What to wear to meet boyfriend's parents?

[Anonymous]

I'd look at Boden. Young enough, but a dowdier Reformation that will please conservative parents, and is appropriate for church service.

This with a cardigan:
https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/corinne-midi-tea-dress-french-navy-geo-pome/sty-d0493-nav?cat=C1_S2_G4

This in a solid color maybe with a blazer?
https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/abigail-jersey-dress-navy/sty-j0493-nmy?cat=C1_S2_G4

This in one of the less flashy colors:
https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/ellen-ottoman-dress-evening-blue/sty-j0603-dbl?cat=C1_S2_G4

Heels or un-crazy sandals, simple jewelry. Small understated bag.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.dvf.com/products/new-jeanne-two-silk-jersey-wrap-dress-in-chain-link-medium-2022

Something like this is appropriate anywhere imo and you could wear tights and boots.

Love this dress, but I think pretty expensive for a 'meet the parents' brunch.

Yeah, but I feel like that’s a dress you could wear a lot. That cheap sweater dress will fall apart in a year or two. DVF silk jersey is pretty durable.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes I think Yale Club has a dress code or at least used to, and the parents will be used to that. I'd also dress like I'm going to church, but with a dress, not pants.

This.

Is this okay with black flats? https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/vince-camuto-long-sleeve-faux-wrap-dress?ID=4688997&CategoryID=1005208&sizes=RTW_CLOTHING_SIZE_T!!4%2C%20S

heh no

Okay, what about this? https://bananarepublic.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=841806002&cid=69883&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3AWomen%27s%20Clothing%3ADresses%20%26%20Jumpsuits#pdp-page-content

No - too dressy.

Okay. Would this work? https://www.stories.com/en_usd/clothing/dresses/knitted-dresses/product.belted-mini-knit-dress-green.1021468017.html

Or this with tights and boots: https://www.zara.com/us/en/striped-mock-neck-knit-dress-p02142035.html?v1=320056633&v2=2352752

Yes! As long as the boots don't make it too sexy. Love that dress.

^ I mean I think either of those dresses could work so long as they aren't too short/sexy with the boots. I love the & Other Stories dress, think the Zara one would also be fine.

Great, thank you so much!

I like both those dresses too with boots, and I have kids your age (and my DH is from of those old New England Ivy families - and his parents were surprisingly warm toward me, a laid back Southern California girl). Have fun!

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Anonymous wrote:Everything suggested sucks.

I think it's helpful to give general examples. Then OP can go to the mall and find something that meshes her style and color preferences with the general idea.

I think short dresses and skirts are best for dates.

I think OP needs a 22 year old frirr er nc to help her not 50 yo women on this site.

Lol. 50-year-old affluent women like us are who she's trying to impress.

If my future daughter in-law shows up in a cheetah print mini-dress with cleavage, I'll either know my son is deeply in love or he's lost his mind.

I agree this is a code-switching occasion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Everything suggested sucks.

I think it's helpful to give general examples. Then OP can go to the mall and find something that meshes her style and color preferences with the general idea.

I think short dresses and skirts are best for dates.

I think OP needs a 22 year old frirr er nc to help her not 50 yo women on this site.

BTW, miss coherent arbiter of style...what is a "frirr er nc"? Please tell us old ladies so we can stay hip to impress the youth!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything suggested sucks.

I think it's helpful to give general examples. Then OP can go to the mall and find something that meshes her style and color preferences with the general idea.

I think short dresses and skirts are best for dates.

I think OP needs a 22 year old frirr er nc to help her not 50 yo women on this site.

Lol. 50-year-old affluent women like us are who she's trying to impress.

If my future daughter in-law shows up in a cheetah print mini-dress with cleavage, I'll either know my son is deeply in love or he's lost his mind.

I agree this is a code-switching occasion.

I’d run as fast as I could if a woman like you didn’t like be because I very appropriately showed up in a miniskirt and sweater like every 20 something is wearing.

I’m also an affluent woman who just met my son’s girlfriend and I knew she would be nervous so I was especially kind, but I would never judge her dress, I’d also assume she was poor AF being a recent graduate.

Besides he went to MIT, she could wear a star wars tshirt and skirt and it would be fine.

Have you ever even been to Cambridge or a Ivy campus?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything suggested sucks.

I think it's helpful to give general examples. Then OP can go to the mall and find something that meshes her style and color preferences with the general idea.

I think short dresses and skirts are best for dates.

I think OP needs a 22 year old frirr er nc to help her not 50 yo women on this site.

BTW, miss coherent arbiter of style...what is a "frirr er nc"? Please tell us old ladies so we can stay hip to impress the youth!

You’re too old to understand.

I’m sorry if your little tiny feelings are hurt but all these recommendations are 🤮.

[Anonymous]

Clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd look at Boden. Young enough, but a dowdier Reformation that will please conservative parents, and is appropriate for church service.

