DH furious that we texted him during a job interview

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman.
I work and I would kill DH if he texted me like this.
You 2 are way too co-dependent.

I'm also a woman and would be super annoyed if my husband did this. BUT I would not curse at him.

[Anonymous]

Everyone sucks here.

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. I have my phone on mute the entire day. It does not ping or ring, and I can check messages when I am ready. I thought most adults knew how to do this.

Ignore all the PPs. This is a skill we all learned in 2010. I don't think twice about texting most of my family and friends because they have all mastered silent mode, as well.

OP, you've done nothing wrong. I likewise just did my taxes yesterday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both are immature.

+1

[Anonymous]

Were the doctors forms for you or him? I would be surprised the office would agree to email him your forms and if they were his forms, stop doing that for him.

[Anonymous]

It's not even noon. Surely all of this bullshit wasn't so urgent that it could not wait.

[Anonymous]

Tell him exactly this: "Why didn't you silence your phone? Live and learn I guess."

[Anonymous]

OP -
The taxes: we actually filed yesterday but saw the rejection today. Figured I can quickly take care of it and when I saw it was a PIN # issue, it was a couple of texts to him to get his. He must not have been interviewing at that moment because he responded, but should have said...btw, my interview is in a xx minutes. Then my DD had some news and texted both of us. We are going back and forth because it was pretty exciting news but obviously he is getting a notification with each response. I'd say about 6 texts total. The doctors office>> it's actually for experimental treatment and I had this time booked with them specifically to handle the paperwork. It was unfortunate that my laptop wasn't allowing me to sign any of the documents and they suggested that my husband sign them instead. Due to their security, they had to provide a code with each form so it really had to be done all at once. I just hope he gets the job!

[Anonymous]

What kind of idiot doesn’t silence his phone before an interview???

And what kind of cognitive problems does he have that he doesn’t silence his phone after the first notification during an interview?

You need to make an appointment for your husband to get screened for Alzheimer’s and dementia. This level of cognitive decline is not normal. It might even be a brain tumor or cancer.

Maybe take out a substantial life insurance policy before the diagnosis…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman.
I work and I would kill DH if he texted me like this.
You 2 are way too co-dependent.

You're a double-posting troll, more likely. Either way, you have rage issues and need to calm down.

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed at being texted so many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should have turned off notifications and also made sure his taxes were done before April 15 if he had an important interview scheduled on the 15th. He also can't expect DD not to text the family group chat because he might be on an interview.

This is the adult behavior option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What kind of idiot doesn’t silence his phone before an interview???

And what kind of cognitive problems does he have that he doesn’t silence his phone after the first notification during an interview?

You need to make an appointment for your husband to get screened for Alzheimer’s and dementia. This level of cognitive decline is not normal. It might even be a brain tumor or cancer.

Maybe take out a substantial life insurance policy before the diagnosis…

Harsh... but fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You realize that he and you are feeling a lot of stress today and you let it go.

+1

If you both cannot apologize to each other
If he can't admit that he should have turned off/DND his phone
If you can't admit that the amount of texts you (and inadvertently DD, who deserves NO blame) sent were excessive for any work day
If you let this stew and fester between you....

Then you have bigger issues, both of you.

It was a hugely stressful day for you both and you both blew it. It happens. His not turning off the phone was unintentional. Your getting a bit panicked and texting him about taxes and doctors was unintentional--well, the panic was; the texting was how it manifested. Each of you needs to acknowledge to the other that this was all a classic clusterf**k of forgetfulness, panicky behavior and lack of communication (if the interview was crucial...why didn't you just know that, as a matter of course, because married people talk about stuff that's crucial?). He should have turned his phone completely off, as in, not DND but freaking totally off, after the very first text. You should have halted all texting if he didn't respond after the first one, and assumed something un-interruptable was going on at work. But it's all over now, so you need to both apologize and not stew. And you both need to calm down and sit down to discuss and FIX his lack of phone knowledge, your insistence that things are so vital they must be Dealt With This Instant, and overall planning.

And yeah, taxes seem vital on April 15, but frankly being dinged on your taxes or having to deal with the doctor's office tomorrow is neither one as bad as ending up with a mess so bad a spouse is texting FU.

[Anonymous]

You suck, op.