Do you think your kid is cuter than average?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one or two friends with really homely pre-schoolers. But the majority are super-cute, and their parents would be right to say they were above average. Even thought I know those numbers don't work out!

And some of those homely preschoolers grow into beauties.

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Anonymous wrote:I have one or two friends with really homely pre-schoolers. But the majority are super-cute, and their parents would be right to say they were above average. Even thought I know those numbers don't work out!

And some of those homely preschoolers grow into beauties.

Absolutely. One of my closest friends had a baby who... I love her, I love her kids, but this baby was just not cute. So I said, "oh my goodness, she is just the picture of her father! I want to kiss that little face!" That was absolutely true. (Between you and me, I don't find her husband all that attractive, either, but what are you gonna do.) Fast forward seven years, and her little girl is really growing into her looks. She's happy, polite, cute, smart, an all-around great kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one or two friends with really homely pre-schoolers. But the majority are super-cute, and their parents would be right to say they were above average. Even thought I know those numbers don't work out!

And some of those homely preschoolers grow into beauties.

It's definitely possible. One in particular has a gorgeous mother. And even if they end up on the lower end of the physical attractiveness spectrum, they are MY friends' kids, which means they will grow up to be smart and funny and kind, just like their parents.

I agree with OP's mom. It's like Lake Wobegone, where all the children are above average. That's as it should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never say this if it weren't an anonymous forum, but .... my DD who's 9 is not cute in the traditional way, but I think she's going to be beautiful -- like model beautiful -- as an adult. I say this because she's got a perfectly straight nose, high cheekbones, almond-shaped green eyes -- all bone structure kind of things. Not anything she gets from me!

By age 9 many girls are no longer cute or attractive. Just present as clean or pleasant. Your DD sounds beautiful. If she has clear skin and a good figure in the traditional sense as a teen I'd recommend her going to coed schools [public or private]. Girls who are beautiful have a rough time of it in the single sex schools.

[Anonymous]

DS #1 was okay as a baby and became more endearing. His big blue eyes help him greatly. DS #2 looked like a gargoyle for a long 5 or 6 months. I was actually worried that he wouldn't work his way out of it. Now with his gigantic brown eyes, thick wavy hair and the way he will strike up a conversation with anyone, he is absolutely gorgeous. I think #2 will hold his handsomeness in a more classical way, whereas #1 will be the artist/ skaterboy type that make good girls feel swoon-y inside.
Just a mom's take. I, of course, think they are more beautiful than David/ Adonnis/ Robert Pattinson.

[Anonymous]

Girls who are beautiful have a rough time of it in the single sex schools.

This is actually, very good advice. Not so much of a concern for the boys schools unless the boy is prettier than usual, but girls can be a bit terrible to girls they deem a threat. *sigh*

[Anonymous]

Yes. I do. And your mom is right in most cases, but not in mine.

(Actually, that feeling that my child was so much cuter than the others eventually faded and I realized he's a nice looking kid - some would think him very cute, and some have other preferences...)

[Anonymous]

LOL-ing at the gargoyle comment. I think my kids are fairly average looking. They don't have any features that stand out in a good or bad way. But I don't have any problem admitting (to myself, of course) that there are much better-looking children around. So whenever anyone tells me that they're "so cute", I know they're lying!

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Girls who are beautiful have a rough time of it in the single sex schools.

This is actually, very good advice. Not so much of a concern for the boys schools unless the boy is prettier than usual, but girls can be a bit terrible to girls they deem a threat. *sigh*

Then why are all the Mean Girls still generally the most beautiful girls, at least at DD's all girls school (notorious for its mean girls).

[Anonymous]

I think my son was an exceptionally beautiful baby. He's a little more awkward as a toddler but still adorable. I don't think he will be cuter than average when he is older. The qualities that are endearing about him as a toddler (roundness, etc.) are likely to stick around longer than society would deem cute. (Of course, I don't know for sure, but if his father and I are any indication...).

FWIW, my most beautiful friends now were not at all attractive as babies/children.

[Anonymous]

I think my son was an exceptionally beautiful baby. He's a little more awkward as a toddler but still adorable. I don't think he will be cuter than average when he is older. The qualities that are endearing about him as a toddler (roundness, etc.) are likely to stick around longer than society would deem cute. (Of course, I don't know for sure, but if his father and I are any indication...).

FWIW, my most beautiful friends now were not at all attractive as babies/children.

[Anonymous]

My father-in-law, joking at everyone's comments how cute DD was, said "well, you know what they say: pretty in the cradle, ugly at the table". DH and I are average, but DD is cuter than average. I'm really hoping that saying doesn't stick! (FIL wasn't trying to be mean or anything, he is the nicest guy I know.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By age 9 many girls are no longer cute or attractive. Just present as clean or pleasant. Your DD sounds beautiful. If she has clear skin and a good figure in the traditional sense as a teen I'd recommend her going to coed schools [public or private]. Girls who are beautiful have a rough time of it in the single sex schools.

God, people can be such freaks.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course I do. I think everybody thinks that their kids are cuter than average. Maybe not the cutest, but above-average for sure. It's nature. Your kids look like you/your partner which you have already trained yourself to find attractive after years of looking in the mirror.

Not sure I agree with this. We got lots of comments from friends and strangers alike that DS is "beautiful." (People stop us on the street to say that, so it's not just polite small talk.) Of course, I agree! But, I think DS's physical beauty comes from not looking anything like is very average parents.

What are they going to tell you? That your kid is ugly?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think my toddler is cuter than average. Since he was a baby, people stop us all the time to tell us.

But it's also true that I have lied before to other parents and felt the need to offer a "cute" comment even if the baby was a gargoyle.