Everything I do is “spoiling” according to my mother

[Anonymous]

I think it’s odd that OP cares at all. My mom gives me her opinion on things all the time — and I’m like “ok uh huh cool I disagree” and we move on. If you feel good about your decisions surrounding your kids, then just leave it be. “If that’s spoiling, then I like spoiling them.” End of convo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s odd that OP cares at all. My mom gives me her opinion on things all the time — and I’m like “ok uh huh cool I disagree” and we move on. If you feel good about your decisions surrounding your kids, then just leave it be. “If that’s spoiling, then I like spoiling them.” End of convo.

OP here. Teach me your ways. I have the hardest time ngaf about this, because of all the people who shouldn’t judge me for this bs, I think my mother should be at the top of the list! I’m just trying to figure out what her issue is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does your mom know all these details about your life?

As I said, she was shopping with us. And she called to talk to me and I answered. People are so weird tonight!

Why do you have to explain to your mom you can’t talk. “Mom, I can’t talk. I’ll call you tomorrow.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

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I’m not sure if spoiled is the right word but it sure does sound like you bend over backwards to make things “just so” for your children. Borderline unhealthy, especially with the silence requirement in the house because a six-year-old needs a few extra minutes of sleep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

+1

I’m not sure if spoiled is the right word but it sure does sound like you bend over backwards to make things “just so” for your children. Borderline unhealthy, especially with the silence requirement in the house because a six-year-old needs a few extra minutes of sleep.

DP and disagree. You put your kids needs as a priority and sleep is super important especially at that age. I would do the same exact thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

+1

I’m not sure if spoiled is the right word but it sure does sound like you bend over backwards to make things “just so” for your children. Borderline unhealthy, especially with the silence requirement in the house because a six-year-old needs a few extra minutes of sleep.

DP and disagree. You put your kids needs as a priority and sleep is super important especially at that age. I would do the same exact thing.

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The PPs seem to be the difficult ones, in the name of giving OP a hard time. Everything she said sounds completely rational to me, as a parent with an overtired kid. Mine gets hyper when overtired and yes, I guess I overindulge by keeping the house as stimulant-free as possible when it happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

+1

I’m not sure if spoiled is the right word but it sure does sound like you bend over backwards to make things “just so” for your children. Borderline unhealthy, especially with the silence requirement in the house because a six-year-old needs a few extra minutes of sleep.

DP and disagree. You put your kids needs as a priority and sleep is super important especially at that age. I would do the same exact thing.

This is PP and I totally agree, but forcing the whole household to live in silence while your child is sleeping is over the top.

[Anonymous]

This is not cognitive decline, your mother is critical. You need a comeback when she throws these zingers at you. “Why are you being so critical, mom? Do I comment on your shirt/jacket/shoes? In case you have forgotten, my money, my decision.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

+1

I’m not sure if spoiled is the right word but it sure does sound like you bend over backwards to make things “just so” for your children. Borderline unhealthy, especially with the silence requirement in the house because a six-year-old needs a few extra minutes of sleep.

DP and disagree. You put your kids needs as a priority and sleep is super important especially at that age. I would do the same exact thing.

This is PP and I totally agree, but forcing the whole household to live in silence while your child is sleeping is over the top.

It was one night. ONE NIGHT!

[Anonymous]

Why did you even answer the phone to tell her you couldn't talk? Seems a little dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who can remember not being able to sleep due to their mom talking on the phone or watching tv too loud? Our house was small so maybe that’s why. But my mom was like OPs mom in that any little thing or show of affection was spoiling. It’s a terrible way to grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids they they can only sleep in pure silence but wear $30 shorts?

You raise a good point. Wonder if OP will answer. It sounds like she's talking about toddlers but then the shorts thing makes you wonder.

Way to derail things. Imagine having kids different ages! I have a tween, and school aged kids (8, 6)

I was buying my tween clothes and getting my youngest kid(s), but mainly my 6yo, to bed early. Sheesh.

You seem … difficult.

+1

I’m not sure if spoiled is the right word but it sure does sound like you bend over backwards to make things “just so” for your children. Borderline unhealthy, especially with the silence requirement in the house because a six-year-old needs a few extra minutes of sleep.

DP and disagree. You put your kids needs as a priority and sleep is super important especially at that age. I would do the same exact thing.

This is PP and I totally agree, but forcing the whole household to live in silence while your child is sleeping is over the top.

It was one night. ONE NIGHT!

So don't answer the phone! Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who can remember not being able to sleep due to their mom talking on the phone or watching tv too loud? Our house was small so maybe that’s why. But my mom was like OPs mom in that any little thing or show of affection was spoiling. It’s a terrible way to grow up.

But if you know your parent is like this at some point you figure out work arounds and how to manage. You might think "I'm not going to answer the phone b/c if I tell her I can't talk now because the kids are sleeping she will give me a hard time." I mean, come on. At some point the reaction is entirely predictable and you come up with ways to minimize the frustration.

[Anonymous]

I’m
Stuck at you can’t talk on the phone because your kids are asleep!
You live in a shoebox or your kids have bionic hearing??