When will St Mary’s/Alexandria publicly announce Honor Roll?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even though this is a troll, I will bite-- what kind of "public announcement" are you looking for? I truly don't know what you mean by this. Like, your kid's name in the newsletter? Why would this be important to you?

They announce in emails every silly, mundane “accomplishment” by students, including sports stuff. You’d think that a SCHOOL would celebrate and publicly congratulate those who do well ACADEMICALLY as well. It used to be pretty common.

But I guess nowadays, they don’t want to hurt anyone’s iddy biddy feelings. Especially big donors’.

Well it sure seems like your "iddy biddy feelings" have been hurt.

What did the school say when you asked why it wasn't included?

Sorry your child didn’t make honor roll. But hopefully they’ll get “student of the month” — for helping to hand out pencils or whatever they give it for. Which the school plasters all over the place (in the lobby, etc) and has a special assembly to publicly congratulate.

So bizarre.

I’m glad you’ve increased your vocabulary…from weird to bizarre. Bravo!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Back again with a new thread? Time to take your kids out of St. Mary’s since you are so unhappy.

We are at another Alexandria parochial and they don’t make any announcements. The kids get honor roll certificates with their report cards.

That’s sad. Too bad your school doesn’t celebrate or acknowledge students who worked hard and excelled — presumably just to spare the feelings of those who didn’t.

You should save your money and go public. They too don’t really value academics.

St Mary’s traditionally publicly announced both Honor Roll and Principal’s List. Hopefully that hasn’t changed (eg, just bc some big donor’s kid didn’t make it).

You’re a pleasant person, aren’t you?

What about the kids who worked extremely hard, but “only” earned a C because of challenges your perfect child doesn’t have to endure.

Perhaps that child’s accomplishments are actually greater than your child’s, who may not have to work hard to get an A.

Honor Roll isn’t for kids who “worked the hardest.” It’s for the kids who ACCOMPLISHED. If you want the former, start a new award for “hardest worker.”

Your mentality likely is exactly why st Mary’s stopped announcing honor roll. Sad to see it poison private schools now too.

If you have learning disabilities and you improved by two grade levels, you ACCOMPLISHED more than an inherently academic child who got the expected A performing the expected work.

I’m sorry if you (oops… I mean your child) has to share the limelight with others who may not be so effortlessly and naturally gifted in the skills required to perform in a traditional school.

- private school teacher who sees accomplishment in ALL its forms

[Anonymous]

Why can’t the school just be normal? Acknowledge and celebrate kids’ academic accomplishments. Not lose dozens of teachers/staff every year. Have a functional middle school.

It’s not hard. I don’t envy the school’s leadership who have to deal with all these needy parents who want to impose silly, new-age changes that they read about on Facebook or The Atlantic. Like, “it’s not inclusive to celebrate honor roll.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back again with a new thread? Time to take your kids out of St. Mary’s since you are so unhappy.

We are at another Alexandria parochial and they don’t make any announcements. The kids get honor roll certificates with their report cards.

That’s sad. Too bad your school doesn’t celebrate or acknowledge students who worked hard and excelled — presumably just to spare the feelings of those who didn’t.

You should save your money and go public. They too don’t really value academics.

St Mary’s traditionally publicly announced both Honor Roll and Principal’s List. Hopefully that hasn’t changed (eg, just bc some big donor’s kid didn’t make it).

You’re a pleasant person, aren’t you?

What about the kids who worked extremely hard, but “only” earned a C because of challenges your perfect child doesn’t have to endure.

Perhaps that child’s accomplishments are actually greater than your child’s, who may not have to work hard to get an A.

Honor Roll isn’t for kids who “worked the hardest.” It’s for the kids who ACCOMPLISHED. If you want the former, start a new award for “hardest worker.”

Your mentality likely is exactly why st Mary’s stopped announcing honor roll. Sad to see it poison private schools now too.

If you have learning disabilities and you improved by two grade levels, you ACCOMPLISHED more than an inherently academic child who got the expected A performing the expected work.

I’m sorry if you (oops… I mean your child) has to share the limelight with others who may not be so effortlessly and naturally gifted in the skills required to perform in a traditional school.

