My teenager stole and sold my ADHD meds. I have no idea what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly already issues with this kid if you’ve been keeping your prescriptions locked up.

I don’t think anyone here can give advice because we don’t really know what’s going on in your house. Kinda does seem like a fail on your part given that your daughter is a drug dealer and you are so self absorbed that you don’t even care.

What? No. Normal people lock up controlled substances in their home. It's what your physician advises you to do.

My kid is on stimulant ADHD drugs and I have never been advised to do this. It's not on prescription literature either.

It's a good idea. But not one I have ever been informed about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds trollish. No real drug dealer would be o obvious. Gotta skim and sell for more.

She sold them all in a day. She has clients. She got greedy this time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly already issues with this kid if you’ve been keeping your prescriptions locked up.

I don’t think anyone here can give advice because we don’t really know what’s going on in your house. Kinda does seem like a fail on your part given that your daughter is a drug dealer and you are so self absorbed that you don’t even care.

What? No. Normal people lock up controlled substances in their home. It's what your physician advises you to do.

This isn’t true. Our medicine is in our medicine cabinet and not locked up. While I have not done a survey of our friends, I don’t know anyone who actually locks up drugs in their house.

OP, this is a felony. You seem calm for someone who just found out their child is a drug dealer.

I have had two siblings and one friend have their stomachs pumped as kids for taking various medications from their parents. I personally ate a whole box of chocolate laxatives as a kid. Lock up/and secure your medications folks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is extremely serious, OP.

You MUST deal with it. You have to explain that:
1. Stealing is a crime. She cannot do that ever again.
2. Reselling drugs is a crime. She cannot do that ever again.
3. ADHD stimulants are a controlled substance and make 1 and 2 even worse.
4. She made her parent extremely miserable for a week. Would she be happy if her parent was incapable of working and was fired, leading to her having even less money to play with than she thinks she does? Would she be happy if you were so distracted you got into a car accident and died?

Really make her feel bad about this. Lay it on thick.

And then consequences: grounded for a month. No fun at all. Get a new lock for your meds with new code.

And when the consequences have really begun to sink in... this is when you play nice and ask what's going on in her life to make her act that way. Hopefully nothing too dire.

It’s probably much worse than this. I am very sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Seems like adhd runs in the family. Sdhd can cause reckless and impulsive behaviors. How is your daughter being treated for the condition?

[Anonymous]

You cannot have your 16 year old daughter stealing controlled stimulants and selling them onward to other students. God knows what she's doing with the proceeds. Presumably she's not putting the money in a 529 and saving for college.

You have a big problem. Your daughter is on the edge of destroying other children's lives and getting into some serious criminal problems herself.

You need to have a serious talk about the drugs and how they allow people with ADHD to function. They are prescribed to people with ADHD for a reason. Your brain works differently. You need them if your daughter wants a roof over her head. Selling such drugs is an extremely serious criminal offense. She is of the age where if a DA wants to pursue it she could be charged as an adult and looking at years of jail time. If anyone she sold the drugs to gets hurt or commits a crime, that's on your daughter. And even more charges.

She is on the edge of catastrophe.

Fortunately, it's pretty easy to dole out discipline and consequences to teenagers these days. You take away her phone. It's gone for at least a month. You take away any access to money, and whatever cash you do give her, she needs to show receipts. Her non-school hours are now under strict supervision. Her only way out is to rebuild trust. She's probably using herself, so tell her one more screw up and she's off to rehab. She's looking at a month of suck. It's up to her how things go from there.

Sorry. Better to be a hard ass now, then a lifetime of this crap. You do not want a child going down this road. But the phone and her access to it is a remarkably convenient disciplinary tool. Use it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a troll nice story bro

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids, one's 15 and the younger one's only 6. I woke up this morning and saw my whole month of adhd meds were gone. I always store them in the same place in a locked box and there's no way I misplaced them. I asked my wife and she had no clue either. Then I realised my daughter was acting very defensive when I asked (without accusing her of stealing) if she had any idea where the pills were.

My wife went through her bags and found the empty pill box and a stack of loose fivers in her wallet.

