50+ Women.

[Anonymous]

53 and this is all just making me want to have as much sex as possible .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:53 and this is all just making me want to have as much sex as possible .

Almost 50 and yeah, same! Sadly, no partner and none on the horizon.

[Anonymous]

52 and I'm dry as the Sahara and have absolutely zero libido. Honestly, the thought of even French kissing my husband feels almost as icky as if he were a relative. It's astonishing to me because I was the high drive one in this relationship by far. But we grew far apart after having a child in our early 40's and honestly, he has changed so much politically and morally that I doubt we'd even be Facebook friends at this point if we weren't married and raising a kid.

Even if I were given a choice between a night with George Clooney, Brad Pitt, or Idris Elba, I can't even imagine feeling sexual desire. I'd definitely say yes for a chance to hang out with naked Idris Elba because he is such delicious eye candy and seems fun and interesting, but at this point the only physical contact I'd want is either a back massage or falling asleep on his chest while he pets my hair. No genitals need to be involved. It's like mine are just...permanently offline.

[Anonymous]

56 and libido is good! But I do use an estrogen cream, which makes all the difference with dryness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mind wants it but the physical desire has waned.

+1 that's me. It helps to read lerotica.

Recommendations?

[Anonymous]

ladies mentioning dryness — get an rx for vaginal estrogen! Its really hard to be into sex if you feel dried up. This makes you feel like 20 again

[Anonymous]

Not strong enough for 50+ women. At least not at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was fine until 56 or so, then my drive plummeted and intimacy became too painful to endure.

So what do you do? Divorce. I mean, how can your spouse stay with you if this is the case?

[Anonymous]

Curious to the women experiencing dryness: what about lube?
—woman approaching 50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was fine until 56 or so, then my drive plummeted and intimacy became too painful to endure.

So what do you do? Divorce. I mean, how can your spouse stay with you if this is the case?

What a sick mindset you have.

Just another thread reminding me how lucky I am that I never fell for the marriage trap and wasting one's life on a pathetic selfish man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious to the women experiencing dryness: what about lube?
—woman approaching 50

It's not just dryness, and lube doesn't cut it.

The structures in the genital area atrophy with age, even if you are on HRT. It doesn't stretch and absorb a pounding the way it did before the change of life. It really, really hurts to have PIV sex unless maybe your partner has a wee roll of dimes for a penis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:52 and I'm dry as the Sahara and have absolutely zero libido. Honestly, the thought of even French kissing my husband feels almost as icky as if he were a relative. It's astonishing to me because I was the high drive one in this relationship by far. But we grew far apart after having a child in our early 40's and honestly, he has changed so much politically and morally that I doubt we'd even be Facebook friends at this point if we weren't married and raising a kid.

Even if I were given a choice between a night with George Clooney, Brad Pitt, or Idris Elba, I can't even imagine feeling sexual desire. I'd definitely say yes for a chance to hang out with naked Idris Elba because he is such delicious eye candy and seems fun and interesting, but at this point the only physical contact I'd want is either a back massage or falling asleep on his chest while he pets my hair. No genitals need to be involved. It's like mine are just...permanently offline.

I love this post! (Except I'm sad that your husband became a MAGA idiot with age.)


Personally I would love to have Idris over for dinner, and George and his wife too! (I can live without meeting Brad.) I would get more pleasure from a long conversation with those three - Idris can bring a +1, too - than from any kind of sex.

I don't get the obsession with sex as we age. As far as I can tell, it's just one more thing that is driven primarily by the male ego and not the female. When I was in the worst of perimenopause before I got on HRT, I spent a lot of time in menopause support groups online and it broke my heart to see the posts from so many women whose husbands were being emotionally abusive of them because they weren't getting the amount of sex they wanted, and didn't care at all that the PIV sex was HURTING their wives.

The older I get the more grateful I am that I quit men in my early 40s. I'm sure there are some unicorns, but every day I read things on this board that make me realize my own real life experiences which weren't great were not as bad as they could've been - which was mostly because I never let myself get too entangled. As soon as that selfish, momma's boy entitled mindset rose to the surface - usually not long into the dating or relationship - I dumped them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious to the women experiencing dryness: what about lube?
—woman approaching 50

It's not just dryness, and lube doesn't cut it.

The structures in the genital area atrophy with age, even if you are on HRT. It doesn't stretch and absorb a pounding the way it did before the change of life. It really, really hurts to have PIV sex unless maybe your partner has a wee roll of dimes for a penis.

Yes, this. Atrophy is a thing. I thought the pain was going to knock me out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was fine until 56 or so, then my drive plummeted and intimacy became too painful to endure.

So what do you do? Divorce. I mean, how can your spouse stay with you if this is the case?

My vows said for better or for worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious to the women experiencing dryness: what about lube?
—woman approaching 50

It's not just dryness, and lube doesn't cut it.

The structures in the genital area atrophy with age, even if you are on HRT. It doesn't stretch and absorb a pounding the way it did before the change of life. It really, really hurts to have PIV sex unless maybe your partner has a wee roll of dimes for a penis.

Yes, this. Atrophy is a thing. I thought the pain was going to knock me out.

Problem is, now men have viagra. Used to be there wasn't much of a cure for ED so married men and women could age together, sexually. Now they have viagra and we have no equivalent.