What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?

It sounds like OP's family is way less formal/posh than her boyfriend's family. That's why she's having issues.

Okay but the reality is she is overthinking it.

If they are a-holes it doesn't matter what she wears and if they are nice it doesn't matter what she wears.

Besides, ask your boyfriend, they are dating right?

You think she can't figure out if she should wear gym shorts or business casual?

I think she is asking for guidance because she's nervous, feels out of her element, and wants to make a good impression. I can't see why you find this confounding or offensive. Good for you if you've never once in your life been nervous about an event, even a teeny tiny one.

Of course I have been nervous about an event, speaking engagements, etc.

But the advice I had was, your overthinking it, you know the subject, relax.

Not OMG YALE AND MIT, YOURE SCREWED MAKE SURE YOU WEAR THE PERFECT OUTFIT.

It must be flats, if you don't wear flats he will definitely break up with you. oh if they see your shoulders call it quits. You all are crazy.

If she takes advice here she will look like a 50 year old women from the 90's anyway.

Yall don't know any MIT or Yale people me thinks.

Yes, she's gotten awful advice - she should not look like Working Girl. But she's probably not overthinking it - she's trying to code switch and that's not easy.

If she had the right outfit, she wouldn't be here asking. Have some empathy. And offer some ideas.

My in laws couldn't care less what I wear - thank goodness. But it sounds like that's not the case for her boyfriend's parents - or at least she's worried that's not the case. So she's just trying to navigate this new social class. Lucky you if you've never had to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The reality is that nobody cares what you wear. What do you wear to dinner with your parents?

It sounds like OP's family is way less formal/posh than her boyfriend's family. That's why she's having issues.

Okay but the reality is she is overthinking it.

If they are a-holes it doesn't matter what she wears and if they are nice it doesn't matter what she wears.

Besides, ask your boyfriend, they are dating right?

You think she can't figure out if she should wear gym shorts or business casual?

I think she is asking for guidance because she's nervous, feels out of her element, and wants to make a good impression. I can't see why you find this confounding or offensive. Good for you if you've never once in your life been nervous about an event, even a teeny tiny one.

Of course I have been nervous about an event, speaking engagements, etc.

But the advice I had was, your overthinking it, you know the subject, relax.

Not OMG YALE AND MIT, YOURE SCREWED MAKE SURE YOU WEAR THE PERFECT OUTFIT.

It must be flats, if you don't wear flats he will definitely break up with you. oh if they see your shoulders call it quits. You all are crazy.

If she takes advice here she will look like a 50 year old women from the 90's anyway.

Yall don't know any MIT or Yale people me thinks.

Yes, she's gotten awful advice - she should not look like Working Girl. But she's probably not overthinking it - she's trying to code switch and that's not easy.

If she had the right outfit, she wouldn't be here asking. Have some empathy. And offer some ideas.

My in laws couldn't care less what I wear - thank goodness. But it sounds like that's not the case for her boyfriend's parents - or at least she's worried that's not the case. So she's just trying to navigate this new social class. Lucky you if you've never had to do that.

Which brings us back the right advice.

If they are a-holes they don't care they will hate you, if they are nice it doesn't matter they will like you.

Ask your boyfriend what he thinks.

The advice here is bad, not something worth taking, wrong.

Pinterest is more helpful.

[Anonymous]

The dress code is basically the J-Crew catalogue.

A cashmere sweater with nice pants and loafers. If you’re comfortable in skirts, wear that.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

Yall have been troll'd.

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These are just EXAMPLES. But:
(1) top, slacks, nice flats, e.g. this outfit with the red pants, but don’t wear a cropped sweater. And obvi wear whatever color combo you like:
https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/pants/wide-leg/wide-leg-essential-pant-in-city-twill/BZ289?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=vintage-red&colorProductCode=BZ289

https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/pants/wide-leg/wide-leg-essential-pant-in-linen/BW528?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=flax&colorProductCode=BW528

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/westbourne-ponte-pants-winter-green/sty-r0477-olv?cat=C1_S2_G963

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/barnsbury-chino-trousers-navy/sty-r0489-nav?cat=C1_S2_G963

(2) skirt, sweater, heels:
https://www.jcrew.com/m/womens/categories/clothing/skirts/midi/pleated-pull-on-midi-skirt/MP149?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=natural&colorProductCode=BN757


https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/skirts/midi/sweater-tube-skirt/BV988?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=hthr-acorn&colorProductCode=BV988

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/isabella-cotton-sateen-skirt-rose-violet/sty-r0511-prp?cat=C1_S2_G13

https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/hampshire-ponte-skirt-hot-pepper/sty-r0453-red?cat=C1_S2_G13

(3) dress
https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/dresses-and-jumpsuits/elbow-sleeve-button-up-sweater-dress/BY505?color_name=holiday-red&N=SMALL


https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/long-sleeve-ruched-tea-dress-french-navy-spot/sty-d0832-nvy?cat=C2_S2_G4

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

This is better.

Though, it is winter. Maybe wear a sweater and pants?

[Anonymous]

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.ga...ge-content

With tights and flats or boots or low heels ok. With bare legs and styled as in the photo, I’d say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

[Anonymous]

I don't get why you are so conscious and confused. Dress nice in business casual and be yourself. You'll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

Okay. Would this work? https://www.stories.com/en_usd/clothing/dresses/knitted-dresses/product.belted-mini-knit-dress-green.1021468017.html

Or this with tights and boots: https://www.zara.com/us/en/striped-mock-neck-knit-dress-p02142035.html?v1=320056633&v2=2352752

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

Okay. Would this work? https://www.stories.com/en_usd/clothing/dresses/knitted-dresses/product.belted-mini-knit-dress-green.1021468017.html

Or this with tights and boots: https://www.zara.com/us/en/striped-mock-neck-knit-dress-p02142035.html?v1=320056633&v2=2352752

Yes! As long as the boots don't make it too sexy. Love that dress.