We don’t agree on moving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dont move yet. If dh is working from home/communal space then hes using all the amenities and the gym etc. He will be in the house more if you move and it will be much more annoying for the nanny and him.

OP here. He works from home 1-2 times a week and goes into the office the rest of the time. He travels for work a couple of times a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My husband thinks we should stay here until kid(s) are old ready to go to school. His logic is we will be breaking even because of taxes and upkeep for a home.

He is right about that, however you'll be not building any equity and home prices would be higher when you are ready to buy.

If you agree to keep renting, stay in 2 bed, save and invest all extra money so you are in a good position when you are ready to buy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My husband thinks we should stay here until kid(s) are old ready to go to school. His logic is we will be breaking even because of taxes and upkeep for a home.

He is right about that, however you'll be not building any equity and home prices would be higher when you are ready to buy.

If you agree to keep renting, stay in 2 bed, save and invest all extra money so you are in a good position when you are ready to buy.

OP here. We have enough money to purchase a house in cash. We will be able to afford a home in 4-5 years.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, it seems like this building fits your life style perfectly and two babies plus two jobs and a big home while he often travels, is a lot to chew. May be stay untill both kids can go to full time preschool and y'all have a better grasp on life. You don't want unnecessary strain on yourselves or on your marriage. So many couples mess up marriages trying to achieve every milestone before Jonses.

[Anonymous]

May be get a cheap small storage unit nearby to keep house low clutter.

[Anonymous]

When we left our perfect apartment for a house, it was intimidating but it all worked out well. Just don't get a sucky location, keep commute short.

[Anonymous]

I would stay put. The lack of a commute means you have a couple extra hours a day for the gym or to relax or spend with your child. Once you add a commute and you lose having amenities right there, you now also have to drive to the gym and drive to the stores and you lose a lot of the free time you have now.

[Anonymous]

We rented in a similar 2 bed high rise with incredible building amenities in Boston for $9k per month. We made the move to purchase a house 2 years ago and we're spending this weekend touring high rise units. We miss the pool and gym, the room service, the valet parking, concierge to handle your packages and deliveries, etc etc etc. That's all pretty hard to leave. Our daughter misses the amenities too. Just think about what you're leaving and how that will impact your quality of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, it seems like this building fits your life style perfectly and two babies plus two jobs and a big home while he often travels, is a lot to chew. May be stay untill both kids can go to full time preschool and y'all have a better grasp on life. You don't want unnecessary strain on yourselves or on your marriage. So many couples mess up marriages trying to achieve every milestone before Jonses.

OP here. I do agree with this. Our life is easier now with less commute and near all amenities. We have a huge gym and pool that we unlimited free access to. Our nanny also works out after work.

I personally hate clutter and kids come with a lot of it. I just wish our unit was a little bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We rented in a similar 2 bed high rise with incredible building amenities in Boston for $9k per month. We made the move to purchase a house 2 years ago and we're spending this weekend touring high rise units. We miss the pool and gym, the room service, the valet parking, concierge to handle your packages and deliveries, etc etc etc. That's all pretty hard to leave. Our daughter misses the amenities too. Just think about what you're leaving and how that will impact your quality of life.

OP here. This is pretty much identical to what we have now.

I wish we had more space but then my husband brings me back to reality. I can’t imagine having a 30+ commute when I have such little time with my child in the evenings.

[Anonymous]

Do you live in DC? This is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you live in DC? This is insane.

OP here. I’m not comfortable disclosing where I live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, it seems like this building fits your life style perfectly and two babies plus two jobs and a big home while he often travels, is a lot to chew. May be stay untill both kids can go to full time preschool and y'all have a better grasp on life. You don't want unnecessary strain on yourselves or on your marriage. So many couples mess up marriages trying to achieve every milestone before Jonses.

OP here. I do agree with this. Our life is easier now with less commute and near all amenities. We have a huge gym and pool that we unlimited free access to. Our nanny also works out after work.

I personally hate clutter and kids come with a lot of it. I just wish our unit was a little bigger.

Declutter, add more storage (under beds, verticle shelves, all tables with hidden storage) and organize smartly, may be pay for an extra parking space and park a cheap van you can use for storage.

[Anonymous]

This is just for few years so you can push through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, it seems like this building fits your life style perfectly and two babies plus two jobs and a big home while he often travels, is a lot to chew. May be stay untill both kids can go to full time preschool and y'all have a better grasp on life. You don't want unnecessary strain on yourselves or on your marriage. So many couples mess up marriages trying to achieve every milestone before Jonses.

OP here. I do agree with this. Our life is easier now with less commute and near all amenities. We have a huge gym and pool that we unlimited free access to. Our nanny also works out after work.

I personally hate clutter and kids come with a lot of it. I just wish our unit was a little bigger.

Declutter, add more storage (under beds, verticle shelves, all tables with hidden storage) and organize smartly, may be pay for an extra parking space and park a cheap van you can use for storage.

OP here. We have maximized our storage. We don’t own a car because everything is walkable and we have a valet service for Uber.