are millions of people who don't understand this is just insane to me.

[Anonymous]

At a minimum, block TikTok immediately and keep it blocked.

There is absolutely no need for a kid (anyone, really) to have TikTok on their phone. Period.

[Anonymous]

Take the phone away! Your child is being targeted! This is a red alert situation.

How did she even get their contact info? Pull that thread a bit.

[Anonymous]

A house phone handles the "watching her brother" issue

Is she aware that if she gets traction with any of these tiktok men she's going to pull a sexual predator?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is literally how sex trafficking starts these days.

I really have to agree with this. It really is this simple.

You can take the phone at night, but I think you should be aware of the fact that she is very likely going to start deleting the texts and phone history now that she knows you were checking her phone. You can ask your Father to look up the phone logs, but I truly feel as a matter of safety I would just take her phone as a natural consequence of chatting with people she does not know and sharing person details with strangers.

You will know what a period of time is that would be impactful for her. For some kids that would be a week. For some kids that would be a month. You want to make an impression here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is absolutely terrifying. If I were you I'd have gotten a dumb phone for my kid IMMEDIATELY. I would take away the smart phone for at least a year and reevaluate.

Seriously. This isn’t a question. She does not get a smart phone. God parents can be so spineless.

[Anonymous]

I love how much time you devoted to the fact that she said the B word
FFS

Take the phone away please so you don't end up a dateline story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does your father pay for your daughter's phone?

NP but this is none of your business and has nothing to do with the thread.

[Anonymous]

Why does anyone care about who pays for the phone? Why does anyone care if DD called her mother a swear word?

Is not the serious issue here the fact DD is sharing personal information with men who are grooming her???!!!!!

https://www.missingkids.org/blog/2020/grooming-in-the-digital-age

https://www.internetmatters.org/issues/online-grooming/learn-about-it/#what_is_online-grooming

This is not a ridiculous or remote possibility. This is a very likely almost statistically certain outcome. The OP should be aware that when this situation goes south (once this guy has his meets her in person, buys her haircut, and/or gets nude pictures) this older predator will have the upper hand and the OP is going to have very few options. Parents should become better educated about how these groomers work and be very careful.

[Anonymous]

This is terrifying and I agree 100% with posters who advise you to confiscate her phone immediately.
She gets a basic non-internet connected phone if anything. And that’s it for at least six months.
And also thank you for posting this, OP. Sincerely. It prompted me to have a check-in with my 15 and 17 year old DDs just to reiterate expectations and confirm that they only communicate online with people they already know directly and in person from school or other activities. No friends of friends and certainly no random follows. Instagrams are both set to private and they are cautious about confirming followers and choosy about following. They don’t have TikTok or Snapchat (at first because we said no and now because they have seen that negatives outweigh any benefits and they just don’t want it).

It’s a scary world out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is terrifying and I agree 100% with posters who advise you to confiscate her phone immediately.
She gets a basic non-internet connected phone if anything. And that’s it for at least six months.
And also thank you for posting this, OP. Sincerely. It prompted me to have a check-in with my 15 and 17 year old DDs just to reiterate expectations and confirm that they only communicate online with people they already know directly and in person from school or other activities. No friends of friends and certainly no random follows. Instagrams are both set to private and they are cautious about confirming followers and choosy about following. They don’t have TikTok or Snapchat (at first because we said no and now because they have seen that negatives outweigh any benefits and they just don’t want it).

It’s a scary world out there.

You have no idea what they’re doing behind your back so naive