This with a cardigan:
https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/corinne-midi-tea-dress-french-navy-geo-pome/sty-d0493-nav?cat=C1_S2_G4

This in a solid color maybe with a blazer?
https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/abigail-jersey-dress-navy/sty-j0493-nmy?cat=C1_S2_G4

This in one of the less flashy colors:
https://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/ellen-ottoman-dress-evening-blue/sty-j0603-dbl?cat=C1_S2_G4

Heels or un-crazy sandals, simple jewelry. Small understated bag.

Boden? Are you 12? You realize that no one over twelve wear Boden outside of nightgowns?

[Anonymous]

Yale club - no jeans, there have been many discussions. I think they removed the official prohibition, but it’s still a no-no. Certainly not in the dining room. No leggings, sweats, ripped, messy things in the lobby. I think you’re allowed to wear them on the way to the gym from your room. A dress that’s not too tight is fine - most of us look like the Talbots catalog. If dad is the member he’s going to be wearing a button down and a blazer, likely blue, with or without a tie. You will be fine.

[Anonymous]

If it helps, as someone who is closer to the parents in this situation I wouldn’t care what my kid’s partner wears as long as it’s not jeans or sweats in this situation (just because of the dress code).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The dress code is basically the J-Crew catalogue.

A cashmere sweater with nice pants and loafers. If you’re comfortable in skirts, wear that.

This OP! Don’t worry too much. Wear a nice knee length dress that isn’t revealing or wear pants with a blouse. 2-3” heels. A stylist at Nordstrom can whip up a perfect outfit for you Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything suggested sucks.

I think it's helpful to give general examples. Then OP can go to the mall and find something that meshes her style and color preferences with the general idea.

I think short dresses and skirts are best for dates.

I think OP needs a 22 year old frirr er nc to help her not 50 yo women on this site.

Lol. 50-year-old affluent women like us are who she's trying to impress.

If my future daughter in-law shows up in a cheetah print mini-dress with cleavage, I'll either know my son is deeply in love or he's lost his mind.

I agree this is a code-switching occasion.

I’d run as fast as I could if a woman like you didn’t like be because I very appropriately showed up in a miniskirt and sweater like every 20 something is wearing.

I’m also an affluent woman who just met my son’s girlfriend and I knew she would be nervous so I was especially kind, but I would never judge her dress, I’d also assume she was poor AF being a recent graduate.

Besides he went to MIT, she could wear a star wars tshirt and skirt and it would be fine.

Have you ever even been to Cambridge or a Ivy campus?

PP. Yes. Have been to 3 Ivy campuses recently. Coeds are pretty badly dressed everywhere.

I didn't say I would be mean to someone dressed badly (=cheetah print). Just that I know that's not my family's style.

I would actually prefer Star Wars T-Shirt daughter-in-law to sexy babe daughter-in-law. If anyone cares about my opinion, and I know it's not my choice.

I would, however, like to see a young person make an effort to dress nicely to go out to an expensive restaurant. Sexy clothes are for dates.

I sense there is a divergence on this board between preppies and trendies. The latter don't seem to accept that classic pieces exist and one can be open-minded about where to find them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything suggested sucks.

I think it's helpful to give general examples. Then OP can go to the mall and find something that meshes her style and color preferences with the general idea.

I think short dresses and skirts are best for dates.

I think OP needs a 22 year old frirr er nc to help her not 50 yo women on this site.

Lol. 50-year-old affluent women like us are who she's trying to impress.

If my future daughter in-law shows up in a cheetah print mini-dress with cleavage, I'll either know my son is deeply in love or he's lost his mind.

I agree this is a code-switching occasion.

I’d run as fast as I could if a woman like you didn’t like be because I very appropriately showed up in a miniskirt and sweater like every 20 something is wearing.

I’m also an affluent woman who just met my son’s girlfriend and I knew she would be nervous so I was especially kind, but I would never judge her dress, I’d also assume she was poor AF being a recent graduate.

Besides he went to MIT, she could wear a star wars tshirt and skirt and it would be fine.

Have you ever even been to Cambridge or a Ivy campus?

PP. Yes. Have been to 3 Ivy campuses recently. Coeds are pretty badly dressed everywhere.

I didn't say I would be mean to someone dressed badly (=cheetah print). Just that I know that's not my family's style.

I would actually prefer Star Wars T-Shirt daughter-in-law to sexy babe daughter-in-law. If anyone cares about my opinion, and I know it's not my choice.

I would, however, like to see a young person make an effort to dress nicely to go out to an expensive restaurant. Sexy clothes are for dates.

I sense there is a divergence on this board between preppies and trendies. The latter don't seem to accept that classic pieces exist and one can be open-minded about where to find them.

Nothing posted is “making an effort” it’s actually the way people dress when they’ve given up like you.

She’s 20 ish she does need prepped (ffs) or trendy. Preppy is not in, it’s what old ladies wear because they did when they were young.

[Anonymous]

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