- private school teacher who sees accomplishment in ALL its forms

St Mary’s also has “Most Improved” awards for students who went up by 10 pct or more in a subject. But they didn’t announce those either. So those kids weren’t celebrated either.

I guess they’re just coddling the kids who didn’t achieve anything academically — honor roll, improvement, etc.

But hang on if someone comes in 4th place in some CYO sport — theyll send a thousand emails announcing it!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t the school just be normal? Acknowledge and celebrate kids’ academic accomplishments. Not lose dozens of teachers/staff every year. Have a functional middle school.

It’s not hard. I don’t envy the school’s leadership who have to deal with all these needy parents who want to impose silly, new-age changes that they read about on Facebook or The Atlantic. Like, “it’s not inclusive to celebrate honor roll.”

Frankly, it’s NOT inclusive. You can still choose to have one and that’s fine, but it isn’t inclusive. I used to be all for honor rolls for my first kid, who breezed her way to straight As in honors/AP/etc. And then my second started school. She had to work harder because of documented learning differences. She accomplished more than my older daughter did, but would get the occasional C. She never made honor roll even though she far exceeded her growth expectations. When you see it through the lens of different learners, you realize honor rolls aren’t inclusive.

I don’t personally care if you have one or not. My daughter knows her strengths and her value, so she doesn’t need public acknowledgment to make her feel good. I’m not going to storm our private school and tell them to stop these assemblies because they aren’t inclusive. The same way my daughter needs help for her dyslexia, some other kid needs this extrinsic motivation to feel accomplished.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back again with a new thread? Time to take your kids out of St. Mary’s since you are so unhappy.

We are at another Alexandria parochial and they don’t make any announcements. The kids get honor roll certificates with their report cards.

That’s sad. Too bad your school doesn’t celebrate or acknowledge students who worked hard and excelled — presumably just to spare the feelings of those who didn’t.

You should save your money and go public. They too don’t really value academics.

St Mary’s traditionally publicly announced both Honor Roll and Principal’s List. Hopefully that hasn’t changed (eg, just bc some big donor’s kid didn’t make it).

You’re a pleasant person, aren’t you?

What about the kids who worked extremely hard, but “only” earned a C because of challenges your perfect child doesn’t have to endure.

Perhaps that child’s accomplishments are actually greater than your child’s, who may not have to work hard to get an A.

Honor Roll isn’t for kids who “worked the hardest.” It’s for the kids who ACCOMPLISHED. If you want the former, start a new award for “hardest worker.”

Your mentality likely is exactly why st Mary’s stopped announcing honor roll. Sad to see it poison private schools now too.

If you have learning disabilities and you improved by two grade levels, you ACCOMPLISHED more than an inherently academic child who got the expected A performing the expected work.

I’m sorry if you (oops… I mean your child) has to share the limelight with others who may not be so effortlessly and naturally gifted in the skills required to perform in a traditional school.

- private school teacher who sees accomplishment in ALL its forms

St Mary’s also has “Most Improved” awards for students who went up by 10 pct or more in a subject. But they didn’t announce those either. So those kids weren’t celebrated either.

I guess they’re just coddling the kids who didn’t achieve anything academically — honor roll, improvement, etc.

But hang on if someone comes in 4th place in some CYO sport — theyll send a thousand emails announcing it!!

Perhaps you can teach your child to look for intrinsic rewards and not external ones. This will help foster strong mental health anyway.

[Anonymous]

As a St. Mary’s parent, this is one of the strangest rants about the school
I’ve seen in quite awhile… I hope this person finds peace and validation in other ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back again with a new thread? Time to take your kids out of St. Mary’s since you are so unhappy.

We are at another Alexandria parochial and they don’t make any announcements. The kids get honor roll certificates with their report cards.

That’s sad. Too bad your school doesn’t celebrate or acknowledge students who worked hard and excelled — presumably just to spare the feelings of those who didn’t.

You should save your money and go public. They too don’t really value academics.

St Mary’s traditionally publicly announced both Honor Roll and Principal’s List. Hopefully that hasn’t changed (eg, just bc some big donor’s kid didn’t make it).

