Men, if you don't want kids, whats the reason?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never wanted the responsibility kids bring. Or pets. It’s always been my wife who has initiated these things. Obviously I’ve agreed to it, but it’s never been my idea to take on new obligations.

However, my kids (and the dogs) have been wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never wanted the responsibility kids bring. Or pets. It’s always been my wife who has initiated these things. Obviously I’ve agreed to it, but it’s never been my idea to take on new obligations.

However, my kids (and the dogs) have been wonderful.

I think most men are pretty simple and just go along with it. But, if you left it up to them, a lot of them would not actively try for kids, though they would very much enjoy the act of producing them.

[Anonymous]

Men's default view is no kids or wife because it adds responsibility, ties you down, etc. It only changes if you meet a good woman and she wants kids. So it's honestly not surprising he has no answer because women despise men they can call "commitment-phobic"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious. Dating a man who says he never wanted kids before me not even with his ex wife. When I ask why he can't explain. He just says he never wanted to be a father. I'm curbing on dcum old age though lol but if there are other men with the same line of thinking, why did you never want kids?

That's a huge responsibility and life/career changing decision. Also a very expensive choice. If you divorce, you end up with 18 years of alimony and child support and then college costs a ton. Unless one really likes kids and has a stable marriage, its not a choice to be taken lightly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious. Dating a man who says he never wanted kids before me not even with his ex wife. When I ask why he can't explain. He just says he never wanted to be a father. I'm curbing on dcum old age though lol but if there are other men with the same line of thinking, why did you never want kids?

That's a huge responsibility and life/career changing decision. Also a very expensive choice. If you divorce, you end up with 18 years of alimony and child support and then college costs a ton. Unless one really likes kids and has a stable marriage, its not a choice to be taken lightly.

Up to 21 in NY. F***g NY I have to pay child support until our son is 21. Sorry had to inject some ranting got triggered lol.

[Anonymous]

I think OP has it backwards. You really need to have a strong desire to HAVE kids to have them. Many of our problems in our society are caused by people having children they really do/did not want and don't care about. We have thousands of children being raised in households here they are not prioritized and it leads to many issues.

Not me, to two of my best friends are very happy in DINK marriages. Children are expensive and totally time consuming. These friends both found careers that they loved and pastimes that they loved. They wanted to invest their time and money into their careers and avocations. They enjoy the freedom to engage in new endeavors when they want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP has it backwards. You really need to have a strong desire to HAVE kids to have them. Many of our problems in our society are caused by people having children they really do/did not want and don't care about. We have thousands of children being raised in households here they are not prioritized and it leads to many issues.

Not me, to two of my best friends are very happy in DINK marriages. Children are expensive and totally time consuming. These friends both found careers that they loved and pastimes that they loved. They wanted to invest their time and money into their careers and avocations. They enjoy the freedom to engage in new endeavors when they want to.

I don't have strong desire to HAVE kids because I never had any of my own. I can rarely be affectionate and sweet to other people's rude or bratty kids but I do get a want when I come across a kid who is sweet or funny. My cousin who is a notorious cheater and whose own child called her by her first name for the first 8 yrs of his life is ultra affectionate and sweet to other people's kids. She's not an ideal parent though. So there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish I could date him. That is what I am looking for.

What are you talking about there are plenty of men out there that don't want kids?!

Not in my experience. My ex-husband agreed not to have kids and then he “changed his mind” and we have two. since I’ve been dating, every single man has wanted kids and I’m done with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never wanted the responsibility kids bring. Or pets. It’s always been my wife who has initiated these things. Obviously I’ve agreed to it, but it’s never been my idea to take on new obligations.

However, my kids (and the dogs) have been wonderful.

Agree.
I have no patience either.