Bikini line

[Anonymous]

My teen DD always wore little bikinis and now as an older teen wears string bikinis and such. She just kind of knew that if she wants to wear those tiny bathing suits then she needs to trim up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

I think it's more than social norms. Some things on your body are private and the whole world doesn't need to know the color of your pubic hair. Maybe I'm more sensitive to this because I have red hair and got comments about it in my teens, but it's ridiculous to support a world in which my kids' teacher, who goes to the same pool, would know what her students' pubic hair looks like because "body positivity."

[Anonymous]

Grooming Standards and Gender standards have changed - what we grew up with in the 70s-90s is no more. Let her choose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I say something to my teen DD who um..apparently doesn’t care to do much grooming down there? She is a younger teen but has razors available and knows how to use them. I don’t care if she shaves her legs or underarms. I hate to tell her what to do with her body hair, but going to a public pool or beach with hair sticking out the sides of your bathing suit seems inappropriate and embarrassing. But she doesn’t seem to care- it isn’t a matter of she just doesn’t realize. WWYD? So far I’ve not brought it up the lack of grooming.

OF COURSE you do. You're her parent so parent her. Make her aware of the issue and what people may think/do. Only then do you let her suffer the consequences if she decides not to handle it. But you at least TELL her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

I think it's more than social norms. Some things on your body are private and the whole world doesn't need to know the color of your pubic hair. Maybe I'm more sensitive to this because I have red hair and got comments about it in my teens, but it's ridiculous to support a world in which my kids' teacher, who goes to the same pool, would know what her students' pubic hair looks like because "body positivity."

It’s up to the individual to decide if that’s private for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

I think it's more than social norms. Some things on your body are private and the whole world doesn't need to know the color of your pubic hair. Maybe I'm more sensitive to this because I have red hair and got comments about it in my teens, but it's ridiculous to support a world in which my kids' teacher, who goes to the same pool, would know what her students' pubic hair looks like because "body positivity."

It’s up to the individual to decide if that’s private for them.

So anything goes? Everyone at the pool knows what color a young girl's pubic hair is. Why teach them that nobody should touch them in private places without permission if nothing is private?

Op just tell her. Don't be the mom who let's her kid be embarrassed hoping they'll just figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Help your DD out! I had no idea how to deal with my bikini line as a young teen. Shaving didn’t work for me (constant razor burn and ingrowns) so I would have appreciated some options. My mom was a hippie-dippie who wore men’s board shorts to the beach and she never addressed it with me, and I was too embarrassed to discuss it with friends because none of them seemed to have this problem. I mostly dreaded putting on a bathing suit for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Agree with those who say please tell your daughter. My mom let me go with a unibrow for most of middle/high school and it was my friend's mom who finally pointed it out and said I should just use tweezers. I was embarrassed of course, but also so grateful that she mentioned it. I wish my mom would have done so much much earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grooming Standards and Gender standards have changed - what we grew up with in the 70s-90s is no more. Let her choose.

I don’t think this is even slightly true with regard to pubes hanging out of your swimsuit.

[Anonymous]

Agree you need to tell her. Not only might she not realize that other people trim, but she may not realize how much it is showing. This is on the same level as telling her that her underwear is showing through her leggings, which she can't see herself.

If think if she knows the norm and knows what is showing, that is a more difficult parenting call. Unshaven legs and underarms are fine in my house but visible pubes would be a "sorry, that's not appropriate" situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

I think it's more than social norms. Some things on your body are private and the whole world doesn't need to know the color of your pubic hair. Maybe I'm more sensitive to this because I have red hair and got comments about it in my teens, but it's ridiculous to support a world in which my kids' teacher, who goes to the same pool, would know what her students' pubic hair looks like because "body positivity."

It’s up to the individual to decide if that’s private for them.

So anything goes? Everyone at the pool knows what color a young girl's pubic hair is. Why teach them that nobody should touch them in private places without permission if nothing is private?

Op just tell her. Don't be the mom who let's her kid be embarrassed hoping they'll just figure it out.

Ugh, the tortured processes of your mind!

[Anonymous]

Get her a trimmer instead of a razor and let her know that she needs to trim if she wants to wear a smaller suit. She would always wear board shorts or something similar if she doesn't want to trim. I think shaving is intimidating sometimes and causes more problems (bumps, etc..) that it is worth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

I think it's more than social norms. Some things on your body are private and the whole world doesn't need to know the color of your pubic hair. Maybe I'm more sensitive to this because I have red hair and got comments about it in my teens, but it's ridiculous to support a world in which my kids' teacher, who goes to the same pool, would know what her students' pubic hair looks like because "body positivity."

It’s up to the individual to decide if that’s private for them.

So anything goes? Everyone at the pool knows what color a young girl's pubic hair is. Why teach them that nobody should touch them in private places without permission if nothing is private?

Op just tell her. Don't be the mom who lets her kid be embarrassed hoping they'll just figure it out.

It's just hair. Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG just tell her. Some kids are clueless. I’d have been so pissed if my mom just let me walk around like that and didn’t bother to explain that 99% of women do some hair removal before wearing a bikini.

Seriously. It’s like teaching manners and hygiene. This forum has become so obsessed with not hurting girls’ feelings that we’re not teaching them what they need to know as young members of society. Don’t wait until she’s humiliated by some peer or boy for fear of being woke.

Signed, a Liberal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m horrified by this post and many like it. You tell your daughter, make sure she knows, and allow her to make an informed decision. it’s cruel to not discuss it. And in all fairness you should be sure she understands social norms, she can choose to disregard them but at least she knows.

I think it's more than social norms. Some things on your body are private and the whole world doesn't need to know the color of your pubic hair. Maybe I'm more sensitive to this because I have red hair and got comments about it in my teens, but it's ridiculous to support a world in which my kids' teacher, who goes to the same pool, would know what her students' pubic hair looks like because "body positivity."

It’s up to the individual to decide if that’s private for them.

So anything goes? Everyone at the pool knows what color a young girl's pubic hair is. Why teach them that nobody should touch them in private places without permission if nothing is private?

Op just tell her. Don't be the mom who lets her kid be embarrassed hoping they'll just figure it out.

It's just hair. Lighten up.

Please post a pic of yourself at the community pool with your pubes hanging out.