You’re a pleasant person, aren’t you?

What about the kids who worked extremely hard, but “only” earned a C because of challenges your perfect child doesn’t have to endure.

Perhaps that child’s accomplishments are actually greater than your child’s, who may not have to work hard to get an A.

Honor Roll isn’t for kids who “worked the hardest.” It’s for the kids who ACCOMPLISHED. If you want the former, start a new award for “hardest worker.”

Your mentality likely is exactly why st Mary’s stopped announcing honor roll. Sad to see it poison private schools now too.

If you have learning disabilities and you improved by two grade levels, you ACCOMPLISHED more than an inherently academic child who got the expected A performing the expected work.

I’m sorry if you (oops… I mean your child) has to share the limelight with others who may not be so effortlessly and naturally gifted in the skills required to perform in a traditional school.

- private school teacher who sees accomplishment in ALL its forms

St Mary’s also has “Most Improved” awards for students who went up by 10 pct or more in a subject. But they didn’t announce those either. So those kids weren’t celebrated either.

I guess they’re just coddling the kids who didn’t achieve anything academically — honor roll, improvement, etc.

But hang on if someone comes in 4th place in some CYO sport — theyll send a thousand emails announcing it!!

Perhaps you can teach your child to look for intrinsic rewards and not external ones. This will help foster strong mental health anyway.

Perhaps someone can teach non Honor Roll kids (and their parents) that instead of whining about others being acknowledged for their accomplishments, they should just work harder so that they too can accomplish things. This would help foster strong mental health as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a St. Mary’s parent, this is one of the strangest rants about the school
I’ve seen in quite awhile… I hope this person finds peace and validation in other ways.

That’s nice. But do you have anything substantive to add? Like ideas why principals list and honor roll weren’t announced?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a St. Mary’s parent, this is one of the strangest rants about the school
I’ve seen in quite awhile… I hope this person finds peace and validation in other ways.

That’s nice. But do you have anything substantive to add? Like ideas why principals list and honor roll weren’t announced?

Why do you think anyone here knows? Don’t you think if they did, they would have chimed in by now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a St. Mary’s parent, this is one of the strangest rants about the school
I’ve seen in quite awhile… I hope this person finds peace and validation in other ways.

That’s nice. But do you have anything substantive to add? Like ideas why principals list and honor roll weren’t announced?

Why do you think anyone here knows? Don’t you think if they did, they would have chimed in by now?

This statement could be posted in reply to 99 pct of DCUM questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back again with a new thread? Time to take your kids out of St. Mary’s since you are so unhappy.

We are at another Alexandria parochial and they don’t make any announcements. The kids get honor roll certificates with their report cards.

That’s sad. Too bad your school doesn’t celebrate or acknowledge students who worked hard and excelled — presumably just to spare the feelings of those who didn’t.

You should save your money and go public. They too don’t really value academics.

St Mary’s traditionally publicly announced both Honor Roll and Principal’s List. Hopefully that hasn’t changed (eg, just bc some big donor’s kid didn’t make it).

You’re a pleasant person, aren’t you?

What about the kids who worked extremely hard, but “only” earned a C because of challenges your perfect child doesn’t have to endure.

Perhaps that child’s accomplishments are actually greater than your child’s, who may not have to work hard to get an A.

Honor Roll isn’t for kids who “worked the hardest.” It’s for the kids who ACCOMPLISHED. If you want the former, start a new award for “hardest worker.”

Your mentality likely is exactly why st Mary’s stopped announcing honor roll. Sad to see it poison private schools now too.

If you have learning disabilities and you improved by two grade levels, you ACCOMPLISHED more than an inherently academic child who got the expected A performing the expected work.

I’m sorry if you (oops… I mean your child) has to share the limelight with others who may not be so effortlessly and naturally gifted in the skills required to perform in a traditional school.

- private school teacher who sees accomplishment in ALL its forms

St Mary’s also has “Most Improved” awards for students who went up by 10 pct or more in a subject. But they didn’t announce those either. So those kids weren’t celebrated either.

