50+ Women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious to the women experiencing dryness: what about lube?
—woman approaching 50

It's not just dryness, and lube doesn't cut it.

The structures in the genital area atrophy with age, even if you are on HRT. It doesn't stretch and absorb a pounding the way it did before the change of life. It really, really hurts to have PIV sex unless maybe your partner has a wee roll of dimes for a penis.

Yes, this. Atrophy is a thing. I thought the pain was going to knock me out.

Problem is, now men have viagra. Used to be there wasn't much of a cure for ED so married men and women could age together, sexually. Now they have viagra and we have no equivalent.

Get pelvic floor treatment. You don’t just need for sex, but to prevent a prolapsed uterus and utis. It’s not as easy as taking a pill, but it’s covered by insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:52 and I'm dry as the Sahara and have absolutely zero libido. Honestly, the thought of even French kissing my husband feels almost as icky as if he were a relative. It's astonishing to me because I was the high drive one in this relationship by far. But we grew far apart after having a child in our early 40's and honestly, he has changed so much politically and morally that I doubt we'd even be Facebook friends at this point if we weren't married and raising a kid.

Even if I were given a choice between a night with George Clooney, Brad Pitt, or Idris Elba, I can't even imagine feeling sexual desire. I'd definitely say yes for a chance to hang out with naked Idris Elba because he is such delicious eye candy and seems fun and interesting, but at this point the only physical contact I'd want is either a back massage or falling asleep on his chest while he pets my hair. No genitals need to be involved. It's like mine are just...permanently offline.

This is going to be me. I’m not even 50 yet and probably in perimenopause. I’m not interested at all in sex with Dh or others. We are not completely sexless. We still do it once or twice a month but I don’t really want to.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my late 50s and my partner says he's never been with someone so wet before. I squirt with PIV at times and that hasn't stopped at all. I still have an O very easily. I can't imagine not wanting sex regularly at this point in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late 50s and my partner says he's never been with someone so wet before. I squirt with PIV at times and that hasn't stopped at all. I still have an O very easily. I can't imagine not wanting sex regularly at this point in my life.

Consider yourself fortunate. None of us could imagine not wanting sex regularly, either- estrogen (or lack thereof) is a helluva drug. A 90 minute deep tissue professional massage is now my idea of satisfying sex, bonus points for hot stones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is your sex drive ?

Fantastic. Yes, I could definitely handle >50 women.
Bring it!

[Anonymous]

DW is on HRT. DH uses Viagra. Big deal! We have a close relationship and a sex life. That is the important thing.

[Anonymous]

RE: Dryness
Creme de la Femme, on Amazon Subscribe & Save, plus Vaginal estrogen to prevent atrophy (deemed "safe" by Gyn)
~ 60 y.o.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:RE: Dryness
Creme de la Femme, on Amazon Subscribe & Save, plus Vaginal estrogen to prevent atrophy (deemed "safe" by Gyn)
~ 60 y.o.

Is vaginal estrogen an RX?
--same woman approaching 50 as above, who is appreciative of the info being shared

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:RE: Dryness
Creme de la Femme, on Amazon Subscribe & Save, plus Vaginal estrogen to prevent atrophy (deemed "safe" by Gyn)
~ 60 y.o.

Thanks for sharing this.
What about the ability to orgasm? I have always been high desire and could orgasm easily but have just turned 45 and am noticing it’s a bit harder. I am having a hard time letting go of this ability as I age… Always inspired and reassured to hear from 55/60+ women who still have active sex lives.

[Anonymous]

Soon to be 54 and still have a strong libido. No pain or dryness. Last period in July. No HRT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my late 50s and my partner says he's never been with someone so wet before. I squirt with PIV at times and that hasn't stopped at all. I still have an O very easily. I can't imagine not wanting sex regularly at this point in my life.

Consider yourself fortunate. None of us could imagine not wanting sex regularly, either- estrogen (or lack thereof) is a helluva drug. A 90 minute deep tissue professional massage is now my idea of satisfying sex, bonus points for hot stones.

+1 that and sleeping through the night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soon to be 54 and still have a strong libido. No pain or dryness. Last period in July. No HRT.

+1 54 here. No issues. My last period was December so I think this is it. I don’t notice anything different except thank god my periods stopped…I’ll see if this is for good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:RE: Dryness
Creme de la Femme, on Amazon Subscribe & Save, plus Vaginal estrogen to prevent atrophy (deemed "safe" by Gyn)
~ 60 y.o.

Is vaginal estrogen an RX?
--same woman approaching 50 as above, who is appreciative of the info being shared

Slightly off-topic, but I just turned 50 and after feeling like my OB, who I loved during my childbearing years, was ready to put me out to pasture, I switched to a doctor I found on menopause.org. I’m just having beginning symptoms of peri, so dryness isn’t a yet, but I went to her and said “I’m living my best life and don’t want to be put out to pasture. What do we need to do?” And she was all over it. She walked through what to expect and said, just message me if you need the cream or anything else. Point is, I suggest you find yourself a good Doctor Who will see you through these years now when you’re not in a hurry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:53, 4 years into menopause. Very low drive, I occasionally dial up some classy erotic porn and have a nice wank, but to be honest I’m grateful to be free of the sex drive that compelled me for years to put up with so much male BS.

I am 40 and looking forward to this!

46 and already there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious to the women experiencing dryness: what about lube?
—woman approaching 50

It's not just dryness, and lube doesn't cut it.

The structures in the genital area atrophy with age, even if you are on HRT. It doesn't stretch and absorb a pounding the way it did before the change of life. It really, really hurts to have PIV sex unless maybe your partner has a wee roll of dimes for a penis.

DP
Probably some of the older women use toys to keep it in shape.