My teenager stole and sold my ADHD meds. I have no idea what to do.

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Anonymous wrote:The fact that you stored it in a locked box in your own home tells me that you’re not as surprised as you claim to be.

It’s a faux thread.

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This is wild.

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Anonymous wrote:This is wild.

What is? It’s made up. It that wild?

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Obvious solution is to outbid kid's classmates.

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Anonymous wrote:Does she get an allowance

2 pills a week to spend however she wants.

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly already issues with this kid if you’ve been keeping your prescriptions locked up.

I don’t think anyone here can give advice because we don’t really know what’s going on in your house. Kinda does seem like a fail on your part given that your daughter is a drug dealer and you are so self absorbed that you don’t even care.

What? No. It's good practice to keep meds locked up with any kids in the house. They have a 6 year old. Any responsible parent keeps serious meds locked up.

Who locks up meds at home? Even toddlers won't be opening Rx pill bottles as they are tamper resistant. I mean DH has meds and our DS is in ADHD and DD on anxiety meds and none of us touch another's meds. Seriously why would you feel it necessary to lock up serious meds when stored properly, no 6 yr old could get to those meds unless that kid had a prob doing things they shouldn't be doing anyway? You all have some troubled families!

I didn’t read all the replies before I posted the same thing. I’ve never locked up medications in my own home, that’s crazy.

Locking up things I need, like drugs and guns, is ridiculous!

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Anonymous wrote:Obvious solution is to outbid kid's classmates.

The right answer.

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids, one's 15 and the younger one's only 6. I woke up this morning and saw my whole month of adhd meds were gone. I always store them in the same place in a locked box and there's no way I misplaced them. I asked my wife and she had no clue either. Then I realised my daughter was acting very defensive when I asked (without accusing her of stealing) if she had any idea where the pills were.

My wife went through her bags and found the empty pill box and a stack of loose fivers in her wallet.

I am very disappointed and also don't know what to do. She has never done anything like this before. I have to wait at least a week to get a refill and I'm really struggling with work. To be honest, I don't even have the energy to discipline her or be mad at her at the moment. I'm so tired.

How can "fivers" be "loose" in a wallet?

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I’d be very alarmed. And I say that as a parent of a teen who has done some wild sh*t. There is something more nefarious about stealing and selling a parents medication though that goes beyond usual teen shenanigans.

I’d take a hard look at her friendships. She’s obviously mixed up in some associates who either encouraged this or helped her find buyers.

My guess is that she’s at minimum involved in vaping and pot/alcohol use. Drug test her to find out.


I keep adhd meds in my purse and I had pills siphoned out of my purse at a friends house who had a bunch of teenagers over at the time. Trust me this stuff happens. It’s not stupid to at least keep this stuff hidden away - even if you trust your kids you can’t trust their friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Dang. Your daughter is a drug dealer to minors and you are concerned that you have to wait a whole week to get YOUR fix. Do you understand how stupid you sound? Odds are, she sells at school. Your family is all jacked up.

This. The grounding I would do would be legendary. There would be no f's given for her discomfort. I'd make it clear that if I ever saw any similar drug related activity the police would be involved. I would let her know I would consider disowning her over this. This is so serious you need to go nuclear.

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I locked up ADHD meds for a while because my son's capsule had been emptied. I couldn't say who did it - we had cleaners, babysitters, family, and friends going through the house then. I strongly suspected who it was, but I had nothing to back it up. It was heartbreaking because my son needs the meds to get through school, and I had to go to the doctor to plead for more that month. So, I get where you're coming from, OP.

Do you know for certainty it was your daughter?

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When Mom was enrolled in hospice in her home her meds were locked in a combination lock tackle box supplied by hospice.

The hospice RN said it is usually family members of the loved one that steal the drugs, not paid caregivers.

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My college student did this with her own ADHD medication’s. The discovery led to a much bigger problem that was happening with her using that money to purchase other illicit drugs. So yes, I would definitely look closer. It might be going on.

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Anonymous wrote:This is extremely serious, OP.

You MUST deal with it. You have to explain that:
1. Stealing is a crime. She cannot do that ever again.
2. Reselling drugs is a crime. She cannot do that ever again.
3. ADHD stimulants are a controlled substance and make 1 and 2 even worse.
4. She made her parent extremely miserable for a week. Would she be happy if her parent was incapable of working and was fired, leading to her having even less money to play with than she thinks she does? Would she be happy if you were so distracted you got into a car accident and died?

Really make her feel bad about this. Lay it on thick.

And then consequences: grounded for a month. No fun at all. Get a new lock for your meds with new code.

And when the consequences have really begun to sink in... this is when you play nice and ask what's going on in her life to make her act that way. Hopefully nothing too dire.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I would start very calmly and try to get as much info as posssible before you go ballistic — once you do that, you won’t get any info.
Where did she sell them, to whom, how did she find these interested buyers? Why did she think she needed the money? Also did she sell a whole month or just a week? Obviously both very bad but selling 7 pills seems to me not quite as bad as selling t30. Did she take any herself? How many? Why?

I’m not saying this to excuse what she did but the answers will help you figure out what kind of a problem you have here.

Plus, you must immediately contact the parents of each pupil who purchased these prescription-only pharmaceuticals, to inform them of the danger to their child.

Um, no. Don’t willingly incriminate your daughter.

But do punish her severely and get your house in order. She is in crisis.