I am very disappointed and also don't know what to do. She has never done anything like this before. I have to wait at least a week to get a refill and I'm really struggling with work. To be honest, I don't even have the energy to discipline her or be mad at her at the moment. I'm so tired.

OP is a Loser on all accounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be so far beyond planet Pissed Off that the light from planet Pissed Off would take 1000 light years to reach me. I'd take everything from her. No phone, no car, no outings, no extracurricular, no money, no job, everything that matters to her would evaporate like dry ice on a hot summer day. I would have her in a strict schedule to ensure enough sleep, exercise, nutrition, and academic stimulation. I would make her "earn" my trust back. With my trust comes privileges and freedom. It would take months. During this time I would (kindly and calmly) ask probing questions to determine if the problem is worse or if there are underlying problems. I would take her for coffee once a week as a "health check". I do this for much more minor infractions and my kids know not to test me. Actually when they are tempted I say "Go ahead, I dare you to test me! I've been honing my patience for this for longer than you've been alive. Don't believe me? Try it." Honestly they take you up on this only once if you are true to your word. "Mom jail" is no fun at first, but does bond you by the end if you implement it correctly.

This is the right answer. Take the phone and ALL privileges away.

[Anonymous]

Does she get an allowance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a troll nice story bro

+1. It is very obvious and I cannot believe others don’t see that and are falling for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids, one's 15 and the younger one's only 6. I woke up this morning and saw my whole month of adhd meds were gone. I always store them in the same place in a locked box and there's no way I misplaced them. I asked my wife and she had no clue either. Then I realised my daughter was acting very defensive when I asked (without accusing her of stealing) if she had any idea where the pills were.

My wife went through her bags and found the empty pill box and a stack of loose fivers in her wallet.

I am very disappointed and also don't know what to do. She has never done anything like this before. I have to wait at least a week to get a refill and I'm really struggling with work. To be honest, I don't even have the energy to discipline her or be mad at her at the moment. I'm so tired.

I bet you are tired. Do you not need them to function? If so, actually either way, I would at least explain to her the consequence of what it does to your body if you cant take your meds and due to their being schedule 1 they cant be replaced. Explain schedule 1 and what would happen if kids or school told police. Beat that into her.

If she isnt mature to see risk is not worth time, effort and money, need to find out why she is doing it (money? bored? validation?). I suspect she has a lot to learn if she thought this was worth it, i.e not impoverished, and shed get away w it. Maybe tell her it is also a stupid use of her time. That might sink in.

She will prob be fine, but you dont want her taking on this role/risk in her social circles. Not worth it even just looking at time factor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would start very calmly and try to get as much info as posssible before you go ballistic — once you do that, you won’t get any info.
Where did she sell them, to whom, how did she find these interested buyers? Why did she think she needed the money? Also did she sell a whole month or just a week? Obviously both very bad but selling 7 pills seems to me not quite as bad as selling t30. Did she take any herself? How many? Why?

I’m not saying this to excuse what she did but the answers will help you figure out what kind of a problem you have here.

Plus, you must immediately contact the parents of each pupil who purchased these prescription-only pharmaceuticals, to inform them of the danger to their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dang. Your daughter is a drug dealer to minors and you are concerned that you have to wait a whole week to get YOUR fix. Do you understand how stupid you sound? Odds are, she sells at school. Your family is all jacked up.

WTF? Would you be saying this if OP had a heart condition and was telling you that his heart was racing and he was feeling ill because he hadn't been able to take his medication for a whole week?

+1, PP was disgusting and ignorant. If OP is like other such non-NTs, the medicine is necessary and suddenly going w/on it is a big deal. There is a reason why scientists, doctors, the govenment, schools and researchers all *recommend* he take it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would start very calmly and try to get as much info as posssible before you go ballistic — once you do that, you won’t get any info.
Where did she sell them, to whom, how did she find these interested buyers? Why did she think she needed the money? Also did she sell a whole month or just a week? Obviously both very bad but selling 7 pills seems to me not quite as bad as selling t30. Did she take any herself? How many? Why?

I’m not saying this to excuse what she did but the answers will help you figure out what kind of a problem you have here.

Plus, you must immediately contact the parents of each pupil who purchased these prescription-only pharmaceuticals, to inform them of the danger to their child.

DONT DO THIS