Getting out of a relationship that I’m not completely sure how I got into
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Anonymous
| All in all, I think this is a good wake up call. I am also non confrontational and ended up in a situation that could have ended badly because of it. Thankfully the guy was a normal human being and handled it how a decent person would. But when I recapped the story to my friend she was like "Jesus, so many things could have gone wrong". And that's when I realized that I needed to learn to be less accommodating and less of a people pleaser. It's a tough pattern to break but I will say my relationships really improved once I started to stand up for myself. |
Anonymous
This!!! Is his name Eldin ? |
Anonymous
| So, OP? What's your plan? |
Anonymous
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It is much easier for both parties if the strings are cut sooner rather than later trust me on this.
The longer this drags on - the tougher it will be to quit it. Just tell him directly that things are not working out on your end. You do not need to explain why. A normal, decent man will let you go + give you what you want. Whereas a psycho will possibly stalk you which may require you to obtain a restraining order which would suck since he knows where you live. Thankfully the latter is a rare occurrence. |
Anonymous
| Do you have kids? |
Anonymous
This is OP. No kids. |
Anonymous
I’m going to let him know today that I don’t see a future in our relationship and I’d like to end it amicably and for him to accept payment so we can both move on. |
Anonymous
Good! You’ve got this! Please report back after. |
Anonymous
After you have sex? |
Anonymous
| Op, do you enjoy his company? Is it just because he is in a blue collar job? I think you need to be honest with yourself about why this happened... did he truly sneak up on your or do you actually like things about him that make you uncomfortable that you won't admit. |
Anonymous
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You are spending days at a time togehter and in a sexual relationship. He is your boyfriend. Have you ever had a conversation at all about this relationship?
You need to break up with him. Don't play dumb, naive, incompetent female. You knew what you were doing - it didn't just happen. Now you need to end it like any dating relationship. |
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You can't force a relationship to end amicably. He gets to have his own feelings about being dumped and he may feel used in various ways or as though you led him on when you never wanted anything long term. He is going to feel how he will feel, especially if the breakup catches him y surprise.
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Anonymous
| I he foreign? |
Anonymous
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My neighbor did this with kitchen contractor except she said he was the hottest man she ever saw. I noticed his work van was at her home all the time for months. She worked from home and owned her own business. They use to take walks around the neighborhood giggling. They moved to GA and got married.
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Anonymous
We’ve never had a proper conversation about it. In some ways I feel like he slipped into my life. When I hired a contractor I never thought this would happen. When I say we spent hours together working out a design, picking materials etc I mean it and in that time we just started talking about ourselves and it became a very comfortable relationship that evolved. Sometimes he would work really late to get something finished I’d end up feeling bad and making him diner so we were also eating together. I think had this not occurred in my home it would have not happened. Our relationship does not extend outside the house though. There are no labels, we don’t go out on dates etc. |