Bikini line

[Anonymous]

When I was that age, I wished my mother would’ve given me guidance. I remember having armpit hair and being too embarrassed to ask for razor. I also remember being relieved when my mother asked if I wanted a bra.

Maybe she’s okay with this, or maybe she’s not. As parents though, I think it’s our responsibility to check and provide guidance on what’s appropriate, even if she is okay with it.

[Anonymous]

I am probably the loan dissenter here. I would tell her she needs to shave or wax (happy to take her) or wear board shorts at the pool. No way my kid is walking around with pubic hair hanging out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bring it up and offer to buy supplies to take care of or board shorts but if she blows you off let her be. She will either wave her hairy flag without shame bc she truly doesn’t care or someone will embarrass her and she will adjust.

OP here. Yeah, this is sort of what I was asking. She has razors. I’ve already had the general talk with her about what hair removal options are, where women typically remove hair, and sort of left it as here are the tools, but you pick what you want to do since it’s your body. She is familiar with how to use a razor and last year she did use it pretty regularly (including bikini line). It’s just this year she seems to not care about bikini line.

This isn't that uncommon among the younger generation. I'm not saying it's the norm - it is not - but it's not unheard of either.

The switch from last year is relevant, sounds like she’s making a choice. And I agree with PP, it’s more common than when we were kids

Maybe she’s just lazy. Personally, that’s not a hygiene “choice” I’d respect. Just like I wouldn’t let her go around with an unwiped butt or unbrushed teeth.

[Anonymous]

Better to embarrass her now than let her get embarrassed in public, or buy her some swim shorts to go over it and if she asks why she has to wear them, be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if it was a male in a speedo with hair sticking out, how ok would some of you be with that? It's all natural.

Why would any mom NOT let her DD know?

I have had conversations with hairy teen son repeatedly about grooming. First his prepubescent mustache, then his unruly and stinky under arm hair and then mentioned manscaping. It’s not a step by step detailed conversation more of a, “hey, it’s totally fine to keep things presentable” to witch he immediately sent me a link to a men’s grooming thing which I ordered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I say something to my teen DD who um..apparently doesn’t care to do much grooming down there? She is a younger teen but has razors available and knows how to use them. I don’t care if she shaves her legs or underarms. I hate to tell her what to do with her body hair, but going to a public pool or beach with hair sticking out the sides of your bathing suit seems inappropriate and embarrassing. But she doesn’t seem to care- it isn’t a matter of she just doesn’t realize. WWYD? So far I’ve not brought it up the lack of grooming.

You do! Same as if you said take a shower or brush your teeth. Pubes are in a sexual area. Would you let her walk around without underwear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I say something to my teen DD who um..apparently doesn’t care to do much grooming down there? She is a younger teen but has razors available and knows how to use them. I don’t care if she shaves her legs or underarms. I hate to tell her what to do with her body hair, but going to a public pool or beach with hair sticking out the sides of your bathing suit seems inappropriate and embarrassing. But she doesn’t seem to care- it isn’t a matter of she just doesn’t realize. WWYD? So far I’ve not brought it up the lack of grooming.

If she's not bothered, then it doesn't matter. Women have body hair, big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do I say something to my teen DD who um..apparently doesn’t care to do much grooming down there? She is a younger teen but has razors available and knows how to use them. I don’t care if she shaves her legs or underarms. I hate to tell her what to do with her body hair, but going to a public pool or beach with hair sticking out the sides of your bathing suit seems inappropriate and embarrassing. But she doesn’t seem to care- it isn’t a matter of she just doesn’t realize. WWYD? So far I’ve not brought it up the lack of grooming.

Of course it’s up to a family member or close friend to say trim it. Just say trim the line, no one wants to see anyones pubes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do I say something to my teen DD who um..apparently doesn’t care to do much grooming down there? She is a younger teen but has razors available and knows how to use them. I don’t care if she shaves her legs or underarms. I hate to tell her what to do with her body hair, but going to a public pool or beach with hair sticking out the sides of your bathing suit seems inappropriate and embarrassing. But she doesn’t seem to care- it isn’t a matter of she just doesn’t realize. WWYD? So far I’ve not brought it up the lack of grooming.

If she's not bothered, then it doesn't matter. Women have body hair, big deal.

Come on.
Pubic hair is way thicker, darker, and coarser than body hair or head hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if it was a male in a speedo with hair sticking out, how ok would some of you be with that? It's all natural.

Why would any mom NOT let her DD know?

+10000

Good analogy too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG just tell her. Some kids are clueless. I’d have been so pissed if my mom just let me walk around like that and didn’t bother to explain that 99% of women do some hair removal before wearing a bikini.

Exactly! She is a kid, she doesn't even know this is a thing. If no one tells her how will she know?