Husband moved out
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Anonymous
I'm sorry what? |
Anonymous
OP should doublecheck DH has actually left. Attics, crawlspaces, utility areas and even large cabinets offer lots of hiding places. Havnet you heard the saying better save then scary. |
Anonymous
He had better damn well keep his job, and pay up! What a scumbag. Men are horrible! |
Anonymous
You think OP's husband or hiding in a cabinet? I literally cannot stop laughing. |
Anonymous
On the contrary I feel sorry for the person who wrote that. Clearly they have experience with a crazy person. |
Anonymous
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OP, I also worry about things like him causing a car accident and a victim going after all of your assets. Addicts are unpredictable.
Does he have life insurance? Do you have any local family? I think it's important to find work ASAP, I'm sorry, I know it's a LOT at once for you and the kids. When addicts walk away they often go on epic benders and you cannot count on him keeping employment. Family lawyers often do free short consults. Call a few in the morning and see who you click with. Once you have an income you will feel safer. Even if you had to sell the house and downsize, if you can support yourself and the kids, that is the best scenario. Any money he earns on top of that is gravy. Al Anon meetings and r/alanon may also be sources of emotional support. Alateen when the kids are tweens. You will come through this, OP. Hang in there. There have been lawyers mentioned in the special needs sub who are better in substance abuse cases, building in protections, supervised visitation, drug testing, etc. I'd search or make a new post there asking for names of lawyers. |
Anonymous
| ^ Not special needs sub, special CONCERNS sub. |
Anonymous
That’s weird. |
Anonymous
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A friend was in a similar position with a high earning addict spouse. He overdosed and failed to pay the premiums on his life insurance so she got nothing there, he also tied up a lot of their money in his business that she never managed to get back. She ended up a single mom with next to nothing.
Watch your finances, OP. Have a plan. |
Anonymous
| OP, many family law attorneys do short free consults over the phone, I'm sure you can speak with a few tomorrow. |
Anonymous
Protective orders op? Is he hurting you physically? If in Maryland reach out to the family justice center in Rockville |
Anonymous
IME, the consults were not free. |
Anonymous
Don’t expect advice from a free consult. It would be crazy for a lawyer to risk malpractice from that sort of situation. But it would be beneficial to find someone to talk to sooner rather than later. |
Anonymous
If this isn't a "let's make a man hating thread Monday" I don't know what is. What common sense person comes to DC Urban Mom and asks this question? Of course the first thing you do is contact an attorney if this is real. But, it's not real. |
Anonymous
Type up one page on the situation. Use bullet points. Include family members, assets, bank account balances, income of each, history of issues. Type up one page on what you need and want. Include concerns and what you want, but put down dream situation (house, kids 5 days a week and every other weekend) and put down willing to try but need strategy (50/50c you have right if first refusal and travel times, etc.). Half assets, put down annual budget for children’s costs (clothes, camps, fees, sports, sitters, vacations, etc.) Go do your 1 hour, $300-500 cash consults. Look up lawyers good with trauma. They will say so in their website. |