Moving to another state without a ring?

[Anonymous]

After a few years, no ring, absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Would he do the same for you? I learned this hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I moved across the Atlantic, OP, after my boyfriend proposed on the second date. We had never lived together or gone on many dates. No ring, no plan, no date.

24 years later, we're still here, with a college freshman and a high schooler. Married 20 years.

Nobody should move anywhere with anyone after two dates.

[Anonymous]

We did this, and yes it was me who asked him to move as I was going to grad school across the country. He had a govt defense job and was able to transfer to another one in the new city. That was 1987. We are now together for 39 years, married for 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved across the Atlantic, OP, after my boyfriend proposed on the second date. We had never lived together or gone on many dates. No ring, no plan, no date.

24 years later, we're still here, with a college freshman and a high schooler. Married 20 years.

Nobody should move anywhere with anyone after two dates.

My DH proposed to me on our 2nd date. I made him wait 2 years That proposal was in 1997. Still together.

[Anonymous]

I would not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No ring, no move.

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+1

[Anonymous]

No. After 2 years, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved across the Atlantic, OP, after my boyfriend proposed on the second date. We had never lived together or gone on many dates. No ring, no plan, no date.

24 years later, we're still here, with a college freshman and a high schooler. Married 20 years.

Nobody should move anywhere with anyone after two dates.

You're saying I shouldn't have?

[Anonymous]

do you really want to get married at 24?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I moved across the Atlantic, OP, after my boyfriend proposed on the second date. We had never lived together or gone on many dates. No ring, no plan, no date.

24 years later, we're still here, with a college freshman and a high schooler. Married 20 years.

Nobody should move anywhere with anyone after two dates.

You're saying I shouldn't have?

Sounds like PP needed to scold you for something that happened over two decades ago that turned out completely fine. People can be so weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:do you really want to get married at 24?

Ring doesn't mean instant marriage and kids, it means showing seriousness and giving your commitment. Many of my friends were engaged for 1-4 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do it if it’s a nice location. I think 20s is a great time to experience new cities.
If the location sucks then I would stay out and see how distance goes.
I don’t know your type of social circle but in mine 24 is very young for a ring.

Yes! Take every opportunity at your age to do something new!

[Anonymous]

It's a good way to get your butt moving out of your current situation. I moved to another state by doing this, as did my sister. Nether of us stayed with our guys but the moves led to wonderful opportunities. My sister's daughter did this in the "family tradition." Led to much better things. We see people who never leave their home state, never. SMH.

[Anonymous]

Are you in love? How well do you get along? Do you feel he is your soulmate?