Why do some people need so much novelty in relationships and sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I enjoy relationships and sex but not novelty. I would honestly just prefer to be with the same person for a lifetime going though ups and downs as long as they aren't being overly abusive to where we can't work something out over a period of time and be safe. Why do some people just prefer novelty? One man I met by age 30 had been with over 200 women and he was a perfectly nice guy at his workplace with no other issues beyond this sexual addiction. I don't even know where he found these women. Why are people so different like this?

Wait…having been with over 200 women is sexual addiction?!? I’m screwed then.

You wish you were, or would ever be, that screwed, pp. Dream on, tho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think some of it is unstable childhoods.

This^. Unhappy people feel unhappy, as singles and as paired.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a sex addict, I need to "release" the evil out of my system 2-3 times a week. It is more enjoyable if I spread that out over 2-3 women and self masturbation. Every time I try to be in a relationship I get bored and urges to step out after a very short time 2-3 months. I am a terrible long term boyfriend, but I am a great guy to hang out with, enjoy activities and have sex with. Don't ask me to marry you, I have no interest..........this does not make me broken just self aware and unwilling to change because there are many women out there who just need someone to spend some quality time with once in a while.

Release the evil out of your system? What exactly is this? You aren't evil unless you commit evil acts. Evil isn't something you release to feel better about. Evil just creates more evil.

lol you must listen to Howard stern. Get the evil out. And I know what you mean. Before marriage a little something new on Friday night was a nice way to end the week.

[Anonymous]

Friend has been with over 500 woman never cheated on any of his girlfriends and in the most loyal spouse you could imagine to his now wife.

[Anonymous]

Because humans arent monogamous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend has been with over 500 woman never cheated on any of his girlfriends and in the most loyal spouse you could imagine to his now wife.

Tells great stories when he's drunk, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend has been with over 500 woman never cheated on any of his girlfriends and in the most loyal spouse you could imagine to his now wife.

Was he in the NBA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because humans arent monogamous

You might be right. I'm a man who's never cheated, but I've also never been presented with the opportunity. Who knows what I would do...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend has been with over 500 woman never cheated on any of his girlfriends and in the most loyal spouse you could imagine to his now wife.

Its not going to last.

[Anonymous]

People who are used to variety, cheat. Monogamy is for people who only date one or few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I enjoy relationships and sex but not novelty. I would honestly just prefer to be with the same person for a lifetime going though ups and downs as long as they aren't being overly abusive to where we can't work something out over a period of time and be safe. Why do some people just prefer novelty? One man I met by age 30 had been with over 200 women and he was a perfectly nice guy at his workplace with no other issues beyond this sexual addiction. I don't even know where he found these women. Why are people so different like this?

Mental and sexual health issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Friend has been with over 500 woman never cheated on any of his girlfriends and in the most loyal spouse you could imagine to his now wife.

Tells great stories when he's drunk, too.

I have spent enough time with him to know it is true.

Watched him go through a whole family one day when we were on vacation Before lunch 1st woman was 27. When everyone else went to spa it was her 47 year old mom. While everyone was getting ready for dinner it was the 47 year olds younger sister, 45. We all met at a club after they had dinner and the 45 yo’s daughter spent the night with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Friend has been with over 500 woman never cheated on any of his girlfriends and in the most loyal spouse you could imagine to his now wife.

Tells great stories when he's drunk, too.

I have spent enough time with him to know it is true.

Watched him go through a whole family one day when we were on vacation Before lunch 1st woman was 27. When everyone else went to spa it was her 47 year old mom. While everyone was getting ready for dinner it was the 47 year olds younger sister, 45. We all met at a club after they had dinner and the 45 yo’s daughter spent the night with him.

For sport? dude needs a hobby. Also an sti panel.

[Anonymous]

I have adhd and need more excitement than the average bear, but I’ve only had 9 sexual partners.

[Anonymous]

Sex with the same person for life is just boring. I have a great partner but there's no getting around that after years and years it's just not the same level of excitement. We have kids so I stick it out because that's just how life is but I can't lie and say it's not boring.

I guess if it's hard for you to imagine try thinking about eating the same meal every day, that's what it's like.