I guess they’re just coddling the kids who didn’t achieve anything academically — honor roll, improvement, etc.

But hang on if someone comes in 4th place in some CYO sport — theyll send a thousand emails announcing it!!

Perhaps you can teach your child to look for intrinsic rewards and not external ones. This will help foster strong mental health anyway.

Perhaps someone can teach non Honor Roll kids (and their parents) that instead of whining about others being acknowledged for their accomplishments, they should just work harder so that they too can accomplish things. This would help foster strong mental health as well.

Wasn’t this thread started by a parent whining about not getting acknowledged? Everyone should get to whine, OP. Equal whining!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a St. Mary’s parent, this is one of the strangest rants about the school
I’ve seen in quite awhile… I hope this person finds peace and validation in other ways.

That’s nice. But do you have anything substantive to add? Like ideas why principals list and honor roll weren’t announced?

If you’re looking for substance, call the school for their response first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a St. Mary’s parent, this is one of the strangest rants about the school
I’ve seen in quite awhile… I hope this person finds peace and validation in other ways.

That’s nice. But do you have anything substantive to add? Like ideas why principals list and honor roll weren’t announced?

Why do you think anyone here knows? Don’t you think if they did, they would have chimed in by now?

This statement could be posted in reply to 99 pct of DCUM questions.

And it probably is true for 98%. People just post to complain, not to get actual answers and this OP is no exception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back again with a new thread? Time to take your kids out of St. Mary’s since you are so unhappy.

We are at another Alexandria parochial and they don’t make any announcements. The kids get honor roll certificates with their report cards.

That’s sad. Too bad your school doesn’t celebrate or acknowledge students who worked hard and excelled — presumably just to spare the feelings of those who didn’t.

You should save your money and go public. They too don’t really value academics.

St Mary’s traditionally publicly announced both Honor Roll and Principal’s List. Hopefully that hasn’t changed (eg, just bc some big donor’s kid didn’t make it).

You’re a pleasant person, aren’t you?

What about the kids who worked extremely hard, but “only” earned a C because of challenges your perfect child doesn’t have to endure.

Perhaps that child’s accomplishments are actually greater than your child’s, who may not have to work hard to get an A.

Honor Roll isn’t for kids who “worked the hardest.” It’s for the kids who ACCOMPLISHED. If you want the former, start a new award for “hardest worker.”

Your mentality likely is exactly why st Mary’s stopped announcing honor roll. Sad to see it poison private schools now too.

If you have learning disabilities and you improved by two grade levels, you ACCOMPLISHED more than an inherently academic child who got the expected A performing the expected work.

I’m sorry if you (oops… I mean your child) has to share the limelight with others who may not be so effortlessly and naturally gifted in the skills required to perform in a traditional school.

- private school teacher who sees accomplishment in ALL its forms

St Mary’s also has “Most Improved” awards for students who went up by 10 pct or more in a subject. But they didn’t announce those either. So those kids weren’t celebrated either.

I guess they’re just coddling the kids who didn’t achieve anything academically — honor roll, improvement, etc.

But hang on if someone comes in 4th place in some CYO sport — theyll send a thousand emails announcing it!!

Perhaps you can teach your child to look for intrinsic rewards and not external ones. This will help foster strong mental health anyway.

Perhaps someone can teach non Honor Roll kids (and their parents) that instead of whining about others being acknowledged for their accomplishments, they should just work harder so that they too can accomplish things. This would help foster strong mental health as well.

What does “work harder” look like to you?

Imagine a 1 mile race equalling 4 times around a football field. Your child, being of standard abilities, can run on her two feet. Another child, with limitations, needs to use crutches. Naturally your child will finish first, but who worked harder? What about the child who, through no fault of his own, wasn’t able to start at the same time and had to start all 4 laps while your child starts lap 3? Did he work harder if he almost catches up with your daughter at the finish line?

You are BLESSED if you have never had to work with a child with disabilities. Perhaps instead of accusing the people trying to educate you of “whining”, you can realize that an award ceremony isn’t really that big of a deal. The accomplishment is the big deal — not the recognition.

Be kinder.