Emailing with young counselor?
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Anonymous
| OP who sent the first email? I’d want to know how this started and how they even got each other’s email addresses to begin with. As others have said this is wildly inappropriate. |
Anonymous
He's trying to be nice and not hurt her feelings so let's ruin his life |
Anonymous
| You are the parent. Tell your *DD* to stop. FFS. |
Anonymous
Why a doesn’t HE stop? He is 20 something. |
Anonymous
| How did she get his email address? That is strictly forbidden at my kids' camps. |
Anonymous
He should stop. But you don't control him. We don't have enough details. What he's doing is wrong but he doesn't have the perspective of a full adult/parent. It's highly possible the messages he's sending are kind and he's not saying anything inappropriate. Don't start off adolescence off with a victim mentality where everyone else was wrong and hurt you. Teach your DD to be smart, aware, and protect herself. |
Anonymous
I agree. It's like people are afraid to parent their children. |
Anonymous
This OP It is highly inappropriate. That camp needs to be notified and told in no uncertain terms their counselors should not do this. |
Anonymous
No absolutely not. Make or female. Counselors are employees of the camp they are not your kids from make female no |
Anonymous
At my kids camp, they come home with an address book that includes all campers and staff addresses and emails. They do ask prior if you want to be included in this. But it’s a single gender camp. Even so, a cont back and forth from the 20 yr old guy is inappropriate. One email response, maybe but after that he should have stopped responding. Her DD would move on just fine. But even if the 11 yr old googled this guy and found his email from somewhere, why would he respond then? Anyone with two cents would just ignore the 11 yr old’s email, especially if he didn’t publish his email or give it to her. |
Anonymous
Was this a religious camp? Either still inappropriate period |
Anonymous
Op says he’s sending short replies and I’m assuming nothing inappropriate or she would have said so. This is on op to manage her dd. If op goes to the camp this will likely explode the guy’s life. Op needs to tell her dd she is watching her account and that it’s not appropriate to be emailing the counselor. She needs to actively parent her child. |
Anonymous
Doesn’t matter. He should be sending no reply. Why is he continuing? I agree no need to implode his life and “report” him anywhere given the details so far, but he should know better than to be continually engaging with her every email |
Anonymous
I agree OP. In addition to a short and concise note telling him to not contact your DD or reply to her, I’d also tell the camp. That isn’t meant to be punitive to him. He hasn’t done anything illegal and it won’t have an impact on him personally. Perhaps the camp doesn’t hire him next summer, but he likely doesn’t care and will move on to a real job this year. But it will help the camp in future training of counselors to explicitly outline how to handle these situations |
Anonymous
| I would contact the camp without naming names regarding their training or policies. My kids have gone to a camp for years where they have gotten the contact info of their counselors - there is no policy on that. The camp needs to give better guidance. You don’t have to specifically name the young man to do this. Sounds to me like he hasn’t been given any guidance on how to respond so he is giving these short answers |