Bikini line

[Anonymous]

Tell her that you don't want her to feel embarrassed and that her age it's not custom to have pubic hair on display, especially in American culture. She can either ask for information from you about shaving/trimming/waxing/grooming and/or buy suit bottoms that make it all irrelevant. Her body. Her choice. But she's informed.

[Anonymous]

What if it was a male in a speedo with hair sticking out, how ok would some of you be with that? It's all natural.

Why would any mom NOT let her DD know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if it was a male in a speedo with hair sticking out, how ok would some of you be with that? It's all natural.

Why would any mom NOT let her DD know?

I’m fine with that. There’s really no difference between leg hair and pubic hair to me. I understand most people don’t think like that and choose to remove hair. Both are valid choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I say something to my teen DD who um..apparently doesn’t care to do much grooming down there? She is a younger teen but has razors available and knows how to use them. I don’t care if she shaves her legs or underarms. I hate to tell her what to do with her body hair, but going to a public pool or beach with hair sticking out the sides of your bathing suit seems inappropriate and embarrassing. But she doesn’t seem to care- it isn’t a matter of she just doesn’t realize. WWYD? So far I’ve not brought it up the lack of grooming.

I had to tell my sister, the 55 year old woman, just a few years ago. No problems since then

[Anonymous]

My young teen wears boy short cut bottoms because she isn’t interested in shaving (I don’t blame her, our skin is prone to ingrown hair and razor burn) and when I offered waxing she was rather horrified by the concept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her that you don't want her to feel embarrassed and that her age it's not custom to have pubic hair on display, especially in American culture. She can either ask for information from you about shaving/trimming/waxing/grooming and/or buy suit bottoms that make it all irrelevant. Her body. Her choice. But she's informed.

Out of curiosity, is there a culture where pubic hair IS displayed?

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of those cases where natural consequences will take care of things. Either another teen will mock her, another mom will scold her or a gross dad will ogle her and make her uncomfortable. And then she will deal with it.

So you parent by waiting for your child to be publicly humiliated? Thank god you weren’t my mother.

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[Anonymous]

Bring it up and offer to buy supplies to take care of or board shorts but if she blows you off let her be. She will either wave her hairy flag without shame bc she truly doesn’t care or someone will embarrass her and she will adjust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if it was a male in a speedo with hair sticking out, how ok would some of you be with that? It's all natural.

Why would any mom NOT let her DD know?

Dear God. I am so glad I do not have to deal with this "it's just your body" stuff IRL. These people come to your house and like take dumps in your powder room, fart, smell bad and do all kinds of stuff that they think is just natural but is just gross.

[Anonymous]

I bought my 12yo daughter razors and nair and just said to her frankly, many women who have hair beyond their bathing suit line choose to remove it, it’s up to you if you want to, or just want shorts or suits that are longer. If you want to you can use a razor or try this hair remover cream, you use it like this (explained directions) and assured her it was up to her and moved on. No big deal, I don’t know what she is doing beyond wearing a regular suit and no hair showing.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her! What’s the big deal? My mom never did any kind of personal grooming and I wish she had given us more guidance and instead I’d have to find out from my friends. Tell her and get her an electric personal groomer so she can do it herself since she sounds a bit young for waxing. They’re gentle and don’t hurt and simple to use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bring it up and offer to buy supplies to take care of or board shorts but if she blows you off let her be. She will either wave her hairy flag without shame bc she truly doesn’t care or someone will embarrass her and she will adjust.

OP here. Yeah, this is sort of what I was asking. She has razors. I’ve already had the general talk with her about what hair removal options are, where women typically remove hair, and sort of left it as here are the tools, but you pick what you want to do since it’s your body. She is familiar with how to use a razor and last year she did use it pretty regularly (including bikini line). It’s just this year she seems to not care about bikini line.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bring it up and offer to buy supplies to take care of or board shorts but if she blows you off let her be. She will either wave her hairy flag without shame bc she truly doesn’t care or someone will embarrass her and she will adjust.

OP here. Yeah, this is sort of what I was asking. She has razors. I’ve already had the general talk with her about what hair removal options are, where women typically remove hair, and sort of left it as here are the tools, but you pick what you want to do since it’s your body. She is familiar with how to use a razor and last year she did use it pretty regularly (including bikini line). It’s just this year she seems to not care about bikini line.

This isn't that uncommon among the younger generation. I'm not saying it's the norm - it is not - but it's not unheard of either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d just say “most girls and women don’t show pubic hair in public. We can groom the hair or buy bottoms that cover it better. It’s really up to you what you prefer.”

This. Perfect, when said in the right (kind, matter of fact) way and at the right time (not while wearing said non-conforming piece).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bring it up and offer to buy supplies to take care of or board shorts but if she blows you off let her be. She will either wave her hairy flag without shame bc she truly doesn’t care or someone will embarrass her and she will adjust.

OP here. Yeah, this is sort of what I was asking. She has razors. I’ve already had the general talk with her about what hair removal options are, where women typically remove hair, and sort of left it as here are the tools, but you pick what you want to do since it’s your body. She is familiar with how to use a razor and last year she did use it pretty regularly (including bikini line). It’s just this year she seems to not care about bikini line.

This isn't that uncommon among the younger generation. I'm not saying it's the norm - it is not - but it's not unheard of either.

The switch from last year is relevant, sounds like she’s making a choice. And I agree with PP, it’s more common than